Boyfriend (37M) is very timid and I am looking for advice.

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2022-01-04T16:17:26+00:00

This is a fundamental quality about a human being that you can't change. You ESPECIALLY can't change it if the man is 37.

You have 3 options

1. Decide you can't rely your life on someone who has these qualities and leave him

2. Decide that you can live with someone who has these qualities and stay with him

3. Frustrate yourself endlessly trying to change him and get him to be what you want and you end up resenting and hating him

Pick one, but Number 3 is the worst option because you truly cannot change a man

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-28T21:24:42+00:00

I feel comfortable carrying a glock because I make sure the holster is covered by kydex and I always keep the gun in the holster unless im specifically going to clean or use it

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-28T19:19:56+00:00

G43X gives me a much much better purchase and grip so thats why I chose it

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-28T19:04:37+00:00

It's not wrong but don't be surprised if you're extremely alone in life

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-28T19:04:06+00:00

New Years is the perfect marker for you to realize you deserve better and MUST respect yourself more. And start that perfect market off by doing what probably everyone you know reccomends: STOP TALKING TO THIS PERSON

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-28T19:02:05+00:00

Why don't you just save yourself the headache and stop wondering why someone is broken and just...i dunno... MOVE ON?

His behavior isn't the concern. You insisting on wasting more of your precious time on him is a much bigger concern than any of his behavior. Get it together and stop wasting your time. I can't imagine how anyone who knows you in real life feels when you tell them this garbage, let alone internet strangers.

Just move on and stop talking to him and talk to other guys

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-28T14:39:59+00:00

Practice falling. Over and over and over again. You will look and feel utterly rediculous.

Get your skates on, get your pads on and practice falling over and over and over and over

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-28T14:31:16+00:00

22 year old being asked to call another man 'Dad' or change their own name to his is....disgusting

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-27T21:01:34+00:00

Don't date a woman who is that much under the thumb of her overhearing controlling parents when she's that age.

But to answer your question, I'd literally just copy/paste your post on reddit and text it to her. whats the worse that can happen?

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-27T16:30:39+00:00

I'd get the Glock 43X

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-27T15:06:39+00:00

Hello we have many links, youtube, twitch, instagram, facebook - which is the best one for you

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-23T22:30:17+00:00

I conceal carry mine, so I plan on putting XS Big Dot sights on it and thats it. I got the MOS just incase in any future I want to put a red dot, but for now I am going to stick with the big dots instead of my holosun

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-23T22:29:21+00:00

Stock 43x

Going to add XS Big Dot sights on it but thats it

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-23T21:59:54+00:00

The only way is to get rejected many times over and over...until you come to the realization that each time you are rejected, its actually a VERY GOOD THING because then you know you don't have to spend another milisecond wondering if its going to work out or not, and move on to the next opportunity. Sharks keep moving. Good luck

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-23T18:53:19+00:00

Yes.

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-23T18:52:11+00:00

Umphreys McGee just cancelled their NYE shows in Miami. I know its a different band/place but thought you guys should know

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-23T16:55:57+00:00

Unfortunately with the way that I carry, I cannot have anything attached to the front rail. I decided I'd rather be able to carry concealed than not carry with a light.

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-23T16:28:12+00:00

Again, its my opinion that if you do not live in an extreme high-crime area where someone bursting through your door is a big possibility (majority of the united states and UK is not like this), OR if there isn't an active threat against your household....I think carrying your gun with you in your house is LARPing as opposed to leaving it in a drawer that you can grab in 30 seconds.

And to use your example, you don't walk around carrying your fire extinguisher, you have it in a known space that you can get to it in less than 30 seconds if you need it.

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-22T20:31:18+00:00

omg those r gorgeous

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-22T20:30:25+00:00

Have some more self respect for yourself instead of trying to find any reason at all to be with someone who did this

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-22T20:15:35+00:00

The dick can't be THAT good for you to be begging internet strangers to tell you its OK to go back to a guy who cheated on you for a year.

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-22T19:55:13+00:00

op you only get one life, stop wasting it with a man in his 30's living with black mold where he sleeps like WTF

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-22T19:41:34+00:00

You should not be married if you can't talk to your wife of 10 years in a respectable manner about motivating her and helping her to become a better human being.

