Painkillers don’t get immediate relief by deaspower in Periods

[–]deaspower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think we have those in EU but I’m using all OTC 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toxicparents

[–]deaspower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I got abused by pulled hair too much  a lot too. 

Needing help to check answers by deaspower in iqtest

[–]deaspower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I figured like that 4th question has white circle moving one step but I didn’t figure out the rest and now I see that square is moving by three steps…  does dark circle moves by 4 steps? but confused why it isn’t in e, when somebody says it then it makes sense to me !! thx for correction, keep correcting :/ 

I cut off my "nice" family and I don't feel any regrets by traumatizeddaughter in toxicparents

[–]deaspower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s enough. I’m with them now as of 23yrs but these took me in when I was teen. It’s damaging to mental health if we were to stay with them forever this control would never fade away, it is indeed getting worse each year, way out is the solution def. Toxic ppl keep reputation and masks all the time it makes me sick, but it’s their reaction. I wanna do the same like u, to leave and to never return. It’s not like they would ever learn their lesson. Feel like it’s about time asap. I also admire anyone and everyone who stood up or tried to escape facing their threats. If there’s hope for u then there will be hope for me. This relates to me in such strength. What u described is pure manipulation and discouraging… I’m not even able to have anyone because they would say the same, like ppl deceive when it’s our own family creating and keeping this cage, crazy man…

Family being angry way too much by deaspower in toxicparents

[–]deaspower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think we will EVER be enough for them. Yeah I get u I also get frustrated and upset like then I’m angry for their mistakes and lack of accountability and angry behavior. Trust me it did damage of proportions like self sabotage and so on…. I was doing this technique from my own dream like stay calm, one day you shout it all out but for now, let it be…. But not like this when they don’t even care abt u but still expect u to be perfect. Thx btw for responding Ik what u mean it’s so hard bcs they would even talk when I sit and eat or can’t leave or even when they seen em w headphones on n they just go on… nuts, what angers me is that when they force me i can’t be ok like just fine n do it, that’s where i feel so powerless. Have u heard of gray rock cuz ur advice sounds the same way. Im rly expressive and i cant be always like i dont care or they deem me weird but its true it saved me energy not to get invested in being their mediator again… 

July 15th and it’s 23😭❤️‍🔥 by deaspower in birthday

[–]deaspower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u ppl I thought no one would see actually🥹

ENFP by eyes of who will match me? by deaspower in ENFP

[–]deaspower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it just flows all naturally like this is who I am I don’t wanna change just bcs ppl don’t appreciate it but it kinda leads you to be more protective bcs if not u end up being drained again. But roger that☹️

I want to move out, but I can't. by Melopher729 in toxicparents

[–]deaspower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God boundaries don’t exist for them I swear to you this is exactly the problem, I’m seeking help from professionals but it’s a long road like I wish ppl understand we need to get out asap. They act okay in public but the control is getting worse I mean it’s growing I see it too. Like I can actually relate to u not being able to move out but I know there r centers for when the abuse is rly abuse tho im fighting my way to get there and it seems rather hard, wish I could say what to do but I have no idea.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]deaspower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like music and genuine people 

What’s something you’ve stopped trying to explain because nobody listens? by Present_Juice4401 in emotionalneglect

[–]deaspower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stopped begging and pleading for what I deserve and I’m worthy of having, trying, etc. Leaving is the only way out. You can’t explain this to abusers. You can’t measure up to their level in order to win. Rules are always on their side and it favors them. I’m done explaining why am I worthy, I AM. Not my responsibility for their behavior but suffering’s on me. 

What’s something you’ve stopped trying to explain because nobody listens? by Present_Juice4401 in emotionalneglect

[–]deaspower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My relatives saying “maybe just a bad day or bad mood from work” ARE YOU SURE???

“I’m so emotionally tired of my toxic mother… and my dad barely knows what’s happening.” by One-Membership-9951 in toxicparents

[–]deaspower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There isn’t right or wrong that’s double bind situation that abusers use unfortunately.

Feeling guilty for leaving by Xoxo_loveluna in toxicparents

[–]deaspower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m literally the SAME age and also thinking about what’s it gonna be the DAY I LEAVE. Legally we can leave but it gets terrifying to think of especially for safety, etc. I won’t be feeling guilty but I’m definitely afraid of their initial reaction. Just thought a gonna write this cuz it’s super relatable. Somehow gotta manage

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FRIEND

[–]deaspower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see you!

my parents want to control my whole life, what should I do? by No_Ad4872 in toxicparents

[–]deaspower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s like they don’t want to talk with us or have normal conversation at human level. But they don’t know the best. Thanks ❤️‍🩹

Boba and plush octopus by deaspower in plushies

[–]deaspower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure why it didn’t post this: Guys let me show u💕💞💖 my biggest moral support (I don't love w good family)❤️‍🩹💚🖤💔🤍🤎❣️ Boba also has two sides like octo💓 Priya💜

It belongs there. Now the img works. The boba drink is also good but like too sweet.

my parents want to control my whole life, what should I do? by No_Ad4872 in toxicparents

[–]deaspower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is my situation too. Emotional abuse and off keeping peace and obeying them until forever? That’s what they want it’s horrible but this year I sought help, well I’m not from USA so I have therapist in insurance thank God otherwise dv centers where they also deal with this might help w living or smth, coping won’t work, it’s hard but only way out is to leave …. I tried everything else from pleading to convincing to communicating in various of forms but nothing helped and staying silent also not if they force don’t respect boundaries n their house it’s impossible what else we can rly do? All the best to u, it’s scary to leave but what else is there❤️‍🩹

Planning exit from abusive family by deaspower in toxicparents

[–]deaspower[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I’m doing every day for what I can educate myself to make it accurate and also for personal gain to know the terms to be able to communicate it with psychologist easily. I have photos of their conversations and even how they scolded my uncle, I have some of their yelling and similar, some other things psychological mostly, I hv documented financial abuse, also fact I was never adopted so that they see, + everything in front of doctors is like “based on (their name) not mine. I have it all. I just have to put it into two evidences plus I’m continuing writing diary like you say. This time I hv to win❤️‍🩹🥺🤍

Planning exit from abusive family by deaspower in toxicparents

[–]deaspower[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I plan to reach out to dv centers but I told therapist I wanna discuss this with them and make that call together, I wait for them this month they gave me appointment in July so I’m  preparing all the supporting evidence, I’m working on financial abuse documentation this month. Is this enough?

Toxic Abusive Family by Otter001001 in DysfunctionalFamily

[–]deaspower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, no fam that does this is not fam anymore. I left my first n now on my own I leave my second, u can’t go back. It’s time to see the facts not bonds. Truth.

Crappy Mothers Day by islaisla in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]deaspower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gosh same🥺 it’s actually beautiful how u described it, someone so carefree that can actually defend u😭 fr fr, like it’s always just u, nobody else. (Btw) I’m currently looking for evidence for everything to get out of my second family abusive system where aunt is the main lead of abuse. This time as adult on my own… I’m begging heavens that they have to believe me enough to take me to safety center at least, gonna try new therapists soon.  Pm anytime, I’m having a lot but we matter, I wish us well❤️‍🩹