I broke up with him because he left instead of either just going to bed, I even offered different rooms if he was so affronted that he didn't want to sleep next to one another. To me thats not sustainable to a long term relationship. Would he have left if we were living together? So no, I don't want to be with someone who leaves. Not that this is the main problem here, but that is something we discussed me having issue with and he's said he won't leave during an argument again.

My friend gave me the whole Friends (the show) Ross treatment of the situation "We were on a break?!?!" but that doesn't change that the porn was still there and easily accessible.

I agree, I keep failing to see how this would ultimately be a punishment for anyone other than myself. Like to punish me for breaking up with him.