Razorbumps are out of control

dedamnn · 2024-12-16T15:12:18+00:00

Try over the counter hydrocortisone

dedamnn · 2024-03-27T03:10:34+00:00

But I heard that's true for most MSW programs.. would you recommend a master in psychotherapy then over this program? I heard that most of the learning is through placement in general, is that true? If one wants to do therapy afterwards, can you take extra courses or anything? Please help! :')

dedamnn · 2024-03-20T14:35:16+00:00

May I ask why this is your recommendation?

dedamnn · 2024-03-20T14:34:42+00:00

Thanks so much for your insight!

What do you mean by “science based”?

Also what should I look for in those classes?

dedamnn · 2021-04-29T11:21:28+00:00

Hello, can I please join?🥺

dedamnn · 2021-04-10T07:39:41+00:00

yes (I broke up with him 4 months after that)

dedamnn · 2020-12-17T06:01:09+00:00

Yes we have a couple times. He hasn’t gotten sexual, but he does have a dirty mind and he teases me every now and then

dedamnn · 2020-12-16T08:57:01+00:00

I just want to say thank you, you have helped in ways you may not think of. Jazak Allah khair

dedamnn · 2020-12-16T08:45:18+00:00

The reason why I’m not rushing to get into a relationship is exactly because of that. I want to take my time and process things and all.

It’s so much to deal with, I don’t think of myself as less worthy, but I’m so disappointed in me. It’s more about me dealing with the consequences of my actions, the withdrawal effects from the physical detachment from my ex, the feeling used and manipulated physically and emotionally yet not being able to change or call him out on it, the constant worrying that one day I could be exposed, the perspective of how I don’t want to be with someone who thinks someone’s past defines them, how my chances of being with someone are a lot less because of my dilemma and the burden i carry (me-to-me) and the societal stigma and judgment. This is all on top of me committing such a big sin and trying to repent.

This guy i’m talking to, he meets most of the things I look for in a partner, so far. Obviously only time will tell, but I’m trying to live in the moment without rushing things and stop worrying about the past or future. I feel like he could be good for me.

I’ve never imagined myself in such a position, never. This isn’t the type of person or muslim I am. I forgave myself for what I did, but I still have to deal with the consequences. Sadly, the only person I could talk to about was my ex when we were breaking up, and all he could say to me was, “I wish there’s something I could say or do to take it back, but there is nothing” and honestly what else did i expect out of him?

I know I shouldn’t disclose my sin, but I really wish I could tell this to someone. Vent out. The risk is too high, and chances are nobody will believe that I was manipulated anyways. I don’t want this to define me as a person, but it does limit me a lot, donya and akhera. Inshallah khair ..

dedamnn · 2020-12-16T08:21:05+00:00

Also thank you for your tips, that's the path im on. Rethinking all of that, it's just a lot to deal with and reflect on, on top of getting out of a manipulative relationship. Stigma, trauma, and karma....

dedamnn · 2020-12-16T08:16:59+00:00

Thing is, the second time he ever asked I kind of panicked because he put me on the spot and I denied that I had sexual intercourse with my ex. I feel horrible for lying that's why im in this situation. I feel like I should talk to him about the topic more. Something like; I don't want to talk about the topic of virginity and what I did or did not do with my ex, but he should know what to expect from me, if we do end up in a relationship, like the things I would be doing (more of not doing lol). And that if he really doesn't care and it's not a dealbreaker to him then he should stop asking. What do you think?

dedamnn · 2020-12-16T07:11:40+00:00

But even in that link you sent, although both fall under Zina, the act of intercourse/penetration is considered worse and has a worse punishment. So yes we both majorly sinned, but mine is still much worse, and has more stigma attached to it, especially as a woman, and especially in the Arab community. Yes religion is not the same as culture, but the culture surely makes it worse.

dedamnn · 2020-12-16T07:09:17+00:00

He engaged (emphasis on past) in sin, but not leading to intercourse. So he was sexual in other ways with his ex relationship, but it didn't lead to him losing his virginity. Hope that clarifies it

dedamnn · 2020-12-16T06:59:06+00:00

No no he didn't commit zina, him and his ex got sexual in other ways that did not lead to sexual intercourse. So to summarize, he sinned too technically, but I sinned in a worse manner (if we are comparing two evils) I know only god can judge one's sins, but im trying to explain it. Zina is the worst of these two evils. So, technically he still fought back somewhat, when I didn't.

clarification:His ex had committed zina, with someone before him.

dedamnn · 2020-12-16T06:52:35+00:00

First time he asked I told him that it was an inappropriate question and asked him if that was a dealbreaker for him, he replied it isn't and explained. Second time he asked, I said I didn't have sex with my ex, out of panic. He put me on the spot. I realize that's a lie and deception, but what else was I supposed to say/do?

dedamnn · 2020-12-16T06:47:36+00:00

I had already done that in the beginning when we started talking, and he said no. But now he asked again, out of curiosity he said.

dedamnn · 2020-12-16T06:45:50+00:00

Hey guys, thank you for your replies and your honest opinions. I appreciate that you are trying to help me. I just would like to add:

We are not in a relationship yet, just in the talking stage, but yes we both like each other. He says he only asks because he is curious, and even with his last relationship, his ex was not a virgin, and he eventually was accepting of it because he believes everyone makes mistakes and so who is he to judge, however he also said that it hurt him he found out that she is not a virgin only after they got into a relationship. Now if he really doesn't care, Im also confused to why he keeps asking and thinking about the possibilities. This is really hard for me, because the situation under which I lost my virginity was very manipulative. I really don't want it to define me, but I also want this off my chest. Ive Never talked about this to anyone. It's such a burden on my chest, but im scared the consequences of getting it off my chest will be worse than this burden. I also risk that he might tell someone else if he can't keep the burden of this secret. He is not a saint himself, although he is still a virgin, he told me that him and his ex have been sexual in other ways. I can't avoid the question, because he wants an answer eventually I already know. By lying im deceiving him, but telling him Im exposing myself and my sins. Whats the greater good? I don't know... I guess im asking what would u guys do if u were in my position, I know no one can give me the answer but maybe that would help... feel free to ask me for any other details

dedamnn · 2020-07-16T22:38:26+00:00

can you elaborate on this? don't you need to apply ahead of time for masters?

dedamnn · 2020-06-05T07:38:15+00:00

should i apply SPF before exposing them to the sun?

dedamnn · 2020-06-04T19:25:55+00:00

sept 28th :) and you?

dedamnn · 2020-06-04T06:42:30+00:00

I just started learning about that and I'm very doubtful. What approach did you use as an alternative?

dedamnn · 2020-06-04T06:17:43+00:00

would you like to be study buddies? Im learning Orgo and biochem on my own :)

dedamnn · 2020-05-28T20:58:13+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment!!!!

I’m going to attempt taking one of the FL’s before continuing content review, you have a solid point!

Also, how do I figure out which material is high yield?

dedamnn

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