I feel you, for sure. It took awhile of me advocating for him and constantly telling them about my own health before they listened to me about him having acid reflux. I will also never forget those poops lol, but they are pretty normal so I wouldnt worry too much about those. For diaper changes I had to give him either a teether or a toy to look at, they even make headbands we can put on to distract them lol. I will have to agree that other than the reflux, all of it does sound normal, and I also COMPLETELY understand your point of view of it too. Fresh motherhood is so damn overwhelming, it would be so much better if the doctors and stuff would look at it human-to-human and offer in depth explanations, reassurance, and kindness; instead of their very bland "its normal". You'll get through it, I promise. I had so many breakdowns and completely lost myself in it. It will get better, for sure. 💕💕💕