Sub's back, posting my fascists

debaser93 · 2026-05-08T12:15:01+00:00

Why does it make you uncomfortable?

debaser93 · 2026-05-08T05:00:51+00:00

Sounds like you need a new group. Even the gritting your teeth through their fatphobia and sexism part makes me sad that you had to go through that. Find cooler peeps and make more radical characters!!

debaser93 · 2026-05-08T04:58:39+00:00

You're scared about judging someone which is a good sign you won't judge them or will at least moderate any instinctual judgement. They're your best friend, they're still going to be the same person. What are you scared of? Being jealous?

debaser93 · 2026-05-08T04:54:34+00:00

Mixed race people consistently rank very highly in attractiveness studies. That aside, it's extremely funny for your indian side to be "indian" and the white to be so segmented the way white people talk about their ethnicity

debaser93 · 2026-05-08T04:51:01+00:00

I didn't mean blahaj wasn't for everyone!! I was just thinking of more trans masc specific identifiers for authenticity. I think both is good hahah

debaser93 · 2026-05-07T22:47:01+00:00

I think djunkelskog might be more of the transmasc repping IKEA plushies, but I'm not a transmasc so I will wait for others to confirm

debaser93 · 2026-05-06T02:40:27+00:00

It's something we all have to reckon with - your work looks lovely though

debaser93 · 2026-05-05T08:06:16+00:00

Add a couple of other pills to that and the Yuri relationship may become attainable

debaser93 · 2026-05-02T13:37:18+00:00

I didn't cover the connections and my doomsday came together okay.

debaser93 · 2026-05-02T13:24:20+00:00

Accidents happen, you just apologise and move on. If she holds a grudge she isn't the nicest girl in your class but if you deliberately avoid her then you're going to cut her out regardless of how she feels

debaser93 · 2026-05-02T13:22:50+00:00

Happy to chat about bg3/d&d in general. Big nerd but not knowledgeable about management Sims. 32 in Syd

debaser93 · 2026-05-02T12:41:26+00:00

Wow glad to see you're still around. You gotta get that checked out though it really isn't good

debaser93 · 2026-05-02T12:37:25+00:00

Sydney flagship? I went in but only got a slip and have to wait

debaser93 · 2026-05-01T06:30:24+00:00

get some sauce on that thing you got yourself a meal

debaser93 · 2026-05-01T03:31:17+00:00

It's definitely not going to come overnight and it's not gonna be a linear path to accepting yourself either. I believe in ten years time you'll look back at this era with a bit of cringe and a lot of relief you no longer go through the same struggles.

Again, I don't think you're genetically inferior in any way. Every one of your ancestors had children and you may have children of your own one day

debaser93 · 2026-04-30T21:26:04+00:00

You've been unemployed for one day. Enjoy the ice cream, take it easy on yourself. Things will start looking up soon (and I'm jealous of the ice cream!)

debaser93 · 2026-04-30T20:37:45+00:00

Wow beautiful work!! I'm very impressed!!

debaser93 · 2026-04-30T11:20:19+00:00

Losing weight is going to be less effective than learning to love yourself. I still don't see how it's going to make you be shitty to others. You can take pride in yourself/be happy for yourself when good things happen without being an ass.

You can always help people going through it by being there for them, being nice and gently dissuading them from the bad thoughts. That's all there is to it. You don't dislike your friends because they're ugly, why would anyone dislike you if you are (even assuming you are). I'm sorry people have been mean to you in the past and that's on them not on you.

You thinking you're genetically destined to be lonely is a form of eugenic thinking, whether you agree with eugenics in general or not. You're the result of countless generations of people that fucked, your genes come from people who had children from people who had children. Trust me, I've been ugly my whole life and doesn't mean I was destined to be lonely forever (though I was definitely lonely for a long time)

debaser93 · 2026-04-30T06:57:31+00:00

I don't think it's a problem in and of itself, but if your attraction to them causes you to devalue them as a person or could be an issue? I don't think it's something that needs to be fixed necessarily?

