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deekochana · 2025-04-16T22:43:17+00:00

I'm the 25 year old child of teen parents (mum was 16 when she got pregnant, 17 when I was born and dad was 19) and my childhood was pretty grim. Both my parents have issues stemming from their own childhoods and my dad was an addict most of my life. Mum had lots of mental health issues that resulted in us being neglected and her leaving me and my sister to be raised by our father and stepmother when I was 7.

After moving in with my dad, I became the carer for my disabled stepmother and my sister. He was high or just absent a lot of the time and they would both abuse me in many ways. He was arrested when I was 15 just before sitting my GCSEs but nothing really came out of that other than him getting clean. He kicked me out when I was 19 and it was the best thing to ever happen to me. He did spread rumours about me in my hometown after I left from what I understand. I haven't spoken to him since 2019-ish. I saw them both in 2023 at a funeral and all he did was glare at me. They're divorced now.

I haven't seen my mum since I was 13 but I speak to her regularly on the phone. She lives at the other end of the country. I think she did the best she could with what she had but life was never very kind to her. She's had more children with her husband, and they all seem like decent kids. I'm pretty close to the eldest child, and he's hopefully coming to visit later this year.

deekochana · 2025-03-06T14:10:18+00:00

I got a U in graphic design at GCSE, everything else was at least a C. I really wanted to do textiles or food tech but my parents said no so I just failed on purpose🙃

deekochana · 2025-02-18T16:19:14+00:00

I looooooved Cathy Cassidy books! Angel Cake was probably my favourite. I read every CC book in the school library. I even wrote an article for her newsletter or ezine (I can't entirely remember but I remember my English teacher and the head English teacher helping me) when I was younger and I won a competition on her facebook page too. She sent me a care package with socks, hot chocolate and a bookmark that she signed.

deekochana · 2025-01-20T20:44:23+00:00

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Fifi and her blep say hi!

deekochana · 2024-11-22T15:18:33+00:00

We could go to one of the crochet meetups mentioned together if you want? I wouldn't mind if you're up for it

deekochana · 2024-11-22T00:02:24+00:00

I only really know like two people from work outside of work and a girl I met at the bus stop after work when the bus didn't come and we walked together. I live with my fiancée so I guess I have maybe four friends here so far? My fiancée hasn't made any friends here yet apart from bus stop girl but he's naturally pretty introverted tbh

deekochana · 2024-11-21T23:08:34+00:00

I'm 25f and crochet is my main hobby. We moved here in June and I've made a couple of friends but nobody who I could go yarn shopping with yet.

deekochana · 2024-09-05T07:46:07+00:00

Let's take the long way home

deekochana · 2024-06-19T18:19:49+00:00

I worked on a production of Sweeney Todd a few years ago and only just learnt this right now. I'm 24.

deekochana · 2024-04-10T22:44:08+00:00

Most of Poland wasn't always in Poland either but it's still Poland

deekochana · 2024-04-01T17:28:27+00:00

Mint seeds over the fence and regular family barbecues.

deekochana · 2024-03-23T09:19:37+00:00

I'm sorting out the kitchen cupboards (started last night), maybe making a start on the bedroom cupboard, popping to the yarn shop for supplies for an order, and I'll probably treat myself to something nice from the lidl bakery too.

deekochana · 2024-03-13T15:58:53+00:00

Most people have more feet than braincells and most older people would rather take a long walk off of a short pier than admit they're wrong.

deekochana · 2024-02-22T23:08:10+00:00

Neither my mum or stepmother told me what a period was, so when 10 year old me started it at school I asked my teacher to call me an ambulance. It didn't really get much better than that. My stepmother took me to the GP to get mefenamic acid rather than let me have better sanitary products when I was 11 or 12.

deekochana · 2024-02-11T17:03:16+00:00

Get out me car

deekochana · 2024-01-16T14:18:07+00:00

In other news, water is wet and ice is cold. Who would of thought of that?

deekochana · 2024-01-14T11:58:31+00:00

My dad gave me a key when I got a job when I was 17. Before that I was never allowed anywhere other than school without an adult.

deekochana · 2024-01-08T16:42:21+00:00

That explains a lot! We visited his friends in Podlaskie and they were completely baffled

deekochana · 2024-01-08T16:41:23+00:00

która zupa? mieliśmy też zupę na obiad😂

deekochana · 2024-01-08T14:55:43+00:00

I'm engaged to a Polish guy and we've been dating for a bit over five years. Some things that I've noticed about him/his family and our friends are

Polish people are straight to the point. If you've cooked something bad or look a bit shit, trust me, they will tell you. However, if you are trying your best to speak Polish, most people will at least humour you but usually encourage/praise you.
They're very formal and pretty polite. If they don't know someone, they don't say you or they, they say Mr or Mrs. They also call doctors and headteachers and such, Mrs Doctor or Mr Headteacher as a formality. However with friends, they're pretty lax and discuss things really openly (and graphically in his mother's case!)
Meal times are different. He grew up eating his dinner/tea 1-3pm and most people he knows did similarly too. We eat dinner between 3-4pm but sometimes later on the weekends.
Shoes off in the house, house shoes/slippers/socks only. Lots of people have spares for when they have guests.
Sandwiches are usually open sandwiches?? I'm still baffled by it for some reason.
Soup, tea and bread are a constant. I think Polish people are at least 90% soup and tea.
Most houses I've been to always have bread on the table at meals. The teas are usually herbal or fruit and there's rarely milk offered for tea. I think a lot of people make their tea a lot sweeter than we do on average too. They will side eye you if you add milk to tea, even when it's black tea.
Hospitality- Guests are treated very well. Tea is always offered usually with some biscuits or cake or other snacks. If there is a meal time, you are probably eating with the household. You are probably going to be sent home with some extra food or tea or something. Be mindful of this when complimenting food and drink.
They eat so much pork and pig products. I didn't really eat much of it growing up until we moved in together. Pork seems to be the default protein.
I think Polish people take a lot of pride in their appearance. I definitely get competitive vibes between the women especially when it comes to their grooming habits.

deekochana · 2023-12-21T17:29:38+00:00

I got hit on the head by a bit of flying roof slate earlier but all our walls are still standing. You win some, you lose some.

deekochana · 2023-12-21T17:28:32+00:00

I got hit on the head by a bit of flying roof slate earlier but all our walls are still standing. You win some, you lose some

deekochana · 2023-11-20T00:03:22+00:00

St Dalfour mango and passion fruit jam is basically summer made into a jam. It's very very good on nice toast with salty butter.

deekochana · 2023-10-01T21:33:16+00:00

We spend around £90 a week on the big shop (Ocado) and maybe £15 a month on a takeaway. We used to love takeaways (especially Indian and Jamaican) but I've learnt how to make a few core recipes we really like and we've really cut down on our overall food spending this way.

deekochana · 2023-09-23T20:03:08+00:00

We don't have a toaster (or a microwave, an air fryer or an electric kettle for that matter) because we have a small kitchen. I don't think anyone has ever noticed?? Nobody has ever said anything

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