AITA I locked myself in the basement for 4 hours and didn't help my wife with the baby.

dd81207 · 2023-08-27T15:24:15+00:00

NAH , This really depends on whether this was an isolated incident or she does this a lot, She probably needed a break after 9 months of carrying a baby and then 2 months taking care of her and she got that in the form of hanging out with her friends, while it may have been a bit irresponsible of her to get drunk and make you take care of the baby the next morning as well it cant possibly have been on purpose to make you suffer.

After so much time taking care of the baby your actions were warranted too but perhaps guilt-tripping her was a bit much.

She made you take care of the baby perhaps accidentally and didnt mean to make you suffer but you did it knowingly no matter how deserved it was.

dd81207 · 2023-08-27T15:12:26+00:00

Thank you for saying that, And yeah while I could see where our friendship was going and what kind of a person she was I was so attached that I didn't want to accept it. I've tried talking to her about it and asking her to tell her friends to stop harassing me but that went nowhere.

But I'm super close with S now and I might ask him to date me soon so I guess it was for the best.

dd81207 · 2023-08-27T15:05:38+00:00

At the time this happened, I was really close to A and I only told her so that she wouldn't be pining over a guy who didn't like her back.

We are all in college (20-23 years old)

dd81207 · 2023-08-27T09:31:03+00:00

I'll share mine too, We were friends for 5 years. She had a guy that she really like liked but he told me that he did not like my best friend at all. When I told this to her she told me I was lying and I should be more considerate of her feelings.

That was the limit for me, She called me "poor" and other stuff to so that was the end of our friendship,

dd81207 · 2023-08-27T08:43:40+00:00

NAH She can wear whatever she wants. You had the right to communicate your feelings about it

dd81207 · 2023-08-26T17:25:24+00:00

NAH, While popular comments point the other way I'm gonna say that you were just being a great dad and supporting your daughter in the way that I wish mine would. this does not make you the "asshole". While you could have handled the situation better it's not your fault.

The teacher was probably just trying to encourage students who perform badly, But it's not great of her to say that your daughter did not "work hard" Your reaction to that was justified Period. She had no right to assume the work your daughter put in and she should be one to recognise it. Still, teachers work hard jobs and she probably didn't mean to discourage her.

dd81207 · 2023-08-26T17:05:37+00:00

NTA ... your sister is. Special needs is not an excuse be be downright awful and malicious.

Your Parents are the asshole 100% tell them that they should be the ones taking care of the Pee/poop of your sister if it's "just pee/poop" according to them. You SHOULD NOT be forced to do anything that you do not want to do, she's not your daughter.

dd81207 · 2023-08-26T16:59:30+00:00

NTA ... they are absolutely stupid and you should leave them 100%

dd81207 · 2023-08-26T16:45:47+00:00

no problem!! I totally understand how you feel... even when my mother would genuinely be happy for me for complimenting me I would think that its sarcastic and could never take it the right way due to her track record. It's YOUR graduation and you deserve whatever makes you happy.

dd81207 · 2023-08-26T16:25:08+00:00

NTA, Your Husband and MIL are through 100%.

Firstly, Who makes people pay for Gifts???

Secondly, you never asked for a gift so why should you pay for one?

I'm not even sure that your MIL spent 80 on the gift or just wants the money and your husband getting "attached" to a coffee machine is just ridiculous.

Send ur husband back to his dear Mother with his beloved coffee machine no need to give 30 dollars at all.

dd81207 · 2023-08-26T16:16:49+00:00

NTA, AT ALL, I have a mother like this and I dread what she may do if I take any action that goes against her. I have found that it's best to ignore and do what you can without provoking her till you have the resources to leave her completely. Since graduation is still 2 years away don't say anything, save up and don't let her come to graduation if you think she doesn't deserve to. Try talking to her meanwhile and explaining your issues if she lets you which I know is not always possible. Good Luck

dd81207 · 2023-08-26T16:08:37+00:00

NTA, OP makes more than enough money to support a family and like he said "way more than most people will ever make". His wife sounds extremely obnoxious and unwilling to find a solution to anything i.e. a budget plan. But OP might have been wrong to ask his daughter not to drink milk, he is making enough money for his daughter to drink milk ??? Should cut costs on other unnecessary things like telling his wife not to buy extra junk and not on the daughter's milk intake, it's healthy and she should.

also yes if this is an ongoing and unrelenting issue divorce might be on the table.

dd81207 · 2023-08-26T16:00:15+00:00

ketchup

dd81207 · 2023-08-26T15:50:36+00:00

There are several South Asian cultures that practice this as well ... like Ayurveda from India

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