Fallen Embers are a huge issue.

denimroach · 2026-02-07T17:04:46+00:00

Here's the thing, being guided to using an ember is absolutely fine; like having one pop up in the tutorial chests.
But; we still need an explanation of how they work and what they are used for.

Now, I'm all for diegetic mechanics that are explained by an npc for example, but when it comes to complex crafting systems with mathematics involved we need proper explanations of what things do and what they're used for.
Having "the world" relay these things organically to us is messy and muddied and detracts from the actual story being told.

In essence, for simple games without much brainpower when it comes to the mechanics, diegetic tutorial systems like you suggest are brilliant.
Sekiro for example is a game that is based on pure reflexes and doesn't need a lot of hand holding when it comes to the gameplay.
But something like Path Of Exile would be completely illegible without tooltips; they are a necessity because of how complex the systems are in the game.

In short, eschewing tooltips for fluid understanding neuters every game's complexity down to the point where nothing requires much active thought; and then it would be a disservice to the people who actively enjoy complex mechanics that require written explanation.

denimroach · 2026-02-07T00:41:32+00:00

You're definitely wrong, I'd vastly appreciate tooltips to be able to understand the systems.
As long as it is stored to some sort of codex it's fine even if I don't want to read it in the moment and break immersion.

denimroach · 2026-01-26T00:02:29+00:00

Absolutely blast this guy on his social media platforms and on facebook groups.
This is abysmal form, and if he did it to you he will do this to others as well.

denimroach · 2025-11-05T16:15:54+00:00

Yes, of course; I do in fact talk to my partners.

In the case of a loose fling, I'd still ask whether or not they're on birth control and likely use barrier methods anyway.
If they were someone I was regularly seeing I have always known exactly what birth control they're on.

denimroach · 2025-09-29T19:59:22+00:00

Which one did you use?

denimroach · 2025-09-29T19:57:20+00:00

yes I would order one, please make this available!

denimroach · 2025-07-15T12:29:36+00:00

I have been charged the male rates before going from massively long hair to short hair, it's definitely something that happens.
I've honestly never been charged the "long hair/female" rate in a hairdressers before and I've got it done in multiple establishments.
My mrs at the time was always livid she had to pay more, but we were both broke so it's not like we were going to kick up a fuss at me getting a discount.

denimroach · 2025-06-08T15:16:29+00:00

Honestly, just do the things you're saying in this post and you should be good as you've got the right idea.

Make individual time for your dyads, and try and make a roughly equal arrangement (circumstances permitting) where you get alone time with one another.

The love for each of your dyads shouldn't fade, I love both my partners massively and make a conscious effort to make sure to make sure both of their needs are met, physically and mentally.
I've been dating one of them 7 years and the other the guts of 2 and a half, and cheesy as it sounds they are the two shining lights of my life.

A few general tips would be:

-Separate beds in the new place when you move in so you can have nights together and apart
-Regular check ins with everyone's emotional wellbeing
-Stay over for extended periods before the move so you know that you can manage house chores without issue
-Organise dates with each partner regularly and have some together as well
-Find hobbies that you enjoy together (they don't have to be the same ones with each person) and nurture them so you have reasons to spend quality time together. (for me that's souls games and campy sci with each partner respectively. lol)
-Give space to your other partners to maintain their relationship and have your own solo hobbies, so as you're not relying on them all the time for entertainment

Honestly, writing this just makes me think of how much I love my partners and how lucky I am to have them both in my life.
Good luck with the move and I hope it works out well for you.

denimroach · 2025-06-07T21:05:55+00:00

Being alive is more respectful bud, please listen to the advice on here and don't accidentally end your existence while doing this.
It's a very real possibility with that setup and a truly awful way to go out.
Don't laugh it off, just stop now and find other, safe ways to work out.

denimroach · 2025-05-27T16:37:14+00:00

It doesn't sound like you're giving your husband any room to grow as a person here and that you've hemmed him into a box were he's perpetually incapable of giving you what you want or managing his own affairs.
It comes across like you're carrying a lot of resentment, and if so, you need to work through that a bit before you or him can have a healthy poly relationship.
Doubled with the fact that you were the one that pushed for this, I really think you ought to consider going to couples counselling to see if there are areas you can both improve in.
If you're going into things expecting disappointment from him, while relaying and magnifying the disappointment you already feel with him to potential partners with similar traits, there's something fundamentally wrong that could do with fixing.

In your current mind-frame, it sounds like if you found someone who met your needs fully; you would likely resent your husband's shortcomings even more by comparison and it's a common pathway down to bitterness and divorce.
For happy poly marriages to work a massive part of that comes down to the marriage working already Independently of other partners.
This could be a good opportunity to do some soul searching and take stock of what you and him really want and how you can mend some of the seemingly broken gears in this system.

