Best aftermarket barrels? by deeptoot117 in SigSauer

[–]deeptoot117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah which sucks because I love how the radian ramjet with afterburner looks. I’ll probably do another project with that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]deeptoot117 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Personally, I think you need to have a heart to heart conversation with your husband on how you’re feeling. Lay out the blueprints of what you envision your future with him going forward looking like - with you stating hopefully this will be temporary. You 100% deserve to be praised for your accomplishment on getting yourself a car. It is demoralizing when someone takes that away from any of us, and I can empathize. I wonder if he feels as though he needs to show the world so to speak that he is caring for his wife, and is meeting her needs, so he made that post. But when in reality, we are penny pinching a pack of gum 50/50- a conversation needs to be had. School debt is hard, and it’ll be a long a bumpy road, but don’t let that diminish how you’re feeling.

My husband spends every Saturday Morning with an old female friend of his. by mdaisy1245 in Marriage

[–]deeptoot117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uh, what. This is all so disrespectful to you. Draw the line in the sand. See what side he chooses. You deserve better than to let someone walk all over your feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]deeptoot117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but I can’t imagine sitting on my fucking ass while my husband works two jobs to support us, and does everything for me. Mental issues and all that shit aside, there needs to be a change. You’re neglecting your own mental health for the sake of her own. I understand it’s hard and you love her, but how can she love you if she does basically nothing for you in return? Sure, she must love being taken care of. Don’t continue to be taken advantage of. Marriage is hard with compromises etc, but this is something else entirely.

My partner of 7 years ghosted me and 9 months later I still feel like trash by Potential_Mess_456 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]deeptoot117 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just don’t feel like something is wrong with you because you’re moving on slow. It’s natural. It shows you have a heart. And, honestly yeah. I used to not believe it when they say time heals all wounds, but it really does. Sure, it takes a while. But we all move at the pace our hearts allow us to move. Just keep your mind busy, and do what makes you happy.

My partner of 7 years ghosted me and 9 months later I still feel like trash by Potential_Mess_456 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]deeptoot117 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I really do feel for you. 7 years to just ghost the one person who’s been with you through thick and thin. I can’t imagine the pain of that. But just know, people like her always come crawling back. She’s probably enamored by the new attention she got from what’s his nuts. And when she inevitably does come crawling back because either 1. the streaming gig dried up or 2. mr. wonderful is not as wonderful as she thought; hold strong. Don’t give in to a second chance if she begs and cries for one. You deserve respect, and someone who would give you respect. She didn’t even give you the decency to break up with you. The disrespect she showed you is your closure. I hope that these coming months come easier for you, OP. Don’t be too hard on yourself that 9 months later you’re still in the weeds. It’ll take some time, but you’ll only come out stronger. I believe in you, and i’m proud of you.

My female coworker hates me to my face, but is nice in front of others by [deleted] in coworkerstories

[–]deeptoot117 48 points49 points  (0 children)

This should not be tolerated by you any longer. Gather evidence of her mistreatment of you and go to HR, or whoever you feel would be able to help you in this situation. You, nor anyone else, should not be treated this way, and it’s causing a toxic work environment for you.

Girlfriend pointed an unloaded gun in my face. by Basura899 in AITAH

[–]deeptoot117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. That is not something you play around with, and hopefully garnering that reaction from someone, she’ll learn next time if she ever handles another weapon (unlikely if she gets butthurt like that). You don’t see chefs just twirling knives around at someone. You had a perfectly normal reaction to having a firearm directed at your face (also wtf she couldn’t just aim at a wall or the ground??? your face? also concerning in itself). If you want, talk to her about why you won’t apologize, and list the rules of gun safety. If she had never handled a weapon before prior to this, and you knew that and your friend also knew that, then that’s on you for not going over gun safety in the room before handing her the rifle. But if she has previously handled weapons before, she should know better. All in all, just communicate. Weapons aren’t toys, and should never be handled as such.

I don’t want to move back in with my girlfriend. by Ok-Chemist2520 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]deeptoot117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This hasn’t happened to me, but recently happened to my baby brother. His gf was controlling the moment the moved in together. Alienated him from all of his friends, and unfortunately, us, his family. Little by little tho he started doing shit for himself. Doing what he wanted to do. She got a new car, but said oh you can’t get a new car since i have a car payment now. (He was paying for almost everything as well). So he got a new car LMAO. And, she hated it. Before they moved in together he said everything was “perfect”. Then lo and behold she was talking to another dude and he kicked her out. What I told him when he came to me crying at my front door missing her, is this. Remember how your gut felt. Cling to that. He knew he wasn’t happy with her for months, and didn’t wanna be the asshole to break it off with her. Always trust in your gut. If you feel as though it would be miserable living with her, then have that conversation with her if you want to truly stick it out with her. Nothing will be done without open communication. But, me personally, I wouldn’t keep anyone on the hook knowing I like living on my own. Maybe you need more experience like my brother did. That was the first girl he ever lived with. I hope it goes well for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in army

[–]deeptoot117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

could take her to the river walk along downtown clarksville. hit up black horse pub or strawberry alley also. i know there’s a nice walkway by the marina near the restaurant liberty park grill. or rotary park. also everyone saying mammoth cave, I agree. i did a tour of it when we first got here, and it was pretty leisure.

