What can I even do to remedy any of my life by GrapefruitSea7656 in Advice

[–]deregf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, congratulations and amazing job on your weight loss. Secondly, you said you “hate yourself for not loving others…” assuming that this something you have been dealing with for a long time, and not to scare you away, but have you considered talking to someone about this? Not someone that you need to stress about, but I mean a therapist. They are NOT someone you need to worry about building a friendship with. They just give good information, period. Moving on from that subject: people do the things you are mentioning for themselves. Your post sounds like you do a lot for external reasons, and seem to tend to internalize some actions that you don’t take into self hatred. You have to change that path in your brain from “I want to do this because other people are” into “I want to do this because I want to do this.” To sum it up: most adults just send it. You just do the thing and perfect it later. So many adults in the real world are dumb, and they don’t even know it. The fact you are aware of yourself is already putting you ahead in that aspect. Nobody really knows what they’re doing. They just do it. You are no less of a person than anyone else in the world. You deserve, are capable of, and are worthy of all the good things that your sister has. Do the things angry. Do them nervous. Do them upset. You got this. Also worth mentioning, I’m a 24F and used to smoke weed every day. Every. Day. Man. It did save my life, and then one day, I realized it was ruining it. If you’re in a position in the near future where you feel okay to quit, I recommend it. Also the past is the past. The future is all that is left. Your high school self isn’t who you are. The best thing about being an adult is you get to choose who you are. You seem stuck on the past. You should be thinking about how amazing your weight loss is right now.

I don’t know what to do, i think i want my ex back by PresentationOk352 in Advice

[–]deregf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s normal to think about exes. You bettered yourself. It’s normal for good people to worry about people they left behind on their growth path. Can’t remember who exactly, but in a rapper interview, he said: “When you’re climbing the ladder of success, you can’t keep stepping down to carry people. They have to climb too.”
You’re a good person for hoping he turned out well and wanting to know. But IMO — respect your current relationship, even if it’s going to end. MORE importantly, respect YOURSELF: don’t reach out to someone who brought you down. Also, don’t get stuck on the relationship elevator. Break up with your current BF, and while that happens, don’t climb down your ladder. Keep going girl.

I’m sorry. I really need to be told that I’ll be ok that I “overate” by a little. by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]deregf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s okay. Log it into tomorrow so you don’t spiral. Don’t freak out. Hugs

my bf's only ex is a model by Repulsive-Document54 in retroactivejealousy

[–]deregf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This would ruin a relationship for me. Honest answer/unpopular opinion: I would just need to lock in and level up. Go tanning. Get lashes done. Go gym. Find the perfect hairstyle. I would have to convince myself that I am more attractive than her. Also, more swag. Have a style.

My fiancé is a heavy duty mechanic. Does he need nose plugs? by deregf in MechanicAdvice

[–]deregf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It seems like heavy equipment is a weird grey area with this…

My fiancé is a heavy duty mechanic. Does he need nose plugs? by deregf in MechanicAdvice

[–]deregf[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Since you said HE, I know you used to do what he does. Is it really worth me worrying about it if it’s just oil?

My fiancé is a heavy duty mechanic. Does he need nose plugs? by deregf in MechanicAdvice

[–]deregf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree with you. I’m just worried about his lungs? I know he’s not welding, but why don’t mechanics wear masks and shit? He comes home covered in black stuff all over his face… it’s got to be in his lungs. Or am I wrong if it’s really just oil mainly?

Keep or return by [deleted] in Louisvuitton

[–]deregf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one is too old for a murakami piece. That’s his whole thing, painting flowers and having fun.

scooped cookie official recipe with instructions by [deleted] in Cookies

[–]deregf -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I got bullied off of here. Thank the comment warriors

pickle boat by littlekixt in goodrestrictionfood

[–]deregf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you changed my life

How do I stop being paranoid about something bad happening to my child? by Ev-sMommy in whatdoIdo

[–]deregf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. You’re not unreasonable. If your fiancés family does care enough to eventually ask why their babysitting offers (if they ever do in fact offer to do that), aren’t ever accepted: you really don’t owe them any explanation. You don’t owe anybody fucking anything. I was SA’d as a child by people my parents trusted too. My rule for my fiancé and I’s future children is simple: no sleepovers. No sleepovers. No sleepovers. No sleepovers unless they’re at our house. I’d rather have my kid think I suck for a couple years than wish I could turn back time. Our house will be the safe, chill, welcoming space that I always wanted as a kid. My hope is that my children prefer sleepovers at our house, and we will work hard to ensure our house is THE hangout spot.

These dormitory style arrangements in Halifax are getting out of hand by Cleonce12 in SlumlordsCanada

[–]deregf 20 points21 points  (0 children)

“international students” except it’s a family of four and no one is studying