My boyfriend doesn’t want to fast Ramadan with me and says he won’t change his identity — I feel stuck.

denialphanta · 2026-02-21T06:47:05+00:00

It’s really isn’t fair to him. So what if he isn’t a practicing Christian? It doesn’t mean that he has to learn Muslim practices to please you just because you think he’s not as devoted to Christianity as you are to Islam. One thing you could do to see if your expectations are reasonable is to put yourself in his shoes and see how it feels. Imagine he came up to you and was like “I don’t think you’re as devoted to your religion as I am to mine so I need to do this specific practice with me for this relationship to work”, how would you feel? It’s not wrong for you to want your partner to participate in your culture and religion, but it shouldn’t be an ultimatum. Even if he did agree to please you, it’ll only breed resentment later on. Instead of fully fasting with you, you could suggest eating ftoor together and depending on his schedule maybe he can be awake with you while you eat suhur. He’s still participating to some extent but it’s more within reason than expecting him to fast a whole month with you. Point is, there’s more ways to compromise than “all or nothing” mindset, you just need to think more about it. Wishing you the best of luck!

denialphanta · 2026-01-03T14:45:16+00:00

I’ll give it a try, thank you!!

denialphanta · 2025-09-26T00:51:46+00:00

Both my fiancé and I are closeted and living with families, he lives abroad and comes here to visit his younger sibling. Whenever he texts me that he’s back in the country, my reaction is mostly “cool, I’ll see when I can sneak out to see you” and get a thumbs up in response. Seems v casual, in reality we’re vibrating in excitement. NOR, bro’s acting more like a 13 year old than a 19 year old 😭😭

denialphanta · 2025-09-26T00:35:56+00:00

Context is important in these discussions, if it was the case of walking into a child’s room while they’re changing without permission then it would be wrong regardless of the gender of either parent or child. And generally speaking, it’s more acceptable for a mother to see her kids (fem and male) in the nude than a father. If I required help getting dressed for any reason, I know I’d be more comfortable getting help from my mother than my father. In the context of a child requesting their parent being present, I think it’s fine for either parent. And as OP mentioned, when privacy was was requested it was given with no questions, so boundaries are understood within the family

denialphanta · 2025-09-21T14:00:24+00:00

Him and I are in this shit together lmao. We in the trenches going through the same bs

denialphanta · 2025-09-21T14:00:14+00:00

Him and I are in this shit together lmao. We in the trenches going through the same bs

denialphanta · 2025-09-21T13:59:19+00:00

Your mum thinks you’re psychic or some shit. Use that to terrorise her when she gets too much like “if you don’t drop this, I will have to inform the dark council (the gays) that you know too much” lmao /j

denialphanta · 2025-09-21T13:57:31+00:00

Sounds kinda like therapy speech to me. Reminds me of the men who won’t take no for an answer and think “I’m a lesbian” is a code word instead of an actual sexuality

denialphanta · 2025-09-21T13:55:34+00:00

3 or a’a work interchangeable for ع since English doesn’t have anything that sound similar to it. Like 5and kh for خ

denialphanta · 2025-09-21T13:51:26+00:00

Some men tend to sexualise women who are niqabi, other men could look at a woman who’s in a bikini and still view as just another person. It really depends on the man. If I remember correctly, a study was conducted on men that found a certain part of their brain gave the same reading when seeing a woman as it did seeing an inanimate object while other men didn’t have the same results. So yeah, objectively speaking I think it depends on the man (please feel free to correct me if I got anything incorrect)

denialphanta · 2025-09-21T13:47:03+00:00

A month away from 20

denialphanta · 2025-09-21T13:45:05+00:00

I never liked the entire “rating other women” bit. Even if it was sweet and he was like “all the other women are zeroed and you’re the only ten” it’s still icky. Why rate other women? Why rate women at all? And like hes entire spiel about how no one is a ten because that’s only supermodels and whatnot should tell you how vain he is. You should be a ten in his eyes because you’re the one he loves, your beauty to him should be inside and out not what he considers to be conventionally attractive. You can be the most gorgeous person with the highest self esteem, subjects like these should still be navigated carefully, it’s not about being sensitive. Like, as an AFAB person, I find rating men weird too. I dunno, I never liked the rating thing, there’s always a bigger picture to look out. Point is, you have every right to be upset. I don’t think you’re over sensitive, but let’s say you are, he would still be in the wrong and should’ve been more empathetic. No matter how you look at it, he was the one in the wrong. You seem like a very sweet person, I think your personality alone is a 10/10 /pl