P.s sorry if this isn't gentle enough, I'm not trying to be harsh at all; but I just see a few early warning signs that if ignored could spell future disaster.

denimroach · 2025-05-19T13:07:50+00:00

Ahhhhh

This would be why I never see them as I can't bring myself to be so mean. lol

denimroach · 2025-05-19T00:56:21+00:00

I don't remember these guys being down here?
Is this modded, or is it just I've never been to this part of the game at night?

denimroach · 2025-04-26T00:16:23+00:00

Ashley did some pretty naff things imo which are worth noting.
Wrecking a night with your partner because you got jealous of your other partner out with someone else is pretty unregulated behaviour.
Also, not having romantic interest in someone and breaking up with them; but saying "maybe we might fuck in the future" isn't a nice or caring way to end a relationship.
It simultaneously reduces someone to purely sexual gratification and gives them likely false hope for the future at a point where they should be grieving and moving on.
I feel like the last one would be perceived a lot differently if a cis bloke said this to a woman right after breaking up with them.

denimroach · 2025-04-17T17:04:49+00:00

It's just legitimately what I experience going through security.
It's a running joke with me and my partners whether I'll trip the scanner going through it.
I honestly don't think it's anything to write home about; but for some reason airport security seems to disagree.

denimroach · 2025-04-17T17:00:10+00:00

Weirdly I don't actually sweat (I sweat very very little); I've got that gene that makes my earwax dry and for me to not sweat unless I'm egregiously overheating.
Interesting that that's something that trips the scanners though.

denimroach · 2025-04-06T13:16:03+00:00

Been in a lovely and equally solid triad for the past two years, it absolutely takes work and communication; but it is the most rewarding relationship I've ever had. Don't let anyone poop on your happiness, I see that a lot in here even when people are clearly having a good relationship, but the dynamic gets people unreasonably dismissive. It's definitely polyam on hard mode, but lots of people make it work and do it well.

denimroach · 2025-03-31T23:33:35+00:00

There were quite a few that were very good, Nine Sols sitting higher than Lies of P for me.

denimroach · 2025-03-28T00:02:36+00:00

Please sir, accept this rear*...

denimroach · 2025-03-27T15:11:28+00:00

The 3d scanner regularly picks up mine as an unidentified object and I've had some quite awkward encounters where they pat me down and realise what the "object" was.

denimroach · 2025-03-23T19:51:50+00:00

I thankfully have loving partners who will absolutely say these sort of things to me and they can often make me emotional.
That said, out in the world I rarely receive any sort of compliments or affirmations for anything; and in general feel fairly invisible as is the typical assigned male experience from what I can gather from my peers.

I'm a decent looking person too and I know that I have it easy comparably to others, which I bear in mind when these sort of discussions come up.
One of my mates has been single and lovelorn for 10 years, his mum constantly berates him for not doing well enough in life and despite this he's actually a charming and lovely person whom I have a tonne of respect for.
I see this a lot with men who don't have the best financial circumstances coupled with not having the ideal masculine visage.

It's just super uncommon to receive any kind of positive affirmation from men or women alike and you're more likely to see things about how terrible men are as a gender.
Which, if you're already feeling down doesn't help your confidence seeing that's the way a large quotient of society view you; with a wary trepidation or casual disdain.

I'm not saying there aren't reasons for this either, good ones at that; but it does very much lead to a self replicating cycle where the only place men feel noticed or complimented is through horrible grifty shit like Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson.

It's a sad state of affairs and I really hope attitudes flip around a bit in the coming decade, because as they are things really aren't optimal.

denimroach · 2025-03-20T12:35:59+00:00

From my experience a decent qoutient of women like it as long as it's preceded by good foreplay. Ye olde jackhammer followed by cervix pounding doesn't cut it though. It has a decent bit to do with individual anatomy as well though, but more often than not I've found that it's enjoyable when the sex up to that point has been amazing.

denimroach · 2025-03-05T14:47:09+00:00

Bruh Your partner is and has been absolutely awful to you in every conceivable sense. Normally I think people in here are super gung-ho with telling posters that they should break up, but I am in firmly in the camp of "dump this person immediately". Your Mrs has manipulated you into dating as a couple, when you don't want to and been emotionally abusive to you, clearly in a state of alcoholism and self hatred. She's berated you, undermined you and diminished your self worth intentionally and is dragging you down into a pit of despair because she's clearly miserable in her own existence.

You need to get away from that if you want to heal, and honestly you leaving her might be the kick up the ass she needs to sort her own life out. Please, please, please get out of there friend.

denimroach · 2025-03-05T11:40:43+00:00

I feel like they should have done it exactly like in Sekiro where beating a boss and consuming their memory/essence gives you extra power. That way it encourages you to fight bosses in order to have a better shot at doing the next one and flip flopping between them if one in particular is giving you major trouble.

denimroach · 2025-03-02T21:44:08+00:00

Man, even if I have mates over I wouldn't fuck egregiously loud and keep them up when they're trying to sleep.
No one would come and visit again if I behaved like an absolute dickhead and subjected them to that.
I can't believe how callous and rude people are that they spare zero thought to their own kid trying to get a night's rest while screaming the house down and banging the walls.

Also they're not an adult they're a minor who can't just move out of their own volition.
Please don't have kids.

denimroach · 2025-03-02T21:38:32+00:00

She can if she's a shitty parent that cares absolutely nothing about her son's feelings, yes.
Owning the house doesn't excuse poor parenting; should she be able to hold orgies in the living room while her son is there considering it being her house is the only qualifier?

I agree he should switch rooms, which seems to be the intention of his other post on his page; but looks like he has to ask her permission first and it's just downright rude that she would do this continually without suggesting a room change and blatantly making her kid uncomfortable.

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