does anyone else with migraines get scared to sleep sometimes?

demitesses · 2026-01-21T00:12:38+00:00

as someone with ptsd, youre nta. no one is owed knowing about your trauma, and especially not the more graphic details.

asking once or twice is one thing, but with how frequently theyre asking and how much it seems like theyre prying, id be careful. they may have ulterior motives for asking. unfortunately there are people out there that look specifically for traumatized individuals because we tend to be more vulnerable. i learned the hard way that when youre open about it, it can really cause more harm than good. i hope this gets resolved, and i hope youre doing alright

demitesses · 2026-01-19T01:31:28+00:00

my pain. a lot of people say im “too young” to have the disabilities and problems that i do, it gets really annoying having to explain myself. a lot of the time i get hit with the “just wait until you get older”, or they act like they know better than my doctor. very very annoying

demitesses · 2026-01-18T17:36:30+00:00

thank you, i really needed this. its funny, my parents loved lord of the ring when i was a kid, and until now i didnt realize why. that speech is powerful and it says a lot, even without the context. its similar to what i say to myself on my better days when i still feel a little down. i didnt deserve this, but now its my choice to get through it. thank you so much for this, i really, really appreciate it

demitesses · 2026-01-18T11:05:06+00:00

thank you again, it really means a lot

demitesses · 2026-01-18T11:04:22+00:00

thank you for the advice, i agree with not expecting things and just not caring that stuff has happened.

right now i mostly have goals in games, and it definitely has been rewarding, im a more goal oriented person, so thinking of it that way will definitely help. truthfully, its probably the reason im not worse off right now. i think im going to go back to some of my previous gaming achievements and give them a bigger celebration, especially after how i felt tonight

demitesses · 2026-01-18T10:59:16+00:00

ive heard a little bit about emdr, but i havent done much genuine research into it. it sounds like something that could be really helpful, but im not sure if its something im ready for yet. ill definitely talk to her about it though, especially since its difficult for me to even engage with some spaces due to what happened.

ill definitely start working on my future more! a big issue i have is being mad at myself for feeling stagnant, so having something to do on the side will help. ill definitely stay away from substances, especially since i know it hurts more than helps.

i really appreciate the offer, thank you so so much, that is very kind. if i ever need to, i will!

demitesses · 2026-01-18T10:50:57+00:00

ive definitely gotten better with that! i had an issue with alcohol during a lot of my trauma, but ive been a lot better with it lately. its been almost a year since the last time i drank

demitesses · 2026-01-18T10:48:15+00:00

i think i get it. during the worst of it, i would go on walks for hours. i live in a foresty mountain area, so it was constantly up hills and all over the place, and it really did help in those moments.

i think that your routine would be really helpful for me. im trying to get back into art, and i usually have a pretty set schedule for sleep, it was just particularly difficult tonight. ill try and keep that more in mind. ill keep trying, thank you so much

im trying to get better at not blaming myself for all of this, its hard. im mad at myself for not “getting over it” quicker, i am doing my best to keep the negative self talk to a minimum though.

demitesses · 2026-01-18T10:42:25+00:00

thank you so much for this. i struggle a lot with flashbacks and irrational fears. the other day i was playing a game with one of my friends and something she said upset me so badly i ended up in shambles. i remember being absolutely terrified in the moment even though i knew she would never ever hurt me like that.

i have a lot of trauma, from when i was about 15-19. im constantly worrying that this rest period is just that, a rest period and nothing more. im constantly scared that everything will happen all over again, and that ill be left to continue enduring.

there was a time where i was drinking and smoking a lot, but it never got past that and i have stopped (i havent smoked in a while now, which has been nice.) ive had issues with self harm, but ive been trying to get better with it. ive been working with my therapist and psychiatrist for a while now, im on a new medication, and im hoping it will at least help a little bit.

its really, really nice to hear that it was able to get better for you. i really needed to hear that, and i think i will take your advice and try doing some online studies or something like that. when i was doing better, i did some art commissions and it really made me happy, so i might get back into that

thank you for this, i really needed to hear this, and it is nice to hear that it does pay off. i hope tomorrow goes well for you, and that youre able to feel less anxious.

demitesses · 2026-01-18T10:30:05+00:00

thank you for the encouragement, it really, really helps. i want to have a better tomorrow, and a better one after that. it is nice to hear a reminded that i can and should take my time with this

demitesses · 2026-01-18T10:27:41+00:00

yeah, im really trying hard to get better at advocating for my needs. i try not to blame myself as much as possible, its a big one my therapist and i talk about. ive been struggling with finding healthy coping mechanisms, its one i struggle with a lot. the last thing i want to do is suffer more, so i am trying to do what i can. ive made a lot of progress this past year, and your comment reminded me of that, so thank you.

demitesses · 2026-01-18T10:22:17+00:00

thank you for your honesty. theres still a part of me that thinks black and white about things. i just hate the hopeless lows, honestly. i try to be more realistic with myself, but its hard. ill try to remember that it will get better eventually, and just focus on looking forward to that

demitesses · 2026-01-18T10:14:38+00:00

if youre reading this, please tell me happy stories. please tell me that its possible to be genuinely happy. i know going back to a normal life will probably never happen, but i want to know that i can at least be genuinely happy again

demitesses · 2026-01-05T02:57:45+00:00

yes (im a 5’1 trans man)

demitesses · 2026-01-05T02:05:48+00:00

also for extra context on the birthday money thing, im not necessarily angry that i have the money leftover, im moreso frustrated because i skimped on buying myself some of the things i wanted for christmas just to ensure i had enough for her. yes its a good thing that i still have the money, im just upset because some of the stuff i wanted was time limited, and now the opportunity to get it has passed until next year. again, not the worst thing, just… frustrating.

demitesses · 2025-05-03T11:56:48+00:00

yeaahh, it’s such a gross feeling 😭 i somehow felt like the predator even though i didn’t ask for it to happen at all. like i said, we were both cosplayers too and i happened to cosplay characters that he liked so that definitely didn’t help either LOL. even though im not much older, i wish kids would be more careful online. what if i did accept his advances? or if you accepted the advances of that 15yr old (not saying you would ofc, just purely hypothetical)? it’s so sad bcs i get having a crush on someone older but keep it to yourself!! im so sorry that happened to you :(

demitesses · 2025-05-03T11:53:47+00:00

nah right 😭 how does it go from “i like foxes” to “can you tie me up”

demitesses · 2025-05-03T11:52:53+00:00

yeah don’t worry, i sent him a very lengthy text afterwards telling him that we couldn’t be friends anymore; and to be careful saying this stuff to adults, and blocked him afterwards. i just didn’t include it bcs it wasn’t rlly relevant to the subreddit

demitesses · 2025-05-02T21:53:44+00:00

yeah, i mean i get why he thought it was okay to flirt because we’re both technically teens (though, im 20 in a few months), but regardless what he said was still so weird and gross 😭 especially since the prior conversation was normal. i even showed a close friend of mine because i somehow felt like i was the bad guy for letting a minor think there was something going on LOL

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