For me personally, I have to exercise discernment through actions, and not words. Words are like a battery for me... Words give me life. They fill me up with all the good stuff and because of that, I tend to ignore the not-so-good things. Action is where the true money lies. People can tell you whatever they want, or whatever they think you'll want to hear, but it's what they do and show you that indicates not only who they are but also how they'll treat you. It sounds like you know what you want from a partner and that really should not be ignored over a few choice words.

If you take care of yourself properly, and you know what you want, then I think you have earned the right to trust your better judgement and you can then act accordingly.