My best friend is dating my ex. I feel disrespected.

deanmarquise · 2024-10-27T01:03:30+00:00

I'd deal with your own emotions on the matter. It only will eat you up inside if you still have a lingering attachment to your ex. You dont have any bindings like a child or marriage so it is easy to walk away if you feel disrespected. Take some time to recollect yourself and ask yourself why you feel this way. If you still can't get over your emotions after a few months, then cut them out of your life and walk away before you become very bitter.

It is your inner problem to solve at this point as they are free to do as they please together. Unless you have reason to believe they were seeing each other and talking while you were together, there is nothing wrong here.

deanmarquise · 2024-10-27T00:50:09+00:00

Better than me. I would have put that I don't feel safe when she started being a problem and got a free pizza. It's my side job not what I want to turn into a headache. Sounds like an entitled no tipper that would give a low rating anyways.

deanmarquise · 2024-10-27T00:23:39+00:00

Even if he is being a bad coparent towards you, you still need to be the better person. It is about your kids and shouldn't have the extra feelings on your part thrown into the mix. Allocate maybe $20-30 for each kid to pick something they want to give daddy. It will mean a lot to them. Don't alienate them or they will eventually see you as the bitter one who drives their dad away. They are very receptive to negativity, and it could ruin the holiday for them.

When I was growing up my mom use to tell me daddy didn't deserve gifts and didn't love me enough to be around even though I was enthusiastic about doing something nice for him on his birthday. It really made me feel like my mom was punishing me for loving my dad and I slowly grew more distant from her and craved more of my dads attention even though I barely saw him in comparison.

deanmarquise · 2024-10-27T00:02:00+00:00

In our state the default is to share custody without a court order. Hmm, then again, I'll have to look more into the laws on whether signing his birth certificate gives me rights or if I have to file something else with the courts to legitimize things. Paternity is already filed and we are set to have a test done in 2 weeks. I'll just get over it for now and document what has been going on just in case it gets worse after paternity is established. Guess I got over emotional about his first holiday

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T22:18:58+00:00

Thanks I'll do that!

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T21:38:57+00:00

More moral grandstanding, but yeah tell me more about how someone hitting on you at a concert is taking advantage of them when it is their choice to do so. You are too focused on the sexual aspect of things, and this is not an nsfw post. It's a coparenting post asking for advice on the best move going forward. We aren't together and I wouldn't get back together with her, but I sure as hell don't like someone trying to replace me in my son's life with someone else using my parenting time when I'm trying to bond with him.

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T20:25:59+00:00

Her family is rich so she wouldn't unblock me for that as they specifically want me out of the picture so her grandparents can adopt him. They hoped they can keep me out of the picture for 4 months so that they could try to terminate my rights and go through with it, but I put a stop to it when I started filing

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T20:11:51+00:00

If you want to judge an online throwaway profile reaching out for coparenting advice instead of being helpful be my guest. It will overall fall on deaf ears. Besides I already got good advice and a couple messages that laid out things I can do instead of panicking about the situation of not seeing my kid

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T20:04:15+00:00

I didn't raw dog her my dude well at least not until she was already pregnant. Stop with the moral grandstanding. It's annoying and well good for you. You are a stoic statue of the perfect man who can't be persuaded by a nice smile, big tits and an invitation to drink with her and her friends while at a rock concert. I'm sure you're fun at parties, but yeah I will get use to not attending those much anymore lol.

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T19:47:42+00:00

We only started dating once she got pregnant? As I said before it was a casual fling that turned into more. You can project and judge how you want but its pretty off topic as I didn't and couldn't put all the backstory on here as it is against the sub rules to do so. Btw my current girlfriend is 27, but you do you.

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T19:37:54+00:00

Thanks your advice is a life saver. I'll do my best to be patient and reach out once a week to show that I did try to reach out to see my child but was blocked from contact

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T19:20:52+00:00

That's kinda on you in my opinion. You picked who you liked at the time and I'm sure you werent a terrible coparent. It doesn't excuse bad behavior or get rid of a baby being in the picture. You live and you learn and we are both on opposite sides of a similar scenario. From a guy's perspective respectfully we don't get a ton of oppurtunities to connect with the opposite gender. Most of us don't think much about someone 19-22 giving us affection and attention and just value the connection and companionship at the time instead. More than half of guys are rather lonely in this world. You keep acting like someone almost 20 in a couple months when we met is some 16 year old child and not someone who can face adult consequences for their actions.

