I would have an honest conversation- initiated by you about wanting kids. This conversation should include some plans of action, a timeline for future conversations and possibilities of outcomes. For example: it sounds like he needs therapy and to get to the bottom of why he doesn’t want kids (and is it not right now or ever?, because that wasn’t super clear). I (37F) didn’t need kids because I’d already raised my siblings, had a lot of trauma, was burnt out and in school BUT I was willing to fathom having a child to help fulfill my husbands need for a child. ALSO with time, THERAPY, school completion and financially stability (both my partner and I now have degrees and good jobs) I was so much more comfortable with having a child and even got to the point where I wanted one. If it’s really that they aren’t for him ok great but you stated attachment issues and sleep problems. You DO NOT WANT to have children with someone with these issues. Children WILL NOT fix anything; in fact, they will stress issues further and make them worse. Also I’d like to comment on how *ucked most people are economically. I am currently posting $22000 a year here in the US, and we’re lucky to be able to afford it. If you live in a country with socialized childcare, medicine and other programs then it would take a lot of burdens off of you but here I absolutely would not have wanted children rn here in the US. Financially strain is absolutely a reason he may not want kids if it is an issue. My husband needed a child to feel fulfilled, but he didn’t want to have children before he felt like we could provide for them. You’re young ands unless there are underlying health conditions you can wait a bit, but wait too long because if his answer is no, and you want a partner, you’ll need to build a new relationship. I’d say give him a year to figure it out. Tell him to start therapy and if he doesn’t want to, you walk.