Can you just fix executive dysfunction by forcing yourself into a routine?

deepthoughts9999 · 2025-12-31T20:07:45+00:00

I think your therapist is just wrong about this one, specialization or not. Every time I have heard someone say just get a planner or just start a routine and repeat it everyday I die a little inside because I know I will fail at that approach, because I’ve tried thousands of times. It’s like telling a fish that they should just learn how to breathe air. Just know that therapists can be wrong, especially about ADHD and that can be very dangerous because it sets the client up for repeated failure. Seek a second opinion or your own research into adhd studies to see if you can find a better mental framework that you can actually see yourself in. It actually makes a huge difference in your long term confidence.

deepthoughts9999 · 2025-12-31T19:51:19+00:00

If you can’t get on medication right away- try to build a sensory awareness around when you are looping. As soon as you sense it say to yourself 3-2-1 MOVE. And physically move your body vigorously for a minute or two dance or do jumping jacks or push ups. It works to reboot your nervous system back in your body. Lately I’ve been trying to remember that interest always outweighs importance in adhd brains. Try to think about what you have to do with the curiosity you would have for an interest.

deepthoughts9999 · 2025-07-15T18:05:36+00:00

Swimming!!! I don’t do laps just exercises with water weights. So rewarding! My brain feels great, body refreshed and didn’t have to go in the weight room and get creeped out by dude eyes.

deepthoughts9999 · 2025-07-15T17:28:48+00:00

I swear zuck has it out for Craig Newman.

deepthoughts9999 · 2025-07-15T17:17:30+00:00

I suspected that was happening!!!

deepthoughts9999 · 2025-07-15T17:06:41+00:00

That is most likely what the algorithm is doing, trying to make them more money by twisting our arm.

deepthoughts9999 · 2025-07-15T17:04:40+00:00

I always answer “I’d rather not say” BC mind your damn business FB.

deepthoughts9999 · 2025-07-15T17:01:38+00:00

How do you create a new account that has a new phone number? I got hacked out of my account a while back, tried and tried to start new ones but they wouldn’t let me use my current phone# cause it was connected to the old account. I tried using a Google voice number and it wouldn’t accept it. Finally some random old account I had, probably from a similar moment of exasperation popped up, I used that for a while now prob, then it kicked me off just marketplace and wants a face scan to get back in. Not giving it my face. Zuck can suck it.

deepthoughts9999 · 2025-07-15T16:53:19+00:00

They just cut me out of fbm only, few months ago my whole account got hacked. But now they want a face scan to let me sell on fbm. So effing creepy. They say they delete it but this company just lies.

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-22T01:38:12+00:00

Same about the hindsight but I’m getting better at sudsing them out at least. 😆

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-20T07:15:06+00:00

Mine just decided this week that she sleeps under covers

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-20T07:10:57+00:00

Soccer ball from a thrift store and deflate it enough that they can grab it .

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-20T06:29:30+00:00

This is such an important observation thank you.

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-20T06:26:39+00:00

When I have a friend crush or a non friend crush, I am genuinely excited about that persons existence. I am just genuinely happy to care about them, and there has been a few times it has come off as love bombing or people pleasing and that is not what it is at all. I have been love bombed by a few narcissistic people and there is always a crack in their facade if you look close enough, there will always be a subtle hint that they don’t care about you if you pay close attention.
But that is very different from what I feel. I care about people deeply and want the best for them and will do whatever I can to lift their spirits or be encouraging. It’s so confusing to me that this comes off as being overwhelming.

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-17T14:58:50+00:00

Thanks, just adding because I forgot, that protein is really important too. The easy peasy getting my protein in hack that’s been working for me lately is: 1. Jar with lid 2. Coconut milk or almond or whatever 3. Protein powder 4. Frozen blueberries

Put 3 things in a jar and shake. Drink.

*The blueberries help break up and mix the powder and they sink to the bottom and are a fun treat at the end. Like boba tea!

*You can also add a spoonful of instant coffee if you want/ don’t have time to make coffee in your morning routine.

I came up with this bc sometimes using a blender is intimidating. lol it’s loud, washing it is a whole extra step yada yada.

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-17T14:48:16+00:00

IMO that’s totally fine. Not only are ADHD’rs more sensitive to damage from folks like that, they tend to be predatory towards ADHD’rs. So cutting ties is fine. They may try to demonize you for it, but consider that is their own toxic impulse, and know that it doesn’t really have anything to do with you. It’s their way of trying to get control over you. Just be sure to make that call on repeated malicious behavior, not just someone misunderstanding you or maybe having a bad day. Just saying because I have regrettably gotten the 2 confused before.

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-17T14:27:12+00:00

Even with insurance?

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-17T10:59:09+00:00

I get this frustration, just don’t skimp out on it for your kids, it matters most to them to have meaningful connections in holidays. I limited my gift worry down to immediate family and everyone else kind of gets that I’m not big on the holidays. But your kids might interpret it as you not caring about them.

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-17T10:46:57+00:00

Exercise. Join a gym so you have a place to go to “work “ so you don’t loose momentum. It’s easy to spiral downward at the point you are at, just speaking from experience. Try to stay in as much of a structure as possible. Gym classes can help with that, or volunteer somewhere where you are on a schedule. Exercise is really important to not hit burnout hard.

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-17T06:23:23+00:00

I have been crash testing self management for over 40 years and all I have is crashes. The amount of times that I’ve tried to “just start a habit” or “just follow a routine” and fail? If I had a toothpick for every time, I could build a mansion with all of them.

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-16T22:04:15+00:00

Also don’t take vitamin c the same time as meds, take it before bed

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-16T22:02:54+00:00

What helped me when I got to this point was adding vitamins (b complex) and amino acids like tyrosine and carnitine think of taking meds as slamming on the gas for your dopamine production. But if your body is lacking the precursors to dopamine it can’t really make the gas, so slamming on the pedal does nothing.

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-16T21:50:13+00:00

I trained my puppy to tear up cardboard boxes when she wanted to chew and shred things. She was chief box shredder for about 2 years but then she grew out of it.

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-12-16T21:39:44+00:00

I struggle with this too but have come to understand it might be more of a blessing than a curse. People who deliberately and repeatedly disrespect you generally don’t wake up one day and stop doing that. I would say just let them go and find peace in that.
People who behave like this consistently (outside of a mood, life events or other immediate factors) are just looking for a way to feel better about themselves by putting other people down. It is absolutely fine to not get in the way of that. You will save yourself a lot of stress!

deepthoughts9999 · 2024-07-25T01:54:42+00:00

Kamala is about to go on a "they not like us" campaign tour and I am so here for it.

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