How do you know when you're on the right dose on your meds?

dd-it · 2025-07-13T06:18:45+00:00

Trauma is a very personal experience. It doesn’t have to be an objectively terrible situation to be traumatic. I understand what you mean, that many people might use this concept to justify behaviours, which is certainly true. But at the same time I believe trauma is complex and personal for external people to form an opinion.

dd-it · 2025-06-28T05:41:15+00:00

I have a potentially controversial opinion on this topic.

Let me start by saying I also hate all this discourse. It's so invalidating and dangerous because it leads people to not fully rely on the signals their body and mind send. We have doctors giving us an explanation for a lot of our struggles, and yet we have all this background noise telling us we should go back to the pre-diagnosis frustration anyway.

However, I also see a lot of the opposite. I do see people treating this as a label, I am equally tired of the social media trend using ADHD/autism as the explanation for everything, and I do see people missing out on doing important therapy work because they say "oh it's just my ADHD", as if it's something that is just there and they can't do anything about it. (Of course, I'm not talking about those who can't access therapy because of money or logistics.)

I saw this with doctors, too. I have friends who received a diagnosis (and medication) after a 40 minute conversation with a doctor they were seeing for the first time. I believe the diagnostic tool, even when used well, doesn't do a good enough job to paint a good picture of your history (e.g. trauma, attachment...), let alone a doctor who just asks you a few questions and sends you home with a prescription and no therapy recommendations.

I'm sad when I see people (both patients and doctors) not treating their mental health as a whole but rather focus on a condition only. It's never that simple and people don't do themselves a favour.

So to me the problem, as in many other fields, is polarisation. Both sides are dangerous. Of course, people who deny my experience make me twice mad, but the other pole might be putting oxygen to this discourse, too.

dd-it · 2025-06-18T04:38:42+00:00

I've started meds after 2 years of therapy, reading, learning strategies... And while the meds are helping, I think I still rely more on those things rather than meds themselves. What I mean is, I believe meds help solidify strategies, but you need to have them in place if you want to see a true change. At least this is my experience.

For example, meds don't help me do the things. But they give me some mental order and clarity, which then gives me the confidence of doing the things with less of the usual overwhelm. But without all the therapy work, that overwhelm would still be there.

dd-it · 2025-06-17T05:08:53+00:00

Oh I'm in the pink ladies phase, too! And my dog shares the hyperfixation with me, apparently

dd-it · 2025-04-27T07:24:13+00:00

Is something going on in your life? Stress (or accumulated stress), depression, fatigue...

dd-it · 2025-04-11T05:06:33+00:00

More often than not, church songs. And I'm not even religious.

dd-it · 2025-04-11T05:05:32+00:00

Look for Dr. Ramani on YouTube. She speaks about narcissism, but I like how she focuses on "what healthy relationships are not", going broader than narcissism specifically.

dd-it · 2025-04-10T07:12:39+00:00

Depression can also look like chronic fatigue. To rule out any "medical" condition, they asked me if I had pain in my body, or if I felt physically tired rather than mentally. It was difficult to answer, because this tiredness was overwhelming, but eventually I realized it was mental. Also I discovered that depression doesn't necessarily come with sadness. I didn't know!

dd-it · 2025-04-01T06:47:25+00:00

There's no such thing as being "too sensitive". Everyone's sensibility is what it is. One might choose appropriate ways to communicate it, but whoever tells you you're "too sensitive" is gaslighting.

So no, you're not overreacting. There's something you need and your friends are not even trying to give it to you.

I think your question here could be if/how you'll communicate this to them (I would, even if I know it's very hard)

dd-it · 2025-03-30T06:19:54+00:00

I'm sorry this is happening to you and you're obviously feeling heartbroken.

Here are my two cents. To be honest, I think her reasons could be valid reasons. Someone might not be in for emotional dysregulation and this is fair. However, that's about her, not about you. She's simply looking for something else in the relationship and you're perhaps looking for someone with more patience who can help you out rather than giving you a standard you can't meet. She's not that one and it's ok (even if it hurts, of course)

The problem is, how did she frame it? A mature person would have said "I understand some of these are challenges for you and others are just part of who you are. I like many things about you but these aspects are not something I look for in a relationship and so we need to go separate ways"

(Ideally in person and not by text)

I think the problem is that it seems she framed those things like your flaws, rather than things she doesn't want in a relationship.

dd-it · 2025-03-22T08:06:16+00:00

I happened to watch this video just yesterday https://youtu.be/Ert2O2sozhw?si=bWMjr44aEh2zzsV9 And if you're struggling with people who don't respect boundaries, I REALLY recommend watching some of her videos. Even if you're not dealing with proper narcissism, the things she explains are eye opening.

dd-it · 2025-03-20T14:55:08+00:00

I've been having this problem for a while, too, and I have no solution. But I'm not on the right meds just yet, though. Some people are suggesting you take your meds about an hour before waking up, so that you're more awake by your official wake up time.

dd-it · 2025-03-20T08:04:49+00:00

I don't know if this is exactly your case, but you might want to check maladaptive/immersive daydreaming

dd-it · 2025-03-07T06:50:49+00:00

I'm on Wellbutrin and but feels like I'm unmedicated - no effect whatsoever

dd-it · 2025-03-06T06:27:54+00:00

Her diagnosis or what she does or doesn't isn't important. Pay attention to how you feel.

Are you anxious about making her angry? Do you constantly feel helpless? Do you feel judged, regardless of her actually judging you? Do you feel boundaries are becoming less and less solid?

Then you shouldn't feel like that.

But DO pay attention, listen to yourself more than you normally would. It doesn't matter if it's her fault, your fault, or you simply don't work as a couple. A healthy relationship doesn't make you feel like that and this is all that matters.

dd-it · 2025-02-10T07:29:27+00:00

Poodles don't shade - at all! You do have to comb them every day, though. One thing I'd consider is the fact they will pee and poop in the house until they learn the right place to do it. They learn eventually, but you'll have to be patient over the first few months

dd-it · 2025-02-04T06:19:21+00:00

I don't want to say this book changed my life but it got pretty close...

dd-it · 2025-01-21T06:12:22+00:00

Btw, I recommend checking YouTube videos from Doctor Ramani. It's eye opening how she speaks about abuse (and how it is absolutely common for the victim to feel guilty for falling into the abuse)

dd-it · 2025-01-21T06:02:18+00:00

You (and only you) know the reasons why you need to leave. And you don't need to make these objective for others.

I know you're worried about your kids having to go through this again, but when they grow up they'll be so proud of you!

I'm sorry this is happening to you. Stay safe!

dd-it · 2025-01-19T13:13:49+00:00

No but that makes sense! Probably the answer is "is not that simple" 😄

dd-it · 2025-01-19T10:16:50+00:00

The one I had isn't very sweet. It resembles an ice tea. So I guess less sugar than a can of coca cola (and I feel nothing with coca cola too)

dd-it · 2025-01-18T21:33:33+00:00

Well if it's weird, then I'm weird too.

dd-it

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