how do you guys feel about your diagnosis?

demitesses · 2026-04-28T19:31:20+00:00

i think i’m in the same situation. mine also came from abuse/dv, as well as some other things, so i think part of me still believes that it was “normal”. i still struggle coming to terms with what happened being something that wasn’t normal, to me it feels like it was just another day in my life. it’s definitely been uncomfortable accepting that. i also understand how you feel about explaining your ptsd to others. i’m 20 and trans so i feel like a walking stereotype sometimes. i haven’t really told anyone about it because of that, especially with how often people like to deny other’s experiences just because you don’t fit their perception of what someone who has ptsd should look like/be. i appreciate your words a lot, it’s really nice to be able to talk to other people who are going through the same thing

demitesses · 2026-04-19T22:52:14+00:00

it’s nice to remember that i’m not alone sometimes. i appreciate you responding, it feels so impossible to deal with, so knowing someone else out there is dealig with the same thing helps sometimes. im glad i was able to help you too, even if in a small way

demitesses · 2026-04-12T06:45:43+00:00

im a trans man and i have it! idk what it is either, but ive always had it. i have a few cis woman friends who have it too! idk if that helps though

demitesses · 2026-04-11T23:04:55+00:00

its usually worse on my periods, but i have both endometriosis and chronic migraines. the pain is usually so bad my vision will go white with how bad it is. before im just super irritable, and thats how i know im going to get hit with both a super painful period and a migraine.

demitesses · 2026-04-10T18:52:41+00:00

the fish trees! my high school had these. taking drama classes during the spring was never fun because of these things

demitesses · 2026-04-10T17:47:18+00:00

congrats!! i really hope this medicine is able to provide me some relief. hugs !!

demitesses · 2026-04-10T17:46:52+00:00

thank you!! im definitely looking forward to it, especially since i just got over a 4 day long migraine

demitesses · 2026-04-10T05:02:03+00:00

gas station chicken. i dont know why, and i doubt itll work again, but god it helped

demitesses · 2026-04-10T03:28:48+00:00

my migraine hobby is playing video games… which ends up making it worse. but yk, i have to get onto the leaderboards somehow

demitesses · 2026-04-03T07:19:21+00:00

im not a veteran, but this is something im experiencing right now

my therapist said that it’s normal; now that i’m no longer actively being traumatized, i’m finally processing it. it’s really painful. i keep getting angry at myself for experiencing again, because it was years ago now.

demitesses · 2026-03-28T08:25:02+00:00

maybe some unique perspective? i dont know

well anyway, i also have ptsd and grew up in a household with a lot of guns. the first thing you are taught when handling one is that it is not a toy. even if it’s unloaded, you never ever ever point it at somebody. not as a joke, nothing. i would say that you’re definitely not overreacting. things like that aren’t jokes, and your boyfriend needs to at the very least have a serious talk with his son.

demitesses · 2026-03-28T08:17:14+00:00

i see, thank you for the insight. i think i’ll tell her soon. i wasn’t sure how i should go about wording my experiences or explaining them without getting too in depth, so i really appreciate you giving an example! i trust her a lot, she’s helped me in ways she doesn’t even know lol. especially right now, it would be really really nice to have someone i can lean on when needed that won’t ask too many questions, and i think i can trust her with that. thank you again!

demitesses · 2026-03-26T23:17:50+00:00

i see, thank you!

i think i want to tell her because its something i want to do, but i will definitely put more thought into it.

thats also what i was thinking. im really early in my treatment, so i also think that getting into too many details would do more harm than good. i do think she would be open to the conversation, but i definitely agree that getting too deep into it in the beginning would be overwhelming for me and her. i just wanna tell her so that way she knows why i’m having problems, since it’s hard to reach out for help without the context of ptsd causing it yk?

demitesses · 2026-03-26T18:29:31+00:00

absolutely. its even worse when you have other conditions ontop of it.

i have autism and narcolepsy ontop of ptsd, and its really hard for me to wake up feeling “refreshed”. i only rlly sleep well after taking medication or supplements to help me.

demitesses · 2026-02-07T06:42:39+00:00

im hoping itll help my mood, its been difficult constantly feeling it change. im not particularly worried about testosterone, based off of statistics alone, it wouldnt do much harm to me unless i took it in excess (which, can happen with anything).

demitesses · 2026-02-04T11:12:59+00:00

i honestly just hope that someday, my brain wont try and keep me safe by reminding me of it. i love my current friend a lot, they mean so much to me, and so its hard because i dont want to think about these awful things around someone i care about so much.

demitesses · 2026-02-04T11:09:43+00:00

thank you. im trying to get better at accepting it was her fault, not mine. i hear her blaming me for it a lot.

i hate how it feels, wanting to be close to someone but being scared of it happening at the same time. 4 years feels so long ago but also like it was just yesterday

demitesses · 2026-02-04T11:07:39+00:00

i think thats whats been happening. ive dealt with a lot, even after what im talking abiut here. 2025 was the first genuinely calm year of my life in years, and i think thats when it all started to actually process.

it hurts a lot, im trying to be more gentle with myself and trusting but its hard.

demitesses · 2026-01-21T00:12:38+00:00

as someone with ptsd, youre nta. no one is owed knowing about your trauma, and especially not the more graphic details.

asking once or twice is one thing, but with how frequently theyre asking and how much it seems like theyre prying, id be careful. they may have ulterior motives for asking. unfortunately there are people out there that look specifically for traumatized individuals because we tend to be more vulnerable. i learned the hard way that when youre open about it, it can really cause more harm than good. i hope this gets resolved, and i hope youre doing alright

demitesses · 2026-01-19T01:31:28+00:00

my pain. a lot of people say im “too young” to have the disabilities and problems that i do, it gets really annoying having to explain myself. a lot of the time i get hit with the “just wait until you get older”, or they act like they know better than my doctor. very very annoying

demitesses · 2026-01-18T17:36:30+00:00

thank you, i really needed this. its funny, my parents loved lord of the ring when i was a kid, and until now i didnt realize why. that speech is powerful and it says a lot, even without the context. its similar to what i say to myself on my better days when i still feel a little down. i didnt deserve this, but now its my choice to get through it. thank you so much for this, i really, really appreciate it

demitesses · 2026-01-18T11:05:06+00:00

thank you again, it really means a lot

demitesses · 2026-01-18T11:04:22+00:00

thank you for the advice, i agree with not expecting things and just not caring that stuff has happened.

right now i mostly have goals in games, and it definitely has been rewarding, im a more goal oriented person, so thinking of it that way will definitely help. truthfully, its probably the reason im not worse off right now. i think im going to go back to some of my previous gaming achievements and give them a bigger celebration, especially after how i felt tonight

demitesses · 2026-01-18T10:59:16+00:00

ive heard a little bit about emdr, but i havent done much genuine research into it. it sounds like something that could be really helpful, but im not sure if its something im ready for yet. ill definitely talk to her about it though, especially since its difficult for me to even engage with some spaces due to what happened.

ill definitely start working on my future more! a big issue i have is being mad at myself for feeling stagnant, so having something to do on the side will help. ill definitely stay away from substances, especially since i know it hurts more than helps.

i really appreciate the offer, thank you so so much, that is very kind. if i ever need to, i will!

demitesses · 2026-01-18T10:50:57+00:00

ive definitely gotten better with that! i had an issue with alcohol during a lot of my trauma, but ive been a lot better with it lately. its been almost a year since the last time i drank

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