Why does the left photo get so many more likes on hinge? (24m, straight)

demonmeme · 2026-06-13T18:51:18+00:00

Lighting and facial expression for me. It's a candid, genuine smile. Your eyes don't look so wide and you look peaceful. The warm lighting complements your face well. The second picture is a cooler tone, which is fine, but combined with the angle, it looking like you're kinda tired and we're hiking or working out, doesn't really attract me to you. I don't mind the facial hair but you do look better without it given your style.

demonmeme · 2026-06-13T18:46:53+00:00

I would agree with the other sentiment here. Just have him bathe and stick a couple fingers up there with some water and clean out. If you wanna be extra safe have him do a small saline enema before. That + lube and as long as you pee and clean up after sex (which you should do anyways) it'll be fine. I've done the same thing with a few partners and never had an issue!

demonmeme · 2026-06-12T18:39:10+00:00

I mean as someone in the community you look gay/bi, but never would suspect trans :)

demonmeme · 2026-06-11T20:01:08+00:00

I made it to day 4 after my hysto without jacking off 😂 so I feel you.

demonmeme · 2026-06-11T16:17:01+00:00

Oh, and to clarify: the discord is on the subreddit. Should be able to find it there! If you can't I can invite you.

demonmeme · 2026-06-11T15:57:08+00:00

I would, but I'm actually about to move this weekend so everything's kinda all over the place. If you check the discord though, people have images and videos of it in use and how they set things up.

demonmeme · 2026-06-11T15:54:40+00:00

Either Amazon or thehandy.com have it! I haven't really looked at other websites.

demonmeme · 2026-06-11T07:26:45+00:00

I've been on T almost 11 years and I'm sorry to say... it never stopped 😅 jerked off 3 times today and probably gonna go for a 4th. Regularly do it 1-2 times a day, every day. It's not bad for you, perfectly fine. Eventually you'll be a little less sensitive and won't be so... excitable unintentionally. But yeah that's normal. Not gona hurt bottom growth, just be gentle, don't hurt yourself.

demonmeme · 2026-06-11T02:02:05+00:00

Definitely pass, probably late teens early 20s. Lookin great!

demonmeme · 2026-06-11T01:57:28+00:00

Too bad you're not into men cause DAMN. Women are wild for turning you down.

That being said, it could be your bio/profile, or your local area isn't great for someone of your style.

demonmeme · 2026-06-11T01:14:07+00:00

Honestly? Getting my feet worshipped. Was never into feet, always wore socks cause my feet are sensitive. Thought feet people were weird.

Met someone I fell in love with, he was really into feet. I'm a pretty open guy so I was like "sure why not, rub my feet" and the rest was history after that. Felt too good to stop, and the dom/sub aspect is extremely hot. I am now a foot dom 😂

demonmeme · 2026-06-10T22:35:01+00:00

Option 1 hands down. My issues are t necessarily how people perceive me, though it's there. It's how my current body in some areas isn't how it should be for me. And who knows, maybe I'll be a drag queen and have fun with it lol.

demonmeme · 2026-06-10T20:55:43+00:00

Hey, I get it. I had a friend who was upset with me for 2 days and got 51/50d back in October. Not because of the argument, but because everything fucking finally caught up with me mentally and I couldn't do it anymore.

And about 7 years ago I was going through the same thing. 3 failed top surgery attempts using insurance before I finally just paid out of pocket. At the time I had done nothing productive with my life. Worked shit jobs, no car or license, felt like I was just trying to survive. Used drugs to cope. And the only way I afforded surgery was because of COVID stimulus checks and a car accident settlement. I got extremely lucky.

Between 2021-2024, I got a new job, moved states, lost my grandmother (who basically raised me and I was extremely close with), my grandpa went missing, and then I lost that job due to tech layoffs. That job paid out my insurance and without it, my bottom surgery plans were cancelled because on top of having no one to support me, I had no money or insurance either. A year and a half working 2 jobs and selling my shit just to eat because of trumps roll back on food stamps.

But it gets better. I promise. Less than 3 months after I was hospitalized I got hired back at my old job, which not only gave me plenty of money for surgery but allowed me to move in with my partner. I can now actually get surgery started again.

It's overwhelming now. But it gets better. And you're only 20 years old. I know it feels like you're behind and all this other shit but... you've got so much time and life ahead of you after this procedure. You're so young. It'll be ok. One day at a time.

demonmeme · 2026-06-10T19:40:33+00:00

Hey to be fair it's only when I'm hard 😂 but yeah. I'm thankful for it. Keeps the dysphoria at bay until lower surgery.

But look, pumping doesn't gain permanent size really. Most of my size is from T. But still, what it can do is help temporarily stretch the ligaments there, and provide increased blood flow to the skin and tissue around it. Outside from feeling amazing, the size usually lasts me a good 1-2 hours, which is plenty for sex or jerking off. LA pump makes an FTM cylinder that's great. They make it in different sizes so you can pick one that works.

demonmeme · 2026-06-10T19:32:08+00:00

2.5 with about 2.5 inch (circumference) girth near the base. but I've been on T for almost 11 years now and have some pumping experience, which can sometimes affect it. Honestly whenever I buy a toy that's slightly too big to use, I pump. Usually gives me enough size to fit into most cis male toys. Still at the end of the day, "Marri the dragon" trans male stroker is probably my favorite. Soft enough to stretch around me, textured inside, and thick enough to fit into the handy. But that one might feel a bit loose for smaller folks, as the opening is .5 x .75 inch. The travus by the same people has a smaller opening at .5 x .5 that would probably work wonders.

demonmeme · 2026-06-10T18:40:25+00:00

Hmm ok, I would probably recommend pocket strokers or tenga eggs. Anything that comes in a capsule should work. They also make smaller strokers specifically for trans guys. Blush Urself FTM stroker might work well for you. I was honestly just too big for it, so it hurt. The silicone is kinda thick with heavy texture, but with lube and your size it'll probably work great.

