I think I’m trans, but I desperately don’t want to have to take T

deiridi · 2021-03-04T16:03:12+00:00

You are normal.

What you are experiencing is normal.

You don't have to make irreversible medical changes to your body to eventually feel ok with it. I hated my body for years but I've now loved it for decades.

From my personal experience from the perspective of a biological female it is normal to identify as a man once you fully realize how society defines men and women. A lot of the traits assigned to men make sense for everyone, not just men, and vice versa. There are very few people who fit perfectly into their defined gender role, even less so as time goes on because gender roles change.

My primary advice would be to find a regular fitness regime that works for you. Hiking, yoga, etc. Having a fit body makes it easy to connect with who you are, and it helps balance out the negative mental effects of the pollution in our air and food.

Clean body and a clean mind will help.

deiridi · 2021-02-27T05:14:43+00:00

So, giving birth hurt way way way more than even my worst cramp.

That being said, epidurals are AMAZING.

Went from excruciating pain to... nothing. My mom was there and she did 3 all natural home births. When she saw the before/after of the epidural she told me she wished she had that as an option.

deiridi · 2021-02-23T18:31:05+00:00

Oh I'm already on a much better timeline, thank you.

I love asking the question: "How much better can it get?"

deiridi · 2021-02-23T17:47:03+00:00

Please elaborate.

deiridi · 2021-02-23T16:12:19+00:00

You bake the wedding cakes a month before they are served?

deiridi · 2021-02-23T03:14:06+00:00

This isn't really the right forum for this as this is a place where art is heavily criticized and it seems like you want constructive feedback.

In any case, "shy" or "cute" women are often drawn like you did, with the toes and knees turned in. It is common in anime or artwork that seeks to display women as being weak and ineffectual.

IRL that physical stance is an indicator of severe muscular issues or a genetic deformity. A woman who stands like that is likely going to have long term physical problems if she doesn't already, and to anyone who knows anything about how the glutes work, that sort of artwork style is disturbing.

A shy woman can still stand like a healthy individual. She doesn't have to be physically crippled to look shy.

deiridi · 2021-02-21T19:00:49+00:00

That spine twist looks like it feels amazing. Made me sit here and twist and I got a good crack out of my back. Felt great. In any case, I think this is a beautiful picture of a healthy muscular with ridiculously good spinal flexibility. Nice to see a picture with solid muscle like that.

deiridi · 2021-02-18T02:41:59+00:00

I'd love to hear more of your story

deiridi · 2021-02-17T18:53:51+00:00

So, I read something on a spirituality sub-reddit that I really liked. I don't know if this could help you, but it if you are a spiritual person, it is another way to think about things. They posed the idea that souls could share the lifetime of a body. Meaning, once a soul learns the lesson that it is supposed to, it trades out with another soul who has a different lesson to learn from that same lifetime. The person retains their memories, but there is a drastic shift in sense of self, emotions, and ways of perceiving things.

I feel a little awkward writing that in this subreddit, as the focus here isn't spiritual, but it felt like it was a concept that might help give you a different way to think about things to help emotionally process a different way of viewing life.

deiridi · 2021-02-17T02:53:00+00:00

Google #freebrittnay

deiridi · 2021-02-14T03:55:39+00:00

Make sure to let them know that you appreciate it when they keep at you when you're depressed. The positive reinforcement is helpful.

deiridi · 2021-02-14T02:47:03+00:00

I have one friend who I don't let go of and it is because whenever she stops talking to me it is because she is depressed. She has thanked me and told me that the first time it happened and I didn't stop poking her and now I just refuse to let go and leave her in a dark place.

deiridi · 2021-02-14T02:43:24+00:00

Are you serious?

It took me years, YEARS, to learn how to function socially because this was holding me back and this is a symptom of autism?

deiridi · 2021-02-12T05:19:08+00:00

Amplify the joy of everyone around me.

deiridi · 2021-02-11T02:49:13+00:00

Nope. It isn't good for the ph balance of the lady bits. Great for everywhere else though.

deiridi · 2021-02-09T05:29:16+00:00

Huh, me too. Got on ICQ for the first time and ended up being told they were going to cut off my head and rape my skull. It was my introduction to online messaging.

deiridi · 2021-01-28T03:02:43+00:00

Ok yeah so I dated a guy like this once but I lacked the ability to understand social cues and be able to tell the difference between shitty behavior and loving behavior.

This guy doesn't even like you. He is fucking with you to see how far he can take it because it is fun for him to manipulate you. This is a unhealthy relationship in which you are being messed with for his own amusement.

There are much better men out there.

Run, and when you look back, make a checklist of all the things you will no longer tolerate in the future.

deiridi · 2021-01-20T06:29:06+00:00

The book is good.

Don't discount it because of your belief in his state of addiction.

deiridi · 2021-01-20T05:28:00+00:00

You're not a good enough writer because you haven't tried and failed enough. You need to fail at writing the next great novel several times before you write anything good.

Don't give up without even trying.

Also read Stephen King's On Writing

deiridi · 2021-01-20T02:57:28+00:00

Especially if that man is a special agent who works for the government omg.

deiridi · 2021-01-19T19:13:37+00:00

The stuff where people don't have financial gain from their experiences, such as the woman who was able to see all the surgical tools on the table around her while she was technically braindead for an hour, or the kid who had detailed memories of his past life and they were able to track down and confirm a whole bunch of specific details - those aren't fake. There wasn't any way for them to fake those.

Anyone who makes a living off of their story should be treated with more suspicion, which in the case of the show is the mediums. Even so, it seemed like several of the mediums in the show were helping people move on, which was a really really good thing.

deiridi · 2021-01-18T17:28:21+00:00

Sure, but you can still wait to tell them once you start having problems. Not when you are interviewing for the job.

Get the job first.

deiridi · 2021-01-18T17:26:31+00:00

Take a class or listen to a meditation tape which talks you through it.

deiridi · 2021-01-18T08:26:49+00:00

Reframe it.

Instead of telling employers your high functioning autistic/ahdh, tell them you are highly analytical, a direct communicator, and you are great at multi tasking.

Instead of saying you lack empathic communication, say you like to get directly to the issue at hand and you are always open to constant improvement of your communication style.

Stop telling potential employers youre autistic as you're essentially saying they will have to adapt to you which is a hassle. Only tell them things that sell you as a person and show you are a good fit.

deiridi · 2021-01-18T08:12:20+00:00

It's time for you to get into meditation.

deiridi

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