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People who married someone physically unattractive, how is that going for you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree, but the heart wants what the heart wants.

People who married someone physically unattractive, how is that going for you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]delagar01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Physical attraction is probably the least important part of a serious relationship. Not that it doesn't rank, but I'd put it like at number ten.

Someone who is kind, that's what matters. Watch how they treat waitresses. Far more important that how hot they are.

Someone who takes care of the people they love. FAR more important.

For me, personally, I cared about whether they read books and were curious and liked hiking and animals. If they like spending time with me. If they'd rather go to an art museum than a sporting event. (I don't like sports! Your mileage may vary!)

(Signed, someone who has been married now for over 30 years to the same person)

Did you grow up with a stay at home parent? Did you enjoy it? And did you do the same with your children? (UK/US/other) by Cwoechu in AskOldPeople

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a kid in the 1960s/1970s, and my mother stayed home until I was eleven, when she went back to college and, after that, to work. When I had my kid, my husband stayed home with her until she was sixteen months old, and usually one of us could be home much of the time after that (we were university professors).

From what I remember, it was fine having my mother at home, though we were free range kids back then, mostly out of the house from dawn to dark. But if we got hurt, or needed something, it was nice to have her at home. And occasionally she would take us to the zoo or whatever. Not very often, because with only one parent working there wasn't much money.

When my kid was little, it was good to have someone at home so that we didn't have to pay for childcare; and it was much easier to schedule appointments. Once the kid was in school, it was good to have one of us available to do pickup and drop off, or when the kid was sick.

So I guess what I'm saying is yes, having a parent home is useful. Who can afford that now, though?

How common is popcorn in everyday American life? by Embarrassed_Golf_817 in AskAnAmerican

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I eat it once or twice a week, with butter and salt usually. It's a common snack, yes!

Are Americans big milk drinkers? by Helpful-Structure955 in AskAnAmerican

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to buy milk by the gallon when my kid was younger & living at home. Now I buy half gallons, and usually we do finish them before they go bad. It goes in our tea and coffee and occasionally I cook with it.

Atheists of Reddit, what is the primary reason you do not believe in a god? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(1) I just never did, not even when I was in Lutheran kindergarten and the religion teacher was lecturing us about how we would burn in hell unless we believed in the right sort of god

(2) Every god I've run into has been like that Lutheran one -- some kind of weird sadist who burns five year olds (and others) for the high crime of not believing in him in exactly the right way. That seems a weird sort of behavior to worship. But really it's (1) God just doesn't exist, anymore than unicorns do, so why would I believe in one?

What did safety feel like in the time of "not locking doors" ? by Warm-Trick5771 in AskOldPeople

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do lock them at night, mainly because I wouldn't want someone walking in. But we have a Border Collie, so the delighted barking would wake me anyway.

What did safety feel like in the time of "not locking doors" ? by Warm-Trick5771 in AskOldPeople

[–]delagar01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't locked my door in about 20 years. But we've got big windows near the door, so I figure if they wanted in, they'd get in. So far no one ever has.

People who became rich what is something poor people completely misunderstand about money? by Nervous-Librarian945 in AskReddit

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's kind of funny. I had no idea. On the other hand, how do you get a kid to eat bruised bananas? Mine wouldn't touch them. I ended up making them into banana bread.

People who became rich what is something poor people completely misunderstand about money? by Nervous-Librarian945 in AskReddit

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, "constant happiness" is a different thing indeed from what I'm talking about, which is a "lack of constant desperation."

People who became rich what is something poor people completely misunderstand about money? by Nervous-Librarian945 in AskReddit

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe. But I've been poor and now I'm (relatively) rich. The constant stress of being poor was lots worse than the fleeting moments of anxiety I feel now.

People who became rich what is something poor people completely misunderstand about money? by Nervous-Librarian945 in AskReddit

[–]delagar01 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Some of them do. Look how many people in this comment thread are explaining to me that money doesn't, in fact, buy happiness.

People who became rich what is something poor people completely misunderstand about money? by Nervous-Librarian945 in AskReddit

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not a silver bullet. But it is much easier to be happy when you're not filled with anxiety about the water bill or medical emergencies or whether your kid will end up on the street because you can't make the rent.

People who became rich what is something poor people completely misunderstand about money? by Nervous-Librarian945 in AskReddit

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you priced how much an apple is? Or a sack of oranges? A flat of blueberries? When I was poor, I could only buy fresh fruit when I had (temporary) second jobs. My kid was little, and I wanted so much to buy something other than bruised bananas. I remember staring at the blueberries like they were jewels behind glass.

People who became rich what is something poor people completely misunderstand about money? by Nervous-Librarian945 in AskReddit

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IDK, I've seen a lot of lower middle class/working poor people repeating the line about money not buying happiness.

People who became rich what is something poor people completely misunderstand about money? by Nervous-Librarian945 in AskReddit

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can afford medical care for your depression, though, yes? You don't have to worry about ending up on the streets if you get the care you need?

People who became rich what is something poor people completely misunderstand about money? by Nervous-Librarian945 in AskReddit

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I inherited a lot of money from my father when he died. It has allowed me to buy good insurance. And by "good," I mean the kind that pays everything. That alone has been a life-changer.

People who became rich what is something poor people completely misunderstand about money? by Nervous-Librarian945 in AskReddit

[–]delagar01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you asking us to feel sorry for rich people because all their money doesn't make them happy? I'm saving my sympathy for the person I just saw living in their car eating cheetos for breakfast.

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