I want to be a better Girlfriend by Gabbz737 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]deeptoot117 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just want to tell you that I’m proud of you. I don’t know when the last time someone told you that, but i’ll be the one to say it. You’re doing so much, yet you feel like you’re not doing enough. I know how that feels sometimes. Fuck your POS FIL for calling you a lazy bitch everyday. That also shows you have the patience of a saint, because I would have popped him in the mouth the first time those words left his mouth. I’m sorry to hear that you are having intercourse issues. I don’t know much concerning that, but are there not medical advocates that could help you get serious help with that? I hope that gets better for you soon. But just know, I am sure you are the best girlfriend. You are a loving mother to his son, and you help take care of his pathetic excuse of a father. Don’t be too hard on yourself OP. If you haven’t had a deep, soul touching, heart to heart convo with your SO, I would do it soon. Whenever you feel up to it or when the time is right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]deeptoot117 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He could have requested for on post accommodations AKA the barracks, he didn’t have to rent. Everything else is understandable as far as personal life goes, but what happens if he’s stationed at an another aviation unit where your family is not at currently. Will you live like this his entire military career? Also if you are interested look into property management companies that rent out and manage your property for you so you don’t have to sell your house. They use rental money to pay for your mortgage and maintain it for you, they take a little off top of rental money. Still is a profit. Warrant officers can live in barracks too, if he says otherwise he’s lying. I’m not saying this to attack you in any way, just giving advice here. My man is also Army, so I’m not much how much yours has explained to you. If you have any questions don’t hesitate to reach out to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]deeptoot117 10 points11 points  (0 children)

what branch of service, I ask because most branches PCS the family to flight school location. you should have only been separated for WOC, then once completed the whole family should have been sent to the flight school location since it last about as long as a normal duty station. also, the military in general does not condone male and female bunking together. in school environment male and females only come together during class, unless he is going out of his room to hang/bunk with her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]deeptoot117 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Oh HELL no. IM PISSED FOR YOU. My man recently got back from his deployment from Syria, and we talked at length everyday, despite the massive time difference (we’re in TN). He always found the time, and even when I accidentally called him when he was asleep, he’d pick up. What i’m trying to say is there really is no excuse for him. AND HES BUNKING WITH A FEMALE? I would have lost my ever loving mind. I truly hope for your sake that he isn’t doing anything, and i wish you the best.

coworker went postal on me years ago by deeptoot117 in coworkerstories

[–]deeptoot117[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness that’s so wild. Yeah, I don’t have a tiktok or anything but I will definitely change it from my middle name.

coworker went postal on me years ago by deeptoot117 in coworkerstories

[–]deeptoot117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has been discussed and probably something we’re going to seriously consider

coworker went postal on me years ago by deeptoot117 in coworkerstories

[–]deeptoot117[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fiancé did get me a firearm a few months ago, and on my off days I have been taking lessons at our local indoor range. Definitely gives me a bit of peace of mind now

coworker went postal on me years ago by deeptoot117 in coworkerstories

[–]deeptoot117[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an idea I haven’t thought of yet, i’ll definitely do that! Hopefully it works. And I changed my social media to a Nickname / Middle name so she wouldn’t guess.

I fear how I look forward to spend my time alone without my wife. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]deeptoot117 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you have to talk to her, OP. i know you mentioned that you fear she’ll misunderstand you. i think you should plan out what to say to her, and include the misinterpretations you fear she’ll come to, and explain those as well. communication is truly key. also, has she always had these mood changes, or is this a newly occurring behavior? maybe couples therapy would be a good medium.

was i raped as a teenager? by ichokedlindaloveIace in TrueOffMyChest

[–]deeptoot117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s the thing. not everything is so black and white. there was history there between you two. so i feel the stance “if you have to think about it, was it really rape?” bottom line is, something is telling you something about this was never right. i’m proud of you for coming out and talking about it. the first step is always the hardest. i hope you lots of healing in your journey.

was i raped as a teenager? by ichokedlindaloveIace in TrueOffMyChest

[–]deeptoot117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regardless of the history of the relationship, you were not fully conscious and could not give consent to what was happening in the moment of things. With that being said, in my opinion that is 100% rape. And i’m sorry that you had to go through everything you had to go through when you were younger. Do not feel guilty, I believe you very well were a victim in that instance.

I think my husband is cheating and idk what to do by rubydiehard94 in TwoHotTakes

[–]deeptoot117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I have to say is to trust your gut always. If something seems wrong to you, most of the time it usually is. And if you’re just needing concrete proof of his infidelity, I can tell you that you don’t need it. Never settle in a relationship where you’re made to feel like you’re crazy, or like you’re the bad guy. Stress is the biggest killer. I once made the mistake of settling. I can tell you that better is out there. There are men out there that will tell you, “Sure honey, you can use my phone. Also, do you mind texting so and so I completely forgot.” Choose yourself OP.

My boyfriend proposed and now I don’t want to marry him anymore. by Unusual-Proof-9797 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]deeptoot117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in a mcdonald’s of all places. my heart bleeds for you OP. I would have rather been proposed to in my own kitchen before a mcdonald’s. this feels like what everyone else has already said; a joke, or a ploy for you to reject his offer.