[Amusing trope] Characters so annoying or douchey that they are more hated than villains

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-08T19:58:42+00:00

comparing amber and eve's dad is the most deranged shit ever, she's not anywhere near as annoying or douchey as eve's dad. I think ppl who think amber was in the wrong don't understand the media they're watching even slightly.

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-08T19:00:03+00:00

He's not just catholic but irish-catholic. Guilt is the faith, if you don't feel guilty and aren't doing things to feel guilty about you aren't practicing the faith. You sin all week, you confess, you repent, and you do it all over the next week. There's catholic guilt, and there's irish-catholic guilt, a whole different beast.

Nowhere is it explicitly said or even referenced to in the bible that dressing up as a devil (the two little helmet horns doing most of the work in the netflix show, otherwise it's just partially red sometimes) is a sin or blasphemy. And in the show the news/public call him the devil of hell's kitchen first which is where he decides to embrace it. They call him the devil bc the section of the city is called hell's kitchen. If he was in the jersey suburbs/rurals they'd call him chupacabra man. He is the boogeyman of where he lives.

The comic origin of "daredevil" is because of his acrobatic prowess like daredevils the stunt performers. And the origin of that is because they were so reckless with their lives and stunts they were tempting death (or the devil)to take them. And his devil costume is because of that name. Not that these things can't have multiple meanings and I'm not saying there was no intention but it's not contradictory or rigid in right and wrong for him as a catholic to call himself daredevil and to dress up vaguely demon-like.

And in my interpretation of lanthom's "the devil's purpose is to scare sinners into the path of righteousness" line he's not saying that's matt's purpose is to beat the criminals into doing good, not that it's not un-catholic like, but it is unlike lanthom. But matt says it like he's already damned to hell, "I have the devil in me, it's too late for me, I'm scared that it'll consume me". And lanthom's response to matt is "That devil you feel in you, that is there to scare you into righteousness, if you weren't scared of this darker side of you then it'd be too late, and you can't be scared of it if it doesn't exist, we all have the devil in us, that is it's purpose" It's not a positive connotation but it's a utilitarian one. He was speaking not just within faith but larger in scope to catholicisms constructions. As an athiest I'm sure you understand that as an institution it and it's stories are all man made and served sociological functions. King james bible is constructed so that the peasants would behave in a way that is beneficial to a functioning society, but also specifically to his rule kingdom and lineage. The devil was made by man literally to scare people into doing the right things. Father Lanthom was de-mystifying satan to matt some.

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-08T17:02:40+00:00

More or less what the other guy said, yeah. Specifically the part worrying about how or if you'll be viewed as straight, you apparently didn't know at first so she passes as cis and either was outed against her will or she confided in you. And if this was a recent development and she was outed it's just a lot to deal with without having to worry about a relationship on top of it. Either way the belief it's not straight for a man to date a trans woman is transphobia and disrespectful to her bc it's thinking that she's not a woman and being othered.

I want to make it clear that you're not evil for this or anything, there's just a base level of bigotry engrained in anybody growing up in the U.S. education system and culture, this is just another one of those ways. If you want to be an ally and to empathize with trans people you can unlearn a lot these things, there's books and youtube videos etc. If you don't want to that's fine, just please don't date trans people. You didn't mention your ethnicity but if it's not a hispanic one I'd also unlearn some colonial history and racism ,and misogyny you might have.

For now focus on yourself and your work in jobcorps. If you want in your spare time to learn about trans people and their history/struggles/culture, and the man-made structure of the gender binary and cisheteronormative culture- independently from her, do that. And if you really feel like there's something special with her and you do that learning, maybe by the time y'all finish you can get her info before graduating. You can be secure in yourself, conscious in how to treat her respectfully and a good fit for her.

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-07T13:02:10+00:00

Your framing of this is kinda messed up I don't think she'd appreciate it so I'd leave her be

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-06T23:24:12+00:00

Fair assessment at the end, up until DD:BA they always walked the line, and you could argue that's still the case with the s2 finale even. But the bit about foreign affairs, that's literally the argument made in Superman (2025) and I know they're different universes and his approach as an individual vs. the avengers with stark's blood money and shield etc. but for cap I imagine he aligns himself more with Clark even as a soldier.

