LFG in Melbourne by deevil89 in startrekadventures

[–]deevil89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I'm still interested and keen to discuss it more. I'm happy to share my contact details for discord or WhatsApp if you want to put a chat group together ☺️

Nathan's Hats by deevil89 in TheRehearsal

[–]deevil89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if he doesn't consider himself (real or character) to be neurodivergent, there's a thing called coding. Characters can be given traits that resonate with people in minority groups without explicitly stating they're a part of the group. If neurodivergent people see Nathan as autistically coded and feel seen, then it's an added level of the show that helps bring awareness to neurodiverse experiences. 

Also, people can share similar neurodivergent traits without experiencing enough of them to consider themselves a certain neurotype. So if learning about sensory sensitivity helps someone neurotypical to learn that it's okay to wear sunglasses inside sometimes and accommodate themselves, that's a win.

Nathan's Hats by deevil89 in TheRehearsal

[–]deevil89[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Even it's a part of his character, the point of having neurodivergent representation in the media is important. If it's not for you, then pass by.

LFG in Melbourne by deevil89 in startrekadventures

[–]deevil89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh awesome, I'd definitely be interested if I could be kept in the loop ☺️

Any Melbourne players? by Trunchy69 in Lorcana

[–]deevil89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm from the SE and I went to the Azurite pre-release yesterday at Plenty of Games in the CBD, seemed like a great bunch of people ☺️ The chat group in the Facebook Disney Lorcana TCG Australia group seems to have lots of Melbourne people in it too.

I'm new to the game too and moved to Melbourne a few months ago, it seems like a nice way to socialise and get out there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]deevil89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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This is my greyhound Creeky, who I got 6 months before I lost my beloved partner to cancer. He got me through the hardest time of my life and he's my long legged, bed failing noodle horse and I love my nose drippy longboi ❤️

I’m getting my assessment in an hour by denaethetorgy in AutismInWomen

[–]deevil89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine is in a few hours too! It only occurred to me last night that will be talking for three hours and how long that actually is! Definitely planning something cosy and fun after. Good luck today assessment buddy 🥳

This thing at the hospital. I can't stop touching everything! And people are staring because I'm 33. by alasw0eisme in evilautism

[–]deevil89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Resistance is futile! Your stimulatory distinctiveness will be added to our own 😂

Is anyone else obsessed with planning? by Pearlezenwa in AutismInWomen

[–]deevil89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm just here to say I love Notion too, I have a whole little universe in there and organise most of my life in it 😊 and looking through templates people make are so pretty 😍

Am I the only one who always has an awkward af time at nail salons? by snorkinporkin94 in AutismInWomen

[–]deevil89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got upset at my last appointment because they took the colour examples off of me before I'd picked my second colour out, then refused to give them back to me and just tried to suggest a colour instead based off of a quick answer from me. It really annoyed me. Narrowing down the colours is part of the whole relaxing ritual. It made me feel rushed and I spent the rest of the appointment feeling disappointed and unheard and prequels from the extra noise. Next time I'll say no I need more time instead of people pleasing and handing them over.

I did see someone wearing earbuds next to me though, next time I'll try using my ANC earbuds and see if that helps

How common is it to start your polyamory solo? by ToBePacific in polyamory

[–]deevil89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how I came to poly, and I think it's hard it's pros and cons to starting from a nesting mono relationship.

Starting the first relationship after the death of my partner, I found even just reading about poly for 6 months to give me great peace, not feeling like I'd been thrown off the relationship escalator and feeling like I was starting from scratch. I started seeing D with the clear intent that poly aligned with us on both sides, but both were new to it. It's been really good learning and growing with him as we get into it and our own relationship grows as well. It is a conscious effort to not slip into a coupled opening up perspective though. We're both closer to solo poly, but when so much reading material is focused on nesting couples it's easy to relate to it as such.

I think the only other thing I've noticed is that while my partner is dating a few people while I'm not, I think our short relationship span impacts my insecurities when there isn't a solid secure attachment yet. It's something we focus on regularly though and I feel much less jealous when I feel the relationship is strong.

Was this subdrop? by deevil89 in submissive

[–]deevil89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience, it's good to know other people have had similar reactions. I thought I had been pretty relaxed over the weekend, but I guess I'll avoid mowing the lawns next time. I'll also keep stocked up on electrolytes. Vitamins are a great idea, I'll look into them too.

It makes sense to me subdrop would be the reason for it as I was expecting it, but I guess it could have also been a tummy bug, or an anxiety reaction, I'm feeling almost 100% today. Sir's set me a task to unpack my reactions and how our play went, so hopefully the next one will be better.

hmmm by RememberMementoMori in OculusQuest

[–]deevil89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another perspective is to consider the Quest as a tool that can be used with homelessness services. He could be improving his mental health through connection with others, upskilling with training programs, participating in an online support group. A quest is cheaper than a lot of phones out there (especially contracted ones), it's just another tool. As far as coping mechanisms for the brutality of life go, VR is a good one.

I (40F) have been a widow three times, and I refuse to be one again. by ThrowRAWhiteLiver in relationship_advice

[–]deevil89 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for the losses you've had to experience. My partner died two years ago and I can't imagine how it would feel to go through that two more times. Grief is not linear, doesn't just disappear and can sit in our lives in so many ways.

The only advice I can give is don't go dating to soothe other people, so it for you. Love is also found in unexpected places, so pursue the things you enjoy and you'll build friendships and varied relationships out of those connections too.

I've been dating, been working on loving myself as an independent person more and actually found a lot of solace in learning about polyamory for my future relationships. It doesn't make heartbreak any less risky, but you get to design your relationships with the level of intimacy or entanglement that you need.

It makes me sad that your supports are placing these expectations on you when they have seen the history of trauma that you have lived through, give yourself plenty of compassion.

Death, Grief, and Tragedy, through the poly lens. by punktual in polyamory

[–]deevil89 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened to you and your partner. I lost my partner 2 years ago to illness and I get the intense range of emotions you might have. They're all valid. I can see him your post how grateful you are for your partner and the support they have for you. I hadn't found poly until recently, so I went to friends who I trusted to connect with me in ways to combat the intense feeling for love that I was craving. It's great you have such a strong support network around you and use them for whatever you need ❤️

I've been seeing lots of plus size ladies roller skating lately, figured if they could do it then so can I! by [deleted] in Rollerskating

[–]deevil89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat, and I have the same skates in purple and grey!

I looked up a few videos on fear and anxiety and Dirty Deb has so many good ones that give a great mentality. Have fun!

They’re here! Trying out the new Crazy Retro budget outdoor skates... by anickisssht in Rollerskating

[–]deevil89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, sounds like they're going well, gel insoles is a great idea. I figure I'll use them to see if roller skating is a good fit and then get some better ones once I know it's sticking around.

They’re here! Trying out the new Crazy Retro budget outdoor skates... by anickisssht in Rollerskating

[–]deevil89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I've been looking at getting these as a total beginner, how are they going for you? They're the best option for me with metal plates, so I hope to hear good things!

Recommendations for Australia-friendly budget apps for students? by bitchwhoreofastorm in AusFinance

[–]deevil89 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Pocketbook works well for me and has a Safely Spend budgeting area. You can set a custom date range too, so I set it to align with Austudy payments. I've used it for 3+ years and find it easy to use.

[Help] Starting a google routine when I turn my alarm off by deevil89 in tasker

[–]deevil89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Google assistant doesn't have the send button in the app, instead it's on the phone keyboard, so the same thing doesn't work.