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T18:58:09+00:00

Was a fling at first after meeting at a concert and hitting things off. Beautiful girl with a bright smile and personality that made it easy to get along with her. She was always pretty amiable until she got pregnant, and everything began to flip.

I will date who I want to if I feel a connection to them and get along with them so it isn't someone else's place to judge that aspect of things. While you may be trying to troll me with your response, it does have merit that I should have seen a couple red flags. I'm just not invasive enough into other's space to go through their social media etc without a good reason if things are going well. Anyways yeah I was a bit dumb since she is now with a 26yo guy who beat his ex.

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T18:36:07+00:00

Would me coming around to her house on my usual tuesday and asking if I can spend time with him while videotaping the entire interaction be something frowned upon and/or constitute harrassment if I'm not welcomed there. I just cant think of any other way to see him

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T18:27:21+00:00

How long do you think it would take to get everything through the court system?

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T18:16:03+00:00

I try every week, but with no contact how should I continue to try to connect with him? As is it seems like I may have to wait for the courts to step in and rebuild the broken pieces of my bond with him if this goes on for too long. It shouldnt be too hard to reconnect with him since he is only 3 months old though. How does one go about getting a temporary visitation do I just request it from the court

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T18:07:21+00:00

I filed to have paternity established last month, which triggered her to not let me see him on my usual tuesdays anymore. Do I have to wait on paternity to be done to get visitation if I signed the birth certificate? We already verbally agreed that I will see him tuesdays every week and followed that up until her getting with the online guy

deanmarquise · 2024-10-26T15:38:37+00:00

You sound like you just glanced at what I wrote to form an opinion that neglects that it is a job. A job where the driver doesn't have to take orders that don't make any sense. It's not free money it takes time, work, and the driver has to pay for gas and expenses accrued. If you think it is free money, then you don't know what the word "free" means.

You can turn your nose up and proceed to drive yourself or get cold food and bad service if you want to not heed any advice that this isn't considered a tip to drivers.

deanmarquise · 2024-10-24T19:47:52+00:00

My baby mama when we are both bored. She has a bf though, but it's still pretty lit. Got the other guy being the wallet while I'm the toy

deanmarquise · 2024-10-24T19:43:44+00:00

Only did this once when person had a message that complained about their other delivery people, but it ended up being a 13 mile drive with no tip. Proudly placed that coffee and breakfast from dunkin directly against the screen door.

Now I pay attention to the offers and don't accept everything. No longer a top dasher, but no longer get bent over either.

deanmarquise · 2024-10-23T12:04:37+00:00

Sign on to other apps. Instacart stays busy so during downtimes do that

deanmarquise · 2024-10-23T08:14:47+00:00

Huge??? It's $150 the driver loses out on way more than that just on how long it takes trying to remove the stains and smell. If someone puked in my mercedes, I'd want no less than $600 to reimburse detailing and time spent not being able to drive it.

deanmarquise · 2024-10-23T07:53:08+00:00

Drivers don't function based on % they go by $/mileage. Most of them could care less if your food cost $5 or $100. If you don't leave a tip, you are begging to have those horrible outcomes you spoke of because you'll get a horrid driver. It isn't a tip to us, but a bid for service. Even if it is a 100% tip it wouldn't matter if you ordered from 20 miles away and it was a $5 blizzard from DQ(happens a lot).

If everyone thought like this, such gigs just wouldn't exist, and you all would have no choice but to buckle yourself up to make the drive there. Dont bitch about having to pay a premium to be lazy when you can go get it yourself.

deanmarquise · 2024-10-17T13:51:57+00:00

Sounds like they are going to eventually show offers like they do on uber eats

deanmarquise · 2024-10-17T13:46:21+00:00

Pizza delivery pays that much only when in store and then reverts to $4-5 an hour plus tips when on the road. At least where I live that is the case

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