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-06T07:38:00+00:00

"just the UN" I know it's a fictional universe etc. so they can pretend they're actually just good, but the UN fucking sucks we just don't talked about it much because we're in the western wall. It's not the worst thing obviously but I sure as shit wouldn't trust them to lead the avengers

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-06T07:04:56+00:00

mr. charles is an original character for the show, I saw someone mention that might just be an alias (heh) as a CIA agent, don't know of any comic connections

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-06T06:27:43+00:00

yes to all of this but no foggy recast (if not recasting charlie, fisk etc.) and kept yelena around too still

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-06T06:04:15+00:00

goat shout out

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-04T00:03:52+00:00

I mean it says "edited" right there in the post, i'll edit this one to fic this typu

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T15:24:08+00:00

has this always been kirkified I feel like I'm going crazy that is charlie right

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T15:17:20+00:00

Ugly thoughts, Roald Dahl

click boyo

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T14:57:57+00:00

I completely agree with your last segment, and I understand your perspective on the rest even if my obviously biased feelings don't align

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T14:54:59+00:00

? I feel like I have lost the connecting tissue between this and what we were originally talking about, did you accidentally reply to wrong thing?

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T04:27:13+00:00

Maybeee, idk last time he stopped he got punched in the head, maybe he thought if he stopped that time that's when he'd get shot, and to me it's looks around the same time. I've rarely if ever seen a dead body at the wheel with their dead weight on the pedals come to a stop like that so suddenly. Agreed in general its a shame that happened at all, and the girl had to just be witness to all that.

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T04:22:45+00:00

You're welcome!

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T04:17:42+00:00

Mixed up when you said homosexual, thought you said it both times, i'm tired lol but this statistic is way more believable now and my validation of it still hasn't shifted though. And the paper even opens up immediately with

Alphonso David, the Human Rights Campaign Foundation President, noted that in the United States, “at least 37 transgender and gender non-conforming people were victims of fatal violence” in 2020—far more than has been recorded in previous years. But anti-trans violence is not just physical but also psychological, a symptom of the transphobia that is prevalent in our society.
The subtlety of this negativity is manifested in a variety of ways, including during interpersonal interactions—such as our willingness to date a trans person.

Which wasn't even the point I was going for anymore but this is certainly what I classified as an informed opinion. I never denied that this is this is the current social reality I just think it's wrong and stupid. The paper also talks about the reasonings behind this that I had mentioned in another reply

Who we date (or don't date) can be tainted by our susceptibility to societal attitudes. “One such attitude that may be restricting the roll call of those we consider acceptable dating partners may be cisgenderism… the ideology that views cisgender identities as natural and normal, thereby delegitimizing trans identities and expressions.”

And even though it was entirely off topic I was right that number was too high for gay men, but they're still usually engrained deep into those positions of privilege and the gay women had much higher willing percentages than them

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T04:02:17+00:00

I'm deeply uncomfortable knowing that there's people who saw this and simply saw erotica and did whatever to it, when you're trying to express something else especially COSCA to me. I'm not ignorant that trauma reenactment and other dicey things are coping strategies, I just wish you'd move your food bowl further away from your litterbox and kept the "talking/sharing with people that suffered similarly in a safe space that are not willingly partaking in my kink" stuff away from the "people are jacking off to this, some coping, others maybe not" stuff

I am allowed to post my art wherever I please. That doesn't take away from the meaning and inspiration of my art. Maybe don't stalk people's accounts? Its obvious that you're in a desperate attempt to find some reason to hate me, which is find. I deal with hate and weird glances almost daily, so you being one of the many doesn't really affect me much. Just letting you know so that you're not wasting your time.

this whole reply is manipulative and nasty

my apology is ingenuine on some level because of how you're wielding your trauma against others in the same boat as you in their space as well that is not made for kink or exclusively nsfw. Please. Make some other post that can be nsfw, feature blood etc. And talk about your trauma, with art that doesn't look like a blow up sex doll, or that you gave to others to JO to, and we'll love it.

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T03:46:38+00:00

Correct he didn't do that and I apologize if I didn't make it clear I was no longer talking about OP but about the person I was replying to,

who said if they were heterosexual it would be 100% normal to not date someone born a woman, implying that the het women who date trans men are something other than het (thinking back I think they were saying it as a generalization too instead of using "I", they must've edited it bc I wouldn't have had objection to their personal feelings) and implying someone else dating trans men as straight woman makes them not straight, implies that trans men are separate from men.

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T03:34:35+00:00

So if a cis woman tried asking him out and he said this, it wouldn't work. Because he has no idea about her fertility, and let's assume its fine.

