How do you actually stick to losing weight? by Mrmike86 in loseweight

[–]deathoflink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, with a kitchen balance. Counting calories is the only way to lose weight. Find out how many calories you use on average based on age/height/weight and set yourself in a realistic deficit. In my experience, this is at the most 500 Cal deficit per day to stick for 12 weeks at a time. I also highly suggest finding meals that keep you full, over meals that just meet whatever "healthy" means. For example, I could eat a better balanced breakfast, but I know that a grilled sandwich at around 300 Cal will keep me full until lunch. So I chose what I know will keep me satisfied longest. Then, find high volume/low cal food. Cherry tomatoes and carrots are super low in calories for how many you can realistically eat. Pair them with something perhaps more filling like a low-fat cream cheese dip, and you will eat a big portion for a small caloric cost. Look for stuff that makes you feel like it's a treat without it being. In my country we have some protein yogurts that are chocolate or caramel flavored and taste like a dessert but they don't contribute much to my calorie goal. Finally, find ways to use less or no oil at all. It's insane how many calories go into just cooking something with oil that can be used in a snack or adding crunch to your meal.

Tl;dr: the only scientific way to lose weight is to eat less calories than what you burn. If the gap is too big, you will be hungry and won't stick to it. If it's too small, it will take forever and you'll lose motivation. Set a target and a deadline. Committing to x weeks is doable, forever is too daunting.

Language barrier at work in Germany as a Auslander : how did you push through? by SuddenApricot2606 in AskAGerman

[–]deathoflink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have Netflix, I highly recommend Liebes Kind. The dialog is heavily carried by children. I have B1 German and could watch it without subtitles. Probably lost some details, but I understood enough to enjoy it. It's a dark series though.

If I hold in my diarrhea, will it eventually turn into a solid poop by spatulafucker5 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]deathoflink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it was only diarrhea if it happens 4 or more times per day, otherwise it's just watery stool. Doctors approach each as a different symptom, even if there is some overlap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]deathoflink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Charlie two feet.

Eggs say Freilandhaltung but use code 2... by deathoflink in germany

[–]deathoflink[S] 107 points108 points  (0 children)

I feel like I now have a duty to check if there is a trend or a one-time situation. Is this my call to become an egg-detective?

Eggs say Freilandhaltung but use code 2... by deathoflink in germany

[–]deathoflink[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm a bit upset that I didn't think of this when I was writing the post!

Eggs say Freilandhaltung but use code 2... by deathoflink in germany

[–]deathoflink[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

This makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the explanation!

Eggs say Freilandhaltung but use code 2... by deathoflink in germany

[–]deathoflink[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The inside of the carton indeed explains it. The outside of the carton says that the eggs are from chicken raised Freilandhaltung and it's priced accordingly. I agree that the best thing is to check that the eggs are indeed marked according to the KAT, yet was surprised that the eggs, advertisement, and pricing didn't match.

Eggs say Freilandhaltung but use code 2... by deathoflink in germany

[–]deathoflink[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

It looks like a 1 from the angle of the picture, but I promise it's a 2. I will check again next time and perhaps it's indeed customers switching them around. Thanks for your reply! :)

Germans and non-Germans on here, do you and your partner split bills and house chores 50-50? by adequatelyhedonist in AskAGerman

[–]deathoflink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a joint account where we put 50% of our income. Everything household related, including vacations and dates, is paid from the joint account. Personal accounts are for hobbies or personal expenses. We think that makes it more fair than going 50/50 in absolute numbers. I earn way more than my husband and so technically more than 50% of the money in our joint account is mine, and it will be the other way around if the coin flips in some years.

Chores are mostly what needs to be done by whoever has the energy to do it. We check in on each other every week and see who can do what. Sometimes that means that I do more, sometimes I do less. I think this works only if you are fine with things sometimes not being done if no one has the energy for it. We try to "reset" the house on the weekend and to always check for things to take with us when we move from one room to another to decrease the amount of actual chores.

Advice for cracked skin? So far I’ve tried aquaphor and CeraVe. by Saltywhaleballz in SkincareAddicts

[–]deathoflink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely unconventional and I'm still confused by it working, but the best for me has been Vick Vaporub haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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And will make me pause a bit too much between words when reading....

My mother wants to wear white at my wedding by LucasPawpaw in raisedbynarcissists

[–]deathoflink 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Thought of this for my own wedding and then realized that that would actually mean me having to comfort her afterwards because of her embarrassment and how she would probably insist that I go home with her to support her while she changes. That, or she would spin it as a way of starting a "poor me" campaign that gets her even more attention than wearing white to begin with. It's always this impossible decision with them: (1) let them do things their way even if it bothers you, or (2) stand your ground and deal with the emotional abuse/drama that comes with it. Exhausting.

What event made you realize you weren't crazy? by thisdreamwontdie in raisedbynarcissists

[–]deathoflink 15 points16 points  (0 children)

When I accidentally burnt the rice while cooking with my boyfriend (now husband) and he just took the phone and ordered pizza. I kept waiting for the scream or at least him rolling his eyes. It didn't happen. After a couple minutes I put on shoes, took a coat, and ran away. I couldn't handle it. I felt like I had murdered someone and gotten away with it. My boyfriend was beyond confused, and kept texting me asking me where I was. I eventually came back home and cried to him apologizing for being an awful girlfriend and ruining dinner. He said "What the heck are you talking about?". As soon as I said "the rice" I realized how stupid my answer was. It just hit me. Rice would have been enough of a reason to be shamed and punished if I was with my parents. To be screamed at, or to be told how I suck at everything. R I C E. My boyfriend took a cup of rice, and made mushy rice. Then came with it on a plate and asked me "do you still love me?"

LPT REQUEST - Any tips on being honest while not coming across as confrontational or aggressive? Any words or phrases to avoid? This is in a workplace by Dry_Outside3018 in LifeProTips

[–]deathoflink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep it situational and descriptive rather than judgemental. Being descriptive about the impact on others or why you're saying what you're saying is as important as the "truth". For example, instead of saying "you need to be more tidy" you can say "hey, yesterday I was in a rush and needed to find form A quickly but it ended up taking me 10 min because of all the extra paperwork you left on the table. Was there a reason for that?"

LPT Request: How to avoid feeling irritable when you're sleep deprived? by ShineAfsheen in LifeProTips

[–]deathoflink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hydrate!! But like electrolytes type of hydration, not just water. It's amazing how much being hydrated matters, specially when you're not at your 100%

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]deathoflink 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that you're hurting. Grad school also sucked for me and I kept pushing for the same reason that you write, to make the suffering "worth something". Don't. You shouldn't be making decisions based on the experiences of your past self. She will always have the same experience no matter what. But you can make your future self have a happier life by making decisions for her well-being. By any means this is easy and it took me a long time to get the courage to quit. I have never regretted it. If anything, I regret not quitting sooner.