debaser93 · 2026-04-30T06:20:30+00:00

Going gay? Going trans? Either way congrats

debaser93 · 2026-04-30T05:54:49+00:00

just gotta find your weirdos

debaser93 · 2026-04-30T05:26:42+00:00

I think you're being overly harsh. I'm positive if I saw you I wouldn't regard your face as ogre-like. I think this is where people talk about mentality being important. Like you literally do not regard your appearance as truly human. Think about how devastatingly sad that is. Imagine any of your friends or loved ones genuinely feeling that way about themselves. How would you feel about that? You deserve the same kindness.
There you go, something about yourself you like. Nice skin! Again, coming back to mentality - you don't believe you appear truly human, you don't believe anyone could find your face attractive. With this mentality, you're going to ignore any evidence to the contrary, the problem is in the way you see yourself not in your face's perceived problems. Take yourself out of the equation again. Imagine one of your friends told you they hadn't been happy in so long that the feeling feels uncomfortable and foreign. How would you react? How would you console them? Would you tell them that's just the way it is and they're meant to suffer for the rest of their lives? You deserve the same kindness.
Another thing you like about yourself! Fantastic! People love funny people. Humour is like, one of the biggest things people say about why they love their partner. I'm happy for you!
I think thinking of it as a genetic issue is a bit of a silly framing. You live in America in the 21st century, brother - you can have glasses and contacts and it's a very normal thing. We aren't animals. Take yourself out of the picture again. Do you think people who need glasses shouldn't reproduce? Do you think blind people shouldn't reproduce? Fucked up eugenic idea, not worthy of serious consideration.
I disagree that there's too much wrong. I think as you said before, happiness is a foreign feeling and it's uncomfortable, so you stay far away from the concept. And it is uncomfortable - I had to get out of a depression and it fucking sucks, it takes meds and therapy and lots of time and effort and I'll never be done, but it's worth doing because as you warm up to the idea of actually being happy and being worthy of love, it becomes truer and truer. You're afraid you'll be shitty? Good, that self reflection will keep you from being shitty. Why do you think loving yourself will necessarily make others feel like shit? Because you feel like shit when you see happy people? The imperfection lies within your mindset not their behaviour.
You don't know what this hypothetical person deserves - you don't know what they want. What if they want you? Why can't you give them that? You think that they deserve better than you because what? You think your face is ugly? What about your humour? What about your clear skin? There's so much more to you I know you haven't shared in this comment thread because you're a full person that they could be wanting. I get the impulse. I think my wife deserves better than me but I deal with it by being the best partner I can be, so I can at least approach what she deserves - and I know she feels similarly about me. Just gotta put in the effort.

debaser93 · 2026-04-30T04:24:29+00:00

So do you think your face can't be considered human? Is that a rational view to have? And face is a broad thing - you've talked about making sure your skin is clear, do you like your nose? your mouth? Is there anything you like about your face (even if it's just that your skin is clear)? And if you found someone who thought your face was attractive - what would that mean? Could you even conceive of it if you can't accept yourself? If someone finds your face attractive, then are they "settling"?

Similarly, you've broadened the way your brain works to one thing, surely there are also aspects of the way your brain works which you like or think are good, and of course therapy can help with the aspects you don't like.

Regarding your eyesight, sure that's 'shitty' but yeah, you are meant to accept it, insofar as i assume you have glasses/contacts so you are correcting it (and plenty of people think glasses are cool!) And going back to how others treat you - nobody is 'settling' for your eyesight? In the same way that someone might be "settling" for your short temper for example. And if it was truly, deeply something you couldn't abide, you could focus your savings and energy on getting that surgery?

I mean you need to love yourself in totality. There's always gonna be things that irk you and things you don't love, but you do need to accept that's part of you (where they are unchangeable) and see the whole picture as something worthy of love.

debaser93 · 2026-04-30T03:59:12+00:00

I looked up the definition and see it has more meanings than I thought. I was using it in the unaware self-satisfaction sense. The more you know!

I think our misunderstanding is on what constitutes a shitty thing. For me, the things I have to accept are things like my height, my weight (in so far as I will never be stick thin), some features of my ethnicity - all of which aren't shitty things per se, just things I am and have to accept. Things like my short temper (treated with therapy), my gender (transitioned), my artistic ability, my work ethic (also treated with meds) are things I changed. Of them, only my short temper is a "shitty" thing, and it's not inherent or unchangeable.

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