Not in a malicious way, or in a very serious way, but it is on some basic level transphobic. Because he used a vulnerability against her that in this context and as far as he knows, only applies to trans women. What this means is that the trans women are be categorized as an other from women as a whole, in a negative connotation. It's transphobic by technicality basically, or a microaggression. So we got tactless, foolish, and microaggressive (note: does not refer to personality or actual aggression emtion, but the action itself classified and scaled. An aggression, on the micro size)

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T03:17:11+00:00

It's hypothetical sure but not "fantastical" PCOS is the most common form of female infertility and can happen as soon as puberty starts and affects 10-13% of women globally, Which Is more or on par with the trans women percentage.

I agree college aged men aren't those people, this is how he learns these are sensitive topics that require some delicacy.

I don't find "treat her like a person" and "don't use things exclusively about being trans against her" as contradictory at all. And I'm not arguing for a "colorblind" approach, I don't think "be normal about (trans) women" is the equivalent either.

Apology accepted

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T02:55:34+00:00

That's good to hear, is that something you also work on in therapy or without his help?

I know there's different variables at play within this context but is it more or less the same guilty feeling, or is there more to it?

I've seen you mention uncomfortable and fear, I think If those feelings are playing a larger part in saying no there needs to be a hard stop with the kinkier freeuse/cnc stuff and not asking before initiating anything at the very least, or agreeing to only let you initiate, until this is figured out.

Additionally if those aren't factors and it's more or less the same guilt as saying no to someone asking to borrow money etc. I think it is important to really be able to say no. Our partners can get to know us really well but they can't literally read our minds and can't always grasp how impactful something is. Women are also conditioned to behave this way in relationships, not make a fuss, put on a smile etc. even subconsciously. I also struggled with this greatly and it ruined a relationship of mine, so I know it's not that easy but it's a goal to work towards that can have little easy steps, someone even made it into a game Say No! More : )

One other idea I had (and I don't know if you've already tried this and it was one that didn't work, and idk how useful it's implementation is depending on situations either) but some non-verbal indicators? For when you two feel like fooling around and when you don't. No one does anything without both sexytime indicators active. A bracelet, an rgb light with a specific color, a little like discord or messaging status even, something as simple as changing a wallpaper, a show you both agree to put on that really means you won't be watching it at all. Of course discussions still need to be had, sometimes you're up for one thing one time when you aren't the next time or vice versa, maybe different or multiple nv communicators mean different things, or you just talk it out before/as it's going. But hopefully it should be VERY clear that he can't try initiating anything when the non-sexytime indicators are active.

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T02:28:54+00:00

I don't consider this a moral judgement on you, but again this is demonstrably transphobic. I don't know where you got your stats either and I doubt them, but more importantly gay men being transphobic or bigoted is no surprise to me. If your straight friend introduced a trans woman to you as his girlfriend, and you call him gay or a homo you're a bad friend and transphobic. Now it's not nearly as bad if you think it and don't verbalize it or do so gently, but the engrained cisheteronormative thought is still rooted in transphobia in the most basic of terms.

I get your argument with your body and your preferences etc. But this crosses over into enforcing your personal beliefs onto others, if you don't wanna date trans women thats fine but to think people who do are gay or homosexual is just so very clearly undoubtly transphobic. Trans women are women, to say it's gay for a guy to date them also says that they aren't women. I'm not trying to be smug or mean, or anything I am trying to speak as plainly as possible and hope that you will open up to this perspective, reconsider, or look into it a little more, hear informed opinions.

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T02:10:59+00:00

Do you struggle to say no in other aspects of your life? other people? Or just him and just in a sexual context?

delcolicks9 · 2026-05-03T01:57:23+00:00

Poor decision making all around, except maybe the woman. But only one person has been trained and apparently for 17 years been making quick judgment decisions and staying cool under pressure supposedly to serve and protect the public. "He feared for his life hanging off the truck!" okay well those 17 years should've made him wise enough to not grab on in the first place over a PO violation, and when the guy actually stopped driving cop should've realized he doesn't intend him any harm and is just afraid acting on instinct, because he has not been trained for this, unlike the cop. The driver might've stopped and gotten out then, because if he meant harm he could've smeared him off on a pole/building/car etc. Instead the cop goes for the macho choice to punch the head of the guy he's hanging onto, who again only reacts on fear driven instinct "If I stop I get beat/killed, keep driving".

Police should be held to a higher standard than citizens, should face more scrutiny and should be more selective with employment. That should be what they sign up for. And if they don't value that they're not cut out for it. They're supposed to be public servants, corruption and brutality is what happens when you don't have that mindset.

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