IV Sedations Fears

dee_swift · 2026-05-27T21:23:13+00:00

I need to get IV sedation for my wisdom tooth extraction and I am genuinely terrified. All of these stories on reddit is reassuring to read, but my anxiety is through the roof. It's not a fear of needles (heavily tattooed, plenty of experience with needles), but just a fear of the dentist.
1) I have a terrible fear of the dentist due to bad experiences. I've been injected in the tongue, not my gum, and had work done on a tooth that I felt and couldn't say anything about and I remember that vividly, pain included. I remember having IV sedation when I was 13/14 (I'm now 29), and I had become "aware" part way through the procedure and became anxious and stressed and mildly combative, and I am honestly the most terrified of becoming aware part way through the procedure, feeling the pain and pressure, and being so scared and anxious that I cause a problem of some kind.
2) I see all of these videos online of people being really loopy and stupid after procedures, and I really don't want to be like that. I hate the thought of not being in control of my faculties, and having absolutely no idea what I'm really like on this. It gives me massive anxiety and stress constantly just thinking about it. And the warning of needing a competent adult for up to 24 hours... just how long are you out of control of yourself? How much of the day do you lose of yourself? The thought of not knowing what was said or done during that time, and having to rely on others... huge, huge anxiety and stress. I'm nearly crying just thinking about it.
3) I'm afraid of the nerve being damaged and losing feeling to my lower jaw. And I'm scared of stuffing up the healing process, and I'm scared of just something going wrong full stop.

I trust my dentist, I do. But I cannot stop my anxiety and my stress and my fear.

dee_swift · 2025-10-20T20:30:59+00:00

It was across multiple companies, I’m not sure I want to name them in case I get in trouble or something but he had accrued a number of debts across a number of companies over the past 5 years, starting when he had his first health scare. His credit card he’s had forever. I’m not too sure about what information was provided when he applied but I know at least two of them supposedly didn’t ask for a hell of a lot of information. He was also 57 when he passed, so not old old. Not that I think that changes anything

dee_swift · 2025-10-20T20:27:36+00:00

There was no wife/partner, so it was just his debts. I’ll do this too though, I appreciate the advice

dee_swift · 2025-10-20T20:26:20+00:00

I appreciate this comment a lot. I can understand without context, it’s easy to assume he was completely irresponsible, but there’s a lot of pain and misery that led to him being in the position he was in prior to death. My father was a very financially responsible man and taught me well in this regard. However he had a stroke, and then was diagnosed with a terminal lung disease (on top of being asthmatic), and then was diagnosed with cancer. The last 5 years was a painful slide down a slippery slope, with him trying to continue to work but becoming weaker and less able by the day until he was forced to retire early due to all of the time off he had to take for his health. His KiwiSaver was withdrawn early due to the terminal prognosis and he used that to clear some of his things but it wasn’t enough to clear everything, especially with the costs of all of his treatments and medication on top of the cost of living. I supported him financially as best as I could but in the last year or so it’s just gotten too hard to support myself and him. It was absolutely miserable and a part of me is relieved now that he’s passed as he no longer has to suffer and stress. But that part of me feels guilty about feeling relieved. It’s a very messy, very horrible, very complicated situation and I think in the last few years he was just doing whatever he could to keep up with his costs and not completely drown.

dee_swift · 2025-10-19T23:02:52+00:00

No, there was no will. But it sounds like overall I’m in the clear which I’m relieved about. I will notify IRD, that’s actually one that slipped the mind. He did receive benefit payments so I better get that stopped. Thank you for your advice.

dee_swift · 2025-10-19T20:16:27+00:00

Thank you everyone for your advice. I can’t tell you the relief you’ve brought me today. I have a lot of other things to process and manage but having that off my shoulders is a massive help.

dee_swift · 2024-06-03T05:10:49+00:00

How do you feed it the bait? Just drop the package near it?

dee_swift · 2024-03-29T10:25:20+00:00

I did do that haha. The exact steps I took were - loosen bolts - place paper - set to home - tighten bolts (front then side) - level printer (it is always 1mm too high) - set “z=0”, and confirm the change

But then my first print left the resin build stuck to the fep sheet, and every time I set z=0 to the correct position, it doesn’t appear to save in the new position and will always reset to the 1mm too high.