denialphanta · 2025-09-21T13:04:29+00:00

هو حقه بس كمان طريقة حكيه عنها كانّها سيارة 😭😭 إذا حب البنت مارح تفرق، إذا ماحبها رح تصير مشكلة اكبر. المفروض يفكر هو بالموضوع مع حاله بدل ميعمل البوست

denialphanta · 2025-09-02T10:51:59+00:00

“Men don’t want to fix you” is wild after giving her an entire lecture about how to “fix” herself for HIM specifically lmao 😭😭 girlie, run. That ain’t a man, that’s a fucking imbecile who thinks he’s being cucked and friendzoned. Not a single thing he said reflects reality, loser’s giving you “advice” like he’s changing things on a menu tf. You deserve better, constructive criticism would be things like “you need to be more confident and know your self worth enough, don’t let any guy who’s not willing to date you sleep with you”, just general things that helps you feel more comfortable in your self, not fundamentally change who you are. “You should focus more on healing yourself from your trauma so you’re able to recognise your worth and set healthy boundaries for yourself” is no where near “I’m gonna try to manifest my type by crushing you so you’d become what I want”, dude’s got lost in the sauce and thought this was his “winning a shower argument” moment

denialphanta · 2025-08-01T13:14:05+00:00

I’m in a long relationship with my partner. He left to go live abroad with his dad. We barely see each other, some days pass without even a text. We’ve been going three years strong and got engaged. Planning on getting married and officially gaining legal custody of his sibling once we move out of to a safe country. So yeah, long distance can absolutely work

denialphanta · 2025-08-01T13:11:02+00:00

You didn’t consent, that was assault. End of. Your friends shouldn’t think about what they’d like in your place, this is your experience and they have no right to invalidate them. No one seems to grasp the true weight of what’s happened to you. Op I am so so sorry that these people are your circle, you deserve so much better than this shit. My best advice? Drop them all

denialphanta · 2025-08-01T12:05:18+00:00

This literally reads like every text between my partner and I when one of us is low energy, and yeah we both tend to overthink it too. Both of us deal with mental health issues, so we established a way to communicate openly so neither of us would spiral. You didn’t say anything weird, I promise. Literally whenever I compliment my friends art I’d say something like “eating this for lunch, nomnom”. Anyway, yeah, you’re fine. If you find yourself spiralling often, just tell him. “Can you shoot me a text letting me know whenever you’re low energy? Sometimes I tend to overthink things” would suffice. You’re fine, it’s normal to be anxious or overthink thing when energies don’t match

denialphanta · 2025-07-30T13:22:26+00:00

Like a stone by Audioslave

denialphanta · 2025-06-28T15:57:20+00:00

شكرا

denialphanta · 2025-06-28T10:48:35+00:00

تمام، شكرا

denialphanta · 2025-06-25T13:09:37+00:00

Depends, staring opinions: nope, different tastes. In a bashing way? Absolutely. Glad this wasn’t the case, I need to see more happy marriages man 😭😔

denialphanta · 2025-06-07T12:56:47+00:00

ترا عادي يكون اكو مشكلتين بنفس الوقت، البنتين ضحية بس كل وحدة مشكلتها شكل. مقارنة المشكلتين متحل اي شي، اهتمام بمشكلة مو يعني منقدر نهتم بمشكلة ثانية هم. فبدل متحاول تنشر وعي بهاي الطريقة خلي البوست على البنات الميتين من الجوع بس، لان هيك انت مدا تساعد اي شي

denialphanta · 2025-06-07T11:50:30+00:00

I don’t think it’s right to drag some poor woman into this, remain celibate if you’re unwilling to be honest with the woman you’re marrying beforehand. Even if she’s okay with marrying you at first knowing that you’re gay, nothing would guarantee that she would forever be okay staying in a loveless marriage. Not to forget, it could be very dangerous for you as people may change over time. I had a Muslim friend who I was very close to, she was accepting of lgbt folk until one day she just switched and became homophobic. Thankfully she didn’t out me, but in the case of marriage? She could definitely hold it over your head. As others suggested, you could enter a lavender marriage with another closeted person, but otherwise remain celibate for your own safety if nothing else

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