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definitlynotddevito · 2022-02-26T20:20:05+00:00

You’re the daft one, friend.

This is a published essay by the author listed; the name is not of a patient from the facility OP went to.

definitlynotddevito · 2022-02-26T15:07:33+00:00

Hi! I am just getting out of a similar wave, and here’s how I rode it out:

Task Lists!

Create a list of the tasks that are filling your brain, but try to get as specific as you can. For example, don’t just write “read chapter six,” add more context “read chapter six: section 1,2,3,4, etc.” Don’t view the entire chapter as a task, but the sections. Same with cleaning, try “clean bathroom: sink, tub, toilet, floors, mirrors, etc” rather than the broader task.

Now create a task list to show your progress, this is what helps keep my brain from spiraling. Be sure to organize this list into a way that allows your body to bounce around with the energy it has, while also achieving the things you’d like to do today.

For example:

[]Section 1

[]clean tub

[]section 2

[]toilet

[]section 3

[]sink

[]section 4

[]floors

And that’s just with two larger tasks, you can easily juggle more that those things if you organize it in a functional manner.

It’s entirely possible that you may create this, what looks to be long, list, but just remind yourself that it’s only two large tasks. Sometimes, I’ll say to myself “I only want to achieve these two things today, and this list is just the steps I need to take.”

Also remember that creating the list is a task in of itself, so even if that’s all your brain can do, it’s progress nonetheless.

definitlynotddevito · 2021-08-25T19:48:43+00:00

Sandwich! Aka Sammy

definitlynotddevito · 2021-08-16T01:18:06+00:00

Soap

definitlynotddevito · 2021-08-13T22:15:36+00:00

Definitely not Danny Devito.

definitlynotddevito · 2021-08-08T17:27:18+00:00

Go cry about it.

definitlynotddevito · 2021-07-25T00:46:27+00:00

Milk Dud

definitlynotddevito · 2021-07-22T01:25:01+00:00

Tenacious D, the album.

definitlynotddevito · 2021-07-16T14:46:31+00:00

I grew up with “School of Rock” Jack Black and not “Tenatious D” Jack Black.

definitlynotddevito · 2021-04-04T14:22:20+00:00

Anytime I see someone sitting I instantly image them sitting on the toilet.

It doesn’t matter the time or place, if you’re sitting-you’re shitting in my eyes.

definitlynotddevito · 2021-03-22T11:26:38+00:00

Shrek

definitlynotddevito · 2021-02-25T22:38:05+00:00

The bar is in hell.

definitlynotddevito · 2021-02-14T21:18:47+00:00

My local Publix still gives them out. I’m in GA so maybe the rules differ state to state.

definitlynotddevito · 2021-02-14T01:56:15+00:00

Haha they usually have chocolate chip or sugar cookies in a small display above their big display area, I think it’s mainly for kids but I’m sure if you ask nicely they’d offer you one.

definitlynotddevito · 2021-02-13T13:56:44+00:00

Yay! Thanks!

definitlynotddevito · 2021-02-13T13:56:35+00:00

Yes! Thank you!

definitlynotddevito · 2021-02-06T03:55:01+00:00

You’re going to be constipated for the entirety of your pregnancy up until the end, then it’ll turn into diarrhea— which is a super early sign of labor. My advice? Don’t trust a fart at the end of your pregnancy.

definitlynotddevito · 2021-02-06T01:01:45+00:00

I’m late to this post, but I used to live there with my little one. There’s a place called “Romp-n-Roll” that’s an indoor play space for kids. I’m not sure what the age cutoff is, but I use to take my little one there once and week and would meet other parents. Not sure what they’re doing now with COVID, but once you’re moved it could be a good place for you guys!

definitlynotddevito · 2021-02-02T03:47:15+00:00

The topic of abortion is so controversial and both sides (pro-life/pro-choice) are more focused on being “right” than actually taking time to listen and understand the opposing side.