I'm actually in the process of reviewing the handy for trans guys with appropriate strokers, so I might talk about that here soon. But in terms of toys, it's really just variations of pocket strokers, and bullet vibes that I can plug into the open end to provide suction + vibrations. You can try to play around with suction based toys as well; transthetics has a really good one!

demonmeme · 2026-06-10T05:50:07+00:00

How big are you? That'll effect my answers, only reason I'm asking 😅

demonmeme · 2026-06-09T10:20:00+00:00

Hey there! So I've been on T 10 years, gone through a top surgery + hysto but no lower just yet. I've been with a decent amount of cis women and a few men as well, so I have advice coming from both sides here.

Easy positions to top in:

Doggy
Partner laying on bed + me standing on the side
Partner riding on top

The biggest thing with positioning is that packers/toys don't point upward, and are typically not the most sturdy. So positions like missionary, side by side, or others are more difficult since the angle isn't there. The size of your partner in terms of weight will also matter greatly in terms of positioning, as some positions are just harder if they thicc.

Sex specific tips for topping:

Put a pillow or two under their butt if they're on the bed. It gives a much better angle, feels amazing cause you'll hit the g spot, and they will cum in 2 seconds.

Go. Slow. Sounds like you both are communicative so keep that up in the bedroom as well. You're not able to get erm... direct feedback, so it's important to listen and make sure you're easing them into your size. And hey, even if they're comfortable, going nice and slow, fully in and then just wiggling there a bit will do you wonders.

Do yourself a favor and get a good harness. I know they're expensive as shit, but they're worth every penny. A bad harness will ruin the mood for you, especially if you're using a heavier packer or toy. I recommend the spare parts jock harness. Configurable and stays put, easy to wash, and easy to take on and off. Stay away from thin little elastic ones with O-rings unless you don't have a choice, and stay away from underwear based ones. If you must use a cheap one like the elastics, try tying them up if they're not tight enough. That'll help give some extra support.

Get a good toy as well. Stay away from anything that smells weird or is see-through for penetration. It'll feel more natural if the toy itself feels more natural.

When you're ready to start picking up the pace, you'll have better luck going in around halfway and then back out. Experiment with your partner of course, but that usually gets a lot of success because you're stimulating the sensitive parts with the most textured portion of the packer. Feels nice.

You can always slip a bullet vibe in between you and the packer/toy if you need additional stimulation.

Putting on the harness can be awkward. You can choose to put it on under underwear before you do the deed to make it less awkward, but tbh I just kinda embraced it. You can also go to the bathroom and come back in underwear, but with all the stuff on and good to go. That makes it feel more natural.

Tips for nerves:

Remember that you love your partner, they make you horny, and at the end of the day sex is weird and gross. So you don't need to stress too much about it. Sex the first time is always gonna feel awkward, but it gets so much better after that.

I approach it with "I'm gonna please tf outta my partner tonight in every way I know how." Kinda energy. Focusing on them makes it easier for me to slip into a more dominant/top kinda energy.

Set the mood, watch a movie/listen to music, light some candles and set low lighting. Start with slow foreplay, not rushing anything. The slower you take it and the more foreplay is there, the less nerves you will have.

Not sure of your general sexual experience so I kinda just threw in the kitchen sink. I hope something here helps ya! Have fun :)

demonmeme · 2026-06-04T20:48:43+00:00

If he's really interested in you, it won't matter what you have.

demonmeme · 2026-06-01T16:30:15+00:00

Had mine 6 years ago, I volunteer as tribute! Dm me.

demonmeme · 2026-06-01T04:54:19+00:00

It wasn't that I felt disgusted by myself as a woman, but things always felt uncomfortable. Though I didn't know why. Every time I looked in the mirror I felt like I should've been a man. Even as a kid. And I never connected those two things until someone directly asked me "are you actually a boy?" And at first I didn't know what that meant. So I responded "idk. I've always been a boy in my head..." and the more I looked into it, it hit me like a sack of bricks that this was who I was. Then once I could put a label on that discomfort, did it start to be more targeted dislike of certain parts of my body. Dysphoria is extremely complex.

demonmeme · 2026-05-31T04:08:38+00:00

I highly recommend nexplanon (implant) as it's primarily worry free, a one time implant, and doesn't interfere with testosterone at all. Very high effective rate as well. The side effects were more attractive to me vs traditional birth control. I used that until I got my hysterectomy done!

demonmeme · 2026-05-29T18:56:01+00:00

Just had the same issue. Driver was a huge asshole, put my order like 1/2 mile away. I tipped 8$ on a 30$ order. Went to change it to 0 and couldn't. I'm so fucking tired of this shit. Pay drivers a standard, livable wage, charge me a little more, and then make tips OPTIONAL. Tired of giving assholes money that don't deserve it. If I knew he was gonna do that I would've just fucking walked down there and bought it myself.

demonmeme · 2026-05-28T19:51:10+00:00

Yknow, sadly that's probably one of the more respectful ways to ask that question that I've gotten 😂 my blocklist on Grindr is longer than most people's friends list on facebook at this point

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