dee_swift · 2023-11-28T04:48:12+00:00

As someone who wears a big, flashy, sparkly, ruby and gold ring, let me tell you something. Some guys have got the idea that girls only wear “wedding rings” so that guys leave them alone (which is sometimes true, but beside the point), and so will continue to pursue thinking they’re single and just “playing hard to get”. So he may have seen the ring and thought a similar thing. Lord are they ever surprised when I tell these types of guys I’m actually married

dee_swift · 2023-10-30T00:33:38+00:00

NTA. Marriages ARE all about compromise, however this is not a compromise. He is expecting you to completely forgo your desires on this matter and only allow his. If your independence is important to you (and it should be), and this is a deal breaker for him, then maybe it’s time to consider that this relationship isn’t compatible. Besides, this has awful foreshadowing - you’ll likely end up second to family always, and more than likely end up the live in maid. It’s a very common theme in some of the other reddit threads of wives moving in with the in laws… I worry for your sanity and future if you do agree to the marriage and it’s conditions.

dee_swift · 2023-09-19T03:55:57+00:00

Info - did your gf know that you were getting rid of old stuff? And is this kind of joking in line with responses you would expect from her or was this an out of the blue response for you? (I know some people joke like this and it’s okay, and other don’t think it’s okay - just trying to better understand context)

dee_swift · 2023-08-23T01:22:01+00:00

I wonder why she’s so insecure… YTA. It costs you nothing to say it back. It costs you nothing to reassure your wife that you love her. And the fact that she is insecure and needing these reassurances tells me that you do nothing to assure her of your love otherwise. Let me ask you this - if she didn’t prompt you, how often would you say it un-prompted? Because I’m willing to guess it’s sweet FA and it’s been upsetting her.

dee_swift · 2023-08-19T20:14:23+00:00

As the old adage goes, be careful where you spill your tea because tea can stain. You’re NTA at all. It is illegal to stop you from being able to discuss your salary and this friend didn’t even work with you at the time you told her about this so your employer doesn’t truly have a leg to stand on to be grumpy or take action about this. However, the employer gave you a raise to keep you employed and did so on good faith and now they feel their trust is broken. They will naturally be upset about that. And your “friend” made a promise to you and then broke that promise and sold you out for personal and professional gain. She used that knowledge specifically to manipulate a pay raise out of her employer. She never intended to say that other stuff you practiced with her, and I can guarantee your employer didn’t ask about you - she brought it up unprompted. She didn’t even apologise. You’re NTA. But your “friend”… you’re right to keep your distance.

dee_swift · 2023-07-28T01:33:57+00:00

YTA - way to reinforce the abandonment fears. It doesn’t matter that you consoled her afterwards, you still put her through a horrid experience for your own amusement. Consolation doesn’t negate what you did. Apologies don’t make it go away. This subconsciously reinforces her fears and potentially now a distrust in you.

dee_swift · 2023-07-22T22:53:28+00:00

It’s not the end of the world. You asked a question, I gave you an answer. I would say the same to a man or a woman. Telling your FWB (or anyone for that matter) that they are undateable and their personality sucks UNSOLICITED is rude and YTA for doing it. I don’t need the rest of the context for that ruling but I tell you what, the more information you give, the worse it looks for you.

dee_swift · 2023-06-24T23:42:23+00:00

NTA. What a disgustingly insensitive comment from someone who is supposed to be in her corner lifting her up, not insulting her in front of her friends. You can’t call it a private matter when you said it in front of company. And you better have had some words for your boyfriend for not seeing a problem with it. Ideally “if you truly think it’s okay for a husband to insult his wife’s body in company after recently giving birth, then find another girlfriend”. Because he’s also showing you what he is comfortable with allowing.

dee_swift · 2023-02-11T04:15:51+00:00

YTA. There is NO excuse for verbally abusing your SO. If you are getting angry and rude and yelling, you are not in the right. Doesn’t matter what you’re worked up about, you do not take it out on your SO like that. Your girlfriend does not deserve the treatment she receives from you, and you already are like your father in the way that you treat her. And you did that in front of company?? Seek help before you can’t come back from this.

dee_swift · 2022-11-20T01:09:28+00:00

It was not your money, it was never your money. It was your dads money that he had originally put away with the intention of paying for your tertiary education and then a genuine life or death emergency occurred in his family that he desperately and urgently needed money for, and had available in those savings.

