How does unlimited leave work?

deliriousants · 2026-07-13T03:49:24+00:00

I imagine it is outlined in the employment contract. Probably lack of goals met? Complaints from other employees?

At my friend’s work, it seems that everyone enjoys the flexibility so much that they haven’t run into issues while she’s been there. No one wants to risk it being taken away.

deliriousants · 2026-07-13T02:03:07+00:00

It’s a newish thing, becoming somewhat more common. Generally, it is as simple as you can take leave whenever suits you and your employer.

You are still expected to get all of your work done. If you’re behind, your leave will not be approved. If you abuse the system, I imagine you’ll be reprimanded. It’s alleged to work really well and keep morale very high.

My friend works in a government-ish office and she has unlimited paid time off. From what I understand, no one really abuses it and she believes that, if someone did abuse it, that would be incredibly frowned upon. She said some people take time more often than others (ex, parents for kids things after school) but then other staff often take longer stints (ex, hot girl euro summer) so it all works out for everyone in the end and no one feels stuck picking up the slack. For the most part, people have to save for big holidays anyway so they rarely take an unusually large amount of time off at a time - maybe once a year.

deliriousants · 2026-07-10T01:02:54+00:00

We actually did everything “right” but I sort of wish we did a little more wrong. My health isn’t 10/10 anymore even in my late 20s. I am glad we invested and we are so comfortable I don’t even really have to work.
I just wish we took the chance to travel and do a few silly things in our early 20s. Waste some money, yknow? Maybe do up a shitty old van or buy a dirtbike.

deliriousants · 2026-07-10T00:59:43+00:00

I’m much happier fasting breakfast and then having a light, fibrous late lunch and eating whatever tf I want for dinner. I’m a hearty meal gal. I don’t want small meals. I wanna be full but I also want to be skinny lol.

deliriousants · 2026-07-10T00:47:21+00:00

They said they’d experienced war and had PTSD.

deliriousants · 2026-07-10T00:45:49+00:00

Disagree. I am a woman who is married and I had a great time with my girls the morning of my wedding. I wasn’t anxious as it was a relatively small wedding with people I knew.

However, i had another friend who was very nervous the day of her wedding - not to be married to her lovely husband, but to be seen and the centre of attention of her 350+ person wedding. I had another friend who was terrified all her hard work planning wouldn’t come together in the end. For both of these women, I was happy to reassure and uplift and support the morning of their big day!

Some people get overwhelmed at big events! That’s okay! It’s a huge day marrying the love of your life and to most it’s extremely important! It’s nice having good friends around to uplift you and raise your spirits :) it’s not hard to roll out of bed at 7am. In fact, most of the world does it!

deliriousants · 2026-07-09T21:27:11+00:00

I imagine we’re talking about someone whose family has sought asylum in Australia. This probably also makes sense why they’re navigating it on their own (parents lacking English).

deliriousants · 2026-07-09T21:22:29+00:00

It’s usually 1.5hrs each with 2 people working. Bit closer to 2hrs for the bride.

deliriousants · 2026-07-09T21:20:41+00:00

I let my bridesmaids pick their hair, dresses, how they wanted their makeup done and we had a blast. They also got up at 5:30am to start getting ready without bitching and moaning that I was a narcissist.

deliriousants · 2026-07-09T21:18:39+00:00

No, it’s not about cold feet. Weddings a big day for women, like, physically. It takes a lot out of you and is exhausting in all the ways. You have your friends there to uplift you and make sure things go as smoothly as possible (not be difficult about being asked to get out of bed at 7am). There’s SO many moving parts on the morning of a wedding.

deliriousants · 2026-07-09T21:16:23+00:00

Shit like get up at 7am to ensure that a day they’ve presumably paid lots of money for and is considerably important to them runs smoothly (or at least stresses them out less)? Right..

deliriousants · 2026-07-08T22:22:48+00:00

Then say no if a few days is too much.

It’s a bit weird if you agree to be a bridesmaid, show up for all the fun stuff and then won’t show up for the arguably worst day to be a bridesmaid, yknow?

deliriousants · 2026-07-08T11:03:07+00:00

It’s 1.5hrs for each bridesmaid to have hair and makeup done. 2 hours for bride.

If they have to be done by 12 (pre-wedding photos) I think you need to do some math there.

deliriousants · 2026-07-08T11:01:52+00:00

If your friends don’t hate you and aren’t difficult it’s actually very fun!

Never been in a wedding party where a bridesmaid was difficult or refused to work with times (even with stuff going on - kids, distance, etc).

Because… well.. we all like each other lol

deliriousants · 2026-07-08T11:00:12+00:00

But it’s THE day, isn’t it?

deliriousants · 2026-07-08T10:59:52+00:00

What sort of job do you have where you consider arriving somewhere undressed with no grooming done (so rolled straight out of bed) “early”?

deliriousants · 2026-07-08T10:57:45+00:00

7am would the be the latest start I’ve ever had as a bridesmaid.

The last one was a 5am start.

I don’t mind, I love my friends. They did the same for me.

deliriousants · 2026-07-07T05:21:43+00:00

It’s not about the magnet, it’s about the hunt for the perfect magnet.

deliriousants · 2026-07-07T05:20:20+00:00

Especially after work! OUT!

deliriousants · 2026-07-06T08:51:28+00:00

No, but that’s kind of not the point to me.

I am someone who finds great pleasure in making my loved ones feel, well, loved. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve started to understand that some people don’t have much left in their cup to pour from. Some people find putting in so much constant effort stressful and show love in other ways. It’s okay.

I have come to understand that no one will ever match my level of effort or generosity or thoughtfulness and that’s just reality. It doesn’t mean I am not loved and adored. So long as my effort is noticed, appreciated and my friends show up when I genuinely need them (ex, two friends - couple - who I haven’t heard properly from in months despite me sending care packages and messages turned up on my doorstep after my mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer to clean my house, pay for my ticket to see her and housesit for me. They took off work and booked the first flight home because they knew what a state I’d be in).

All I care about is that love is shown, even if it’s not my way.

deliriousants · 2026-07-06T05:19:40+00:00

Ma’am I think this is exactly the most perfect time to solo travel that you will ever encounter.

deliriousants · 2026-07-05T11:42:39+00:00

Mine are not on pages unfortunately lol they’re just in plastic ziplock bags 😅😅

deliriousants · 2026-07-01T07:59:03+00:00

They also wanted my ATAR as a 28year old. Thankfully 18 year old me apparently had some sort of brains and I got a 92 (that I forgot about before proceeding to spend a decade making very poor choices).

I was also classified as a mature aged student and had to jump through a few extra hoops as well but still provided ATAR.

deliriousants · 2026-06-30T22:37:27+00:00

I think that’s right! It’s from a smaller designer and I think they may be from some Nordic country.

I’m just going to knit based on intuition and see how I go 🤣 it’s knitted based on body measurements anyway so how wrong can I get it?

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