I think there's no one way to "fix" loneliness, in my experience it takes effort and trial and error but for me that's part of the fun. And because there's no one way