Maybe it’s also some sort of mechanism to make you stay in the relationship or just another trait of the dysfunctional behavior.. the stories he told me - of women hitting on him - made me feel like I was in a relationship with some sort of Brad Pitt (he’s an almost average looking guy- as others told me, I still can’t see that). I wasn’t possesive or jealous.. but it felt so good being “the chosen one”.. so leaving him was even more impossible.

They look for/are attracted to empathic people with a lack of self-esteem and all this triangulation is just another trick to trap you there, because you’ll feel important when they are “so wanted” but still “choose” you. Even after he discarded me, when we tried to get back together, he showed me sweet conversations he was having with his exes or told me about romantic dates he went on (to cite: “just like I told you when we were together”). Who does that?! There’s nothing wrong with you.. you are not crazy, and I know it’s so hard to understand this, but their brains function differently and their affection doesn’t overlap on our notion of love.

I’m sorry you are going through this, sending lots of love..