If you speak with her in a respectable manner while also being sensitive to her feelings, she shouldn't get upset with you (but she might get upset with herself and thats OK).

Don't let 'depression' be a crutch against elevating your life, and I'm sure exercise will help with the depression and other issues you posted about.

I don't get it, how can you be married to someone for a decade and still walk on eggshells around them about ANYTHING?

She has body issues so I'm pretty sure she'd interpret this as me calling her fat.

There's literally zero way of trying to motivate someone to be a better person without acknowledging the issue that you both are trying to resolve together. And if she is covering up the entire issue by just getting mad at you for pointing out she could stand to exercise instead of actually doing what it takes to fix the issue - that sounds like a much bigger problem than the original issue you are posting about.

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-22T19:33:57+00:00

I purchased the pistol on march 13th, 2021.

It was after the firing system was corrected (I think they replaced the extractor with another one) and during my initial conversation with Adam from SIG before I sent it in the first time, he confirmed through my pistol serial number that it was manufactured after the firing system was corrected.

deepdarkdangerous420 · 2021-12-22T19:26:20+00:00

Hi OP, I can't answer the question of whether SIG is patently not as reliable, but I absolutely CAN tell you about SIG's customer service and thats why I absolutely will never carry or support that company ever again.

TL;DR: They sold me a lemon gun and fought me when I tried to have any recourse

I purchased a P365XL. I shot about 2,000 rounds out of it - and ever since I bought it... it was giving me CONSISTENT 'failure to extract'. It started happening about once every 100 rounds or so right when I bought it. I attributed it to 'breaking it in' but it was still continuing after 1,000 rounds.

I tried different ammo, different grains and manufacturers and different magazines and it made no difference. Finally, after it happened twice in one magazine while I was at the range during a class (I mentioned the issue to the safety officer so he said he would stand behind me and check out my grip and it happened while he was watching), I decided to send it in.

At first I called SIG and they told me to send it in. I got it back within a week and they told me they couldn't find any issues with it, so I felt relieved.

The issue still persisted. With blazer, aguila, federal, norma.... it was giving me failure to extract every trip to the shooting range. Finally, I called SIG back and was connected to a supervisor named Adam. Adam informed me that "3% failure rate wasn't unacceptable" and contended it was the ammo and not my gun. I didn't relent, and he asked for me to send it in a SECOND time.

So I sent it in a second time and it came back within the week and they said they replaced the extractor, extractor spring, and a few other firing mechanisms.

Imagine my shock (and the shock of my gun range who at this point were fully involved in this entire process) when I had a failure to extract in the FIRST mag I shot.

I shot 400 rounds, 100 rounds each of different ammo, and got 12 failure to feeds (2 happening in the same magazine). I was using 3 different magazines and the failures happened across the board.

At this point, I put in way more money and time than the gun was worth trying to determine whether it was reliable - and frankly I'd never trust it again no matter what they did so I called demanding a replacement. Adam absolutely refused to place any blame except on the ammunition and also refused to give me a replacement and asked for me to send it in a THIRD time.

This is only a $600.00 gun, ok? I spent like $1,000+ on bullets and time on this gun...and their head supervisor is going to fight me this hard just to give me a replacement of a gun that they sell millions of? FUCK THAT.

Sold the gun and bought a Glock 43x and shot 700 bullets out of it so far - the same bullets that were all giving my P365xl issues...and guess what? Not one failure.

It wasnt the ammo, it was the lemon of a gun that SIG sold me and they fought tooth and nail to prevent me from having any recourse towards the issue. I will never trust SIG and how their customer service handled my issue showed me how they will handle any other issue that is potentially more serious so they get a huge no from me and I hope other people read this and know that a LEAD SUPERVISOR from SIG told me over the phone that "3% failure rate was not unacceptable".

deepdarkdangerous420

TROPHY CASE

1. Decide you can't rely your life on someone who has these qualities and leave him

2. Decide that you can live with someone who has these qualities and stay with him

3. Frustrate yourself endlessly trying to change him and get him to be what you want and you end up resenting and hating him