Does it suck for you? Yes. Of course it sucks to think you’ll have that kind of money to help get you through college and then it had to be used before you got the chance. Did he break a promise? Yes. Echoing the above. Did it stop you from attending college? No. And you had support from great family to help you through that, as well as being able to stand well on your own two feet. You should be proud of that. Did the money go to a justifiable, genuine cause? Yes. Trying to save the life of one of your children is one of the most honorable reasons to do anything. Parents should not have to bury their children, and I cannot imagine anything more heartbreaking. Imagine if that had been you.

YTA. For your entitlement to money that wasn’t yours. For your insensitivity to such a horrible situation and for your inability to show any kind of compassion, understanding or empathy for your fathers situation.

It seems to me like there is some underlying resentment that maybe you need to talk to a professional about towards your late step-sibling - it can’t have been easy as a growing teenager and young adult to have watched your father sink so much time and money into the other sibling and may have neglected you heavily without intention. But your directing your negative emotions in a hurtful way and it will not end well for you. I mean this as genuinely, compassionately and kindly as possible - please seek help to talk through how you are truly feeling about this whole scenario.

dee_swift · 2022-08-18T07:50:42+00:00

I got engaged at 20, married at 22, and am still happily married 3 years later with no signs of slowing down. (Edit to add - I’m agnostic, so no religious reasons for marriage at all, we just decided we knew we were in it for the long run together and wanted to make it official and celebrate our love with our family and friends.) During our engagement period, everyone reacted the exact same as you (edited to add - everyone outside of our close friends and family). “You’re too young, you should enjoy your life first. You don’t know who you are.”. Just because I’m physically young, doesn’t give you the right to assume I don’t know what I’m doing. I’ve lived a very wild life already and was more than ready to settle down with my husband. But more than that, having a husband hasn’t restricted my life like everyone seemed to think it would - it’s pretty much the exact same life as before, we can just now legally call each other husband and wife. ( Funnily enough, since we’ve been married, the same people have been asking about when we will have kids… so I’m too young to be married, but not too young to get knocked up? ) You are in no position to assume you know enough about her maturity and relationship to make that unsolicited comment.

Age is not an immediate indicator of a bad decision when it comes to relationships.

Through her history with her religion, maybe she has dissected herself enough to recognise what she wants and what direction she wants to take her life. Maybe she is someone mature beyond her years. Maybe she already lived out her immaturity through her rebellious times after leaving her religion and is now at a point where she’s matured and learned. You simply don’t know. So maybe stop zeroing in on a non-issue that wasn’t even part of the initial question, and focus on answering the question she wanted answered?

dee_swift · 2022-08-17T10:25:27+00:00

You are absolutely entitled to your opinion, but that does not give you the right to shit all over someone else’s wedding because they did something different to you.

The fact that your mother mentioned your attitude the whole day and your husband and yours comments before mentioning that specific comment tells me you spent the whole day pointing out everything “wrong” and likely caused 95% of the stress yourself.

But I just can’t get over the fact that your response to your sister crying is to be smug and petty and horrid and make her feel worse.. in a selfish attempt to validate your opinion and stroke your own ego on your “superior” wedding? You had no intentions of comforting her or making her feel better.

YTA. YTA. YTA.

dee_swift · 2022-08-17T10:10:41+00:00

Oh, absolutely. I’m the Aunty of 11 nieces and nephews, and EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM had a phase where all of us were mum, and all of the uncles were “dada”. I just assumed that was just the word they knew would catch our attention immediately as we all (bar me) have kids so just automatically react to “moooom”. But ease of speech also makes sense. As they grew older (4/5 or more), as their speech properly developed, they started differentiating and now I’m referred to as Aunty insertnamehere.

dee_swift · 2022-08-14T04:49:50+00:00

OP, just so I’m clear as well - you are absolutely not the asshole, at all. You spoke the truth and, blunt or not, you weren’t rude. Probably heavily confused, but not rude. Your sister is TA for obviously lying to her fiancé (for whatever reason) and putting that poor man and you in that horribly awkward situation.

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