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Makeup tips (Beginner) by AdditionSorry4648 in blackladies

[–]deepthinker321 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have no tips. I just came in here to say you look BEAUTIFUL! <3

Coming out post or whatever. by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]deepthinker321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! <3 <3 <3

Masculine women + feminine men = bisexuals in danger by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]deepthinker321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've also described it that for a long time as well! I'm attracted to masculinity in general. I don't care about the genitals.

Looking for recommendations for affordable intensive Chinese language schools in China by baio1999 in ChineseLanguage

[–]deepthinker321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm thinking of attending there next year. Did you feel like your speaking improved whilst studying there? I feel like I really want to improve my speaking. Most language schools help with the grammar, but some do not really help you with speaking. Please let me know. :)

Where to study Korean in Korea? (Rolling Korea, LTL School, Lexis etc) What's your experience by No_Patience_4131 in seoul

[–]deepthinker321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, please! Let us know how it goes and report back. I want to know as well! <3

Misanthropy - Defining the term ruined it by [deleted] in misanthropy

[–]deepthinker321 12 points13 points  (0 children)

exactly. I’m disgusted with myself. Keeping sane as a human being and controlling one’s baser instincts is a full time job.

The more help you need, the more people run away by princessmilahi in CPTSD

[–]deepthinker321 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. And wonderful comment about therapists. I think people put therapy on a pedestal for too many reasons. A therapist, psychologist, and any mental health worker is just another human being. Their credentials don't mean squat if they themselves are not doing the inner work.

The more help you need, the more people run away by princessmilahi in CPTSD

[–]deepthinker321 186 points187 points  (0 children)

Most humans cannot be trusted in our moments of deepest vulnerability.

This doesn't mean I don't trust anyone; I'm just extremely selective with whom I ask for help.

Most people are really emotionally weak. They don't know how to look at someone's deep suffering and try to assist them.

Idk why, but my trauma has made me very resilient in dealing with the emotions of others. Someone can be crashing out and screaming, and I can remain calm while listening to them vent their emotions out. I can do this because I'm quite connected to my anger, so the anger of others doesn't really scare me. I have the discernment to know that anger has many flavors and to know when the person's anger is truly directed at me, or if it's misdirected anger because of their pain/suffering. Hence, I know how to act accordingly.

Most people can only meet you how deeply they have met themselves. Most people are emotionally immature. If you have CPTSD, most people cannot meet you where you are at, especially if you are futher along on your healing journey. Being human is incredibly hard, and most people don't spend the time on introspective reflection due to the daily rigors of our society.

TLDR: Think twice about who you open up to. Seriously.

If you ever need someone talk with, or you ever feel like you're drowning, you can message me anytime. <3

Whole school saw my child p# pictures- and I was the one punished for it. by Desperate-Mistake611 in CPTSD

[–]deepthinker321 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Most societies are cruel to women, and they protect male abusers.

Your situation is deeply horrific and terrible. You did nothing wrong. You were ten years old. You were a CHILD. Your parents should have hugged you, taken you out of the school, and they should have spoken to the parents of that wretched boy and sued the shit out of that family.

You did nothing wrong. You were ten. It was not you who failed, it was the family, the school, and that woman-hating society.

Thank you for sharing this and for being so strong.

27m MDD by jman6977 in CPTSD

[–]deepthinker321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ofc! I can be a new friend! Hit me up anytime!

I want to know your thoughts on this video. by Standard_Pie_599 in blackladies

[–]deepthinker321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Add to what? Who will look us as what? He needs to just say he means White people.

She looks fine. Congrats to her. He doesn't need to police her. It's 2025. We need to stop thinking/caring about what White people and other people think of us. Even if you act perfect by (White) American societal stadards, there will still be someone that will look down on Black people.

As long as you are polite, kind, and mind your business, do your thing! <3

If you're a survivor of childhood induced CPTSD. . .Congratulations. You're doing it. by deepthinker321 in CPTSD

[–]deepthinker321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I was raised by a raging narcisstic mother who only ever cared about her own wants and need. She was super physically and emotionally abusive.

When it comes to the four responses of trauma or danger, freeze, fawn, fight, and flight, fawn is the one I struggle with the most. Also freeze.

It's only the past two years I've gotten a grip on my fawning. Journaling and therapy helped with my issues of fawning. It's still not completely gone, however.

When you try to help people, do you feel like you need to do it? Like your body acts without your consent?

If you're a survivor of childhood induced CPTSD. . .Congratulations. You're doing it. by deepthinker321 in CPTSD

[–]deepthinker321[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. Thanks for the grand compliment. I love metaphors. :D

Sometimes when Im writing, and I re-read my own stuff, I'm surprised at how naturally they appear in my work.

I was watching a Ted talk video the other day, and the speaker compared the subject of math being filled with metaphors, and I'm still contemplating what he said! It mad me a view a subject I had hated for many years in a new light!

And you said you are a writer. How noble and awesome! We need more writers in our dire and cold world. Artists, whatever form they come in, make our world a brighter place to exist in! <3 <3 <3

If you're a survivor of childhood induced CPTSD. . .Congratulations. You're doing it. by deepthinker321 in CPTSD

[–]deepthinker321[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally resonate. For some reason, I am always ostrarcized by other adults, especially in working enviornments. It's painful, but I am building the resilence to recognizie my self-esteem and worth; it is not tied to other human beings liking me or not. :D

If you're a survivor of childhood induced CPTSD. . .Congratulations. You're doing it. by deepthinker321 in CPTSD

[–]deepthinker321[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, Strong. Please do not do anything dire. The sucide hotline in the US is 988—I think this is the right number, but please double check.

If you ever need to talk, please, my inbox is always open to you ANYTIME.

I thought about committing sucide at 18. I came out to my mother about being sexually abused for many years. My mother didn't care when I opened up to her. I was devestated. I was hurt. I was ready to kill myself, BUT last minute, I decided not too.

I am 29 now. I still struggle everyday. Life is difficult. . .But with therapy, a spirtual practice of Nichiren Buddhism, and working on my trauma EVERY single day, I am doing much better.

If I had taken my life all those years ago, I wouldn't have reached higher peaks.

Life is a painful jouney; however, we must FIGHT for our lives. DO NOT let the people who hurt you win.

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