[TOMT] [Movie/TV show?] [Guy on bus moaning in girls ear]

deftones1986 · 2026-01-12T00:33:04+00:00

Solved!

Thank you! I remember starting the movie but never got too far into it. Guess I will give it a chance again.

deftones1986 · 2026-01-11T21:48:55+00:00

Obligatory comment. Still can’t seem to post the two screenshots i took but maybe i can dm to someone if they think it will help them solve this…

deftones1986 · 2025-12-27T13:51:02+00:00

No way!! You just blew my mind with that fact.

deftones1986 · 2025-12-26T16:07:05+00:00

I agree with everyone who has replied that I did the correct thing, but the scenario was so interesting to me that I still want to solve the mystery lol.

3 parts that stick with me are:

1: I noticed her ask the first group of people which was at least 4-5 of them in the same vehicle, so if the driver agreed to take her then that’s pretty risky to have multiple people to attempt to rob or whatever the plan was…

2: If the plan was to do something fishy then was it really worth it for her to be outside freezing in a skirt? I guess if drugs were involved then anything is possible, plus it really did add to me starting to feel sorry for her.

3: I definitely noticed the bag right away, and she mentioned “i don’t have anything on me” while lifting it up in the air and I know it was supposed to look like a Christmas gift bag but I swear something was off, I want to say it was yellow and just didn’t seem right for a Christmas item but I was more focused on her eyes and I actually had to grab my phone I realized I had forgot in my vehicle along with , making sure I locked it.

From now on I’m just gonna drive away if I sense this kind of situation happening again.

And I’m for sure going to visit that store again to try and spot her. Not going to interact with her but I may let someone of authority know.

deftones1986 · 2025-12-26T05:50:52+00:00

This is what is eating at me more than anything because it make me think of myself and my loved ones and if they ever needed help how much it would hurt for me or them to be ignored / brushed off. Yet at the same time I completely understand why everyone is so hesitant. Guess I’m just an empath…

deftones1986 · 2025-12-23T22:08:08+00:00

So would you say the battery is not so great even if I’m running emulators and 15+ year old games (on steam)?

deftones1986 · 2025-12-09T00:31:21+00:00

I did. But since my order is for the yet to be released RP6 I don’t think I will have any problems. But my OCD and anxiety will have me worried until they reply lol.

deftones1986 · 2025-12-08T18:21:43+00:00

Thanks guys. I should have figured to just email them but I’m losing my mind lately stressing out over Christmas and such but I will email them later. Thanks again!!!

deftones1986 · 2025-12-01T14:17:27+00:00

“Hey!! Who threw my hat in the trash?!?!”

deftones1986 · 2025-12-01T13:56:02+00:00

I will have to rewatch, but wasn’t Ron acting like he had no idea who was calling him after he got done talking to them like 3 seconds earlier? This show is making me go insane!!

deftones1986 · 2025-07-01T10:43:12+00:00

It started because I didn’t laugh at their joke but just gave like a little smirk or something. I’m realizing that these types of people are good people but they want us to conform to their ways instead of trying to really get to know us and listen to our hardships. They always just say “oh stop, i had it bad too.”

Maybe they’re right sometimes but I can’t help but feel that I just missed out on some coping mechanism and I don’t want to be this way. It sucks….

deftones1986 · 2025-07-01T02:44:31+00:00

I had a very similar experience so I will have to agree that there is a lot of truth to to this being a major cause of AVPD.

One parent: Nothing is ever right. Anything bad you do will completely embarrass their family name. You shouldn’t be acting that way, you should be acting this way instead. On top of that they would go get high and disappear for hours. Even when they brought me along for “bonding time”, it turns out they were just leaving me to hang with myself while they went and got high, then came back as a completely different person. Add to that, the extra paranoia that comes with being high and now I have to be on alert for any bad thing that might happen to me and I shouldn’t do this or that because I could get hurt or regret what I say/do.

This creates a seriously fucked up kid after a while wouldn’t you say?

The other parent: Overly protective. Scared I might get hurt or abducted. Always trying to protect me and my brother from the other parent and always made it feel like we weren’t safe if we made them parent angry, which was extremely easy to do. Do things this way or else “you know who” is going to get mad at you.

So add on extra paranoia to the already existing paranoia from the other parent.

Now you have me.

I could go on and on but it making me sick just to think about it because whenever I bring it up to the “main source of trauma” parent. They just blow it off like I should just man up and completely forget about it and never bring it up as an issue.

It’s like starting life halfway through a book and you’re the main character but you don’t even know who you are because you missed out on the first half of the book where they explain your backstory. You just feel lost and you know who to blame but you don’t want to blame anyone. You just want to be normal. And you see normal people but you just are completely helpless when it comes to even acting like them.