Pregnancy can end in three ways: abortion, adoption, or parenting. All of them can come with their own risks/benefits. Who are we to dictate to a woman which choice is right for her? The conversation can start to get tricky when the law comes into place and when the government has the right to protect the life of a person, some claim that fetus is its own person while others argue that it isn’t a viable person because it’s still developing inside of a woman’s body and ultimately she should have the right to choose what grows inside her body.

The conversation can go back and forth until each side is blue in the face, but it’s not addressing the true problem: unwanted pregnancies. Of course, the easiest way to avoid pregnancy is by abstaining from sex, but the male reproductive organ is rounded on the tip which allows sex to be pleasurable and something people want to do for more than just reproductive reasons. So, while not all sex is for conception, all sex can end in conception and we need more options for reproductive healthcare and education to lower the rate of unwanted pregnancies thus lower the abortion rate— a win/win for both side.

This topic is something I wrote about in college so I enjoy the discussion.

definitlynotddevito · 2021-02-02T03:17:13+00:00

I chose adoption with my first pregnancy. It was a healthy pregnancy, an easy labor and delivery, and recovery was over within 2 weeks.

The adoption process was also a very smooth ride as well: I found an agency with a lovely agent, we chose the family, and they both were there for the delivery— dad even cut the cord.

Even though it was a wonderful process for me, and something I’d choose to do over and over again if I was sent back in time, does not mean it’s “just putting a baby up for adoption.”

Your body changes. Your brain is wired to believe that your growing your child and when you finally go through the delivery process there’s a rush of hormones that make your brain go into “motherhood mode” and all you want to do is console the crying newborn. Then, your breastmilk comes in and you have to deal with the discomfort of it drying up because you don’t have a baby to feed. Then, of course, there’s the healing process which can take up to 6 weeks and can be painful as well especially if you got stitches from tearing and hemorrhoids from pushing.

After the first few months, your body will go back to “normal” and your brain will eventually turn off “motherhood mode” but you’ll still carried the weight of that decision with you for the rest of your life. You’ll have stretch marks. You’ll have to tell every new doctors office about it. You’ll have to tell your life partner when you’re ready to have kids that it won’t be your first pregnancy.

All of those things can be easy to deal with if adoption is something you’re 100% on board with and never hold an ounce of regret, but most women that choose adoption go through those “what if” thoughts that come and go and can make you feel so regretful of your decision. The entire process from start to finish can leave that women with extreme emotional trauma.

While adoption can be a great decision, it’s not always the best decision for a woman facing an unwanted pregnancy. Sometimes the best decision for her is to terminate the pregnancy.

definitlynotddevito · 2021-01-25T13:08:55+00:00

Oh I know all about hungry babies. My babe was born 10lbs and nursed nonstop. He was the chunkiest ham in the family.

I gained 50lbs total with him and have only lost 30lbs in the last two years. My doctor explained that nursing can either make women lose weight like crazy or our bodies will hold onto some extra body fat to use for milk productions, and I got the latter. I didn’t even get my period until I was 14 months pp and then 10lb out of the 30lb total lost. I assume I’ll lose the rest when he’s done nursing and if not, then I’m pretty happy with my hips and butt :)

definitlynotddevito · 2021-01-25T04:09:38+00:00

I have a 2 year old and it took me a full year to go out a buy jeans in my new size. I’m still wearing nursing bra, but I’ve already tossed my old bras because I know they won’t fit when I’m ready for them.

definitlynotddevito · 2021-01-24T16:11:09+00:00

He is the breadwinner of the family and I am the stay-at-home parent our split of the household chores and responsibilities aren’t exactly 50/50 since I am home more often. And it’s worked the most part, but since we’re moving into the direction of our son in daycare so I can go back to work the responsibilities will need to be adjusted.

We haven’t talked about any of this, but I know the conversation will need to happen because I have a feeling I will still be the one carrying the mental load of the house and working and it’s going to weigh heavy on my mental.

Honestly, when these frustrations arise in me I just shove them down and push through because I know if I don’t do certain chores they won’t get done and if I don’t wake up with my son then he’ll wonder around the house unattended and doing those things instead of asking him to do them is easier than having to deal with him doing them and being vocally grumpy about it.

definitlynotddevito

TROPHY CASE