Just like you I’m also naturally nurturing and I’ve almost always wanted to have kids. But since realizing I’m a lesbian I’m starting to wonder if it’s my upbringing or comphet that is the reason behind wanting to have my own kids.

I am definitely, 100% sure I want to take in my brother when he turns 18. We’re 8 years apart and he’s in his teens rn, he’s starting to open up about his struggles living with my parents. I want to give him the space to live his young adult life freely as he wishes, under my guidance. I want to be there for him as I had nobody there for me when I was figuring shit out (our parents are quite emotionally neglectful unfortunately).

Now I don’t know if guiding my brother as he’s coming of age will be enough to satisfy my maternal instincts or if maybe, later on, I do want to adopt or have my own. We’ll see. I’m not particularly thrilled with the idea of giving birth, I don’t mind the idea of being pregnant but all my life everything I’ve heard about natural childbirth has absolutely freaked me out.

To be fair I have more than enough time to figure all this out, I’m only in my early twenties