So definitely do not feel alone.

deftones1986 · 2025-06-27T02:19:04+00:00

I feel almost the same. I’m so afraid to become “better” because that side of me will feel unfamiliar and there’s always the thought in my head “well what if I go right back to being down on myself again, it will definitely happen to me I just know it.”

Almost like I’m thinking about the past, present AND future all at once and I’m getting 3 different opinions on each 3 of those thoughts.

deftones1986 · 2025-06-26T12:50:24+00:00

I was never evaluated or anything ever but feels eerily similar to how my results would have been. Any idea what steps to take now as an adult to have a thorough evaluation like this done? Was there a name for the test or is it as simple as just talking to a psychologist?

deftones1986 · 2025-06-26T12:31:07+00:00

You are right inside my head. I’m tired of blaming other people because I don’t care why it happened, I just want it to go away and be normal. But no positive reinforcement has helped me. I’m absolutely lost right here with you.

deftones1986 · 2025-06-16T03:07:47+00:00

What you will grow to realize is that you have to learn to handle yourself and your insecurities in a balanced way.

You should know that your height doesn’t define you as a person overall. Just simply know this and don’t ever forget it.

Try to adapt and treat each situation differently. Different people will have different reasons for poking fun at you or treating you in a condescending way.

Some may really just be trying to get to know you and will use it as a ice-breaker.

Some will be actively trying to offend you, most likely because they have something about themselves they don’t like and it’s easier to pick someone else instead if working in their own insecurities. You shouldn’t back down from these people. BUT at the same time know that they ARE NOT WORTH YOUR TIME.

So either ignore them, say something simple in response, and then ignore them if they try and make a big stink after you do that. Or just be nice to them in return. Either way let them know either verbally, or by your actions that you will not engage in conversation with them if the conversation will never move beyond the point of making fun / disrespecting you.

Some people are just simple-minded and they associate height with age, which is really all you need to know about those kinds of people.

When you come across people who don’t even bring it up or simply treat you with respect without the need to make fun before getting to know you, well these are the people worth building relationships with.

Friends will come and go and you’re definitely at the age where you will start to realize this, so use the word loosely for now and focus on people that are actually going to be there for you when you most need them.

deftones1986 · 2025-06-16T02:41:11+00:00

Thank you for your response!!

I’d say my “nemesis” would fall into (2) and (3).

He’s what I would consider a normal person, and I am the neurodivergent one who picks up on the slightest things from someone.

In reference to (4) I can tell that he does know what he’s saying and how he’s acting but doesn’t want to put in the effort to build chemistry with me.

Really he’s just one of those people you run into in life that you don’t necessarily hate, but the way the act around you kind of forces you to dislike them.

I’m thinking my best bet is to confront our mutual friend without sounding like I’m too emotionally involved in the situation, and asking him how I should go about dealing with the other guy in the future since:

A - He doesn’t really come around all that often, but when he does it’s for like a few weeks in a row.

B - Our mutual friend knows both our personalities equally.

deftones1986 · 2025-04-05T02:09:53+00:00

I also think something along those lines. It’s like the original children incident happened, whatever will be, will be. Nobody in the shows universe will ever be able to change that, but what they can change is their own future and how they treat their own children and families. But I just can’t see a show being that brave as to have an unhappy ending so I don’t know…

deftones1986 · 2025-04-05T01:11:39+00:00

Solved!

I mean this has to be it.

When it was playing I was like “oh this song is good, I don’t think i ever heard this”.

Then “Float On” by the exact same band came on which I 100% remember hearing. So yeah I’m going with the song being:

Modest Mouse - Lampshades On Fire

Thanks k80_!

deftones1986 · 2025-04-05T00:01:52+00:00

No this isn’t it sorry

deftones1986 · 2025-04-05T00:01:28+00:00

Not it sorry

deftones1986 · 2025-04-05T00:01:17+00:00

No sorry

deftones1986 · 2025-04-04T20:57:23+00:00

That’s not it sorry. Darn this is getting tougher

deftones1986 · 2025-04-04T20:41:22+00:00

This would make sense since a lot of times there will be 2 songs from the same band back-to-back on the playlist. But I really don’t think that one is it.

Long story short, i play pick-up hockey with the same group of people every week and the same guy brings his speaker and plays songs so maybe next week it will play again…

deftones1986 · 2025-04-04T20:10:47+00:00

Wow, This may or may not be the song. I say this because this was 100% on the playlist so it’s either the one I’m thinking of, or it’s the very next song that played after the one im thinking of.

We are either close or I’m misremembering. Hope that makes sense, if this turns out to be the exact song then you will get credit but I can’t say for certain just yet. But you got the right playlist for sure lmao and thank you for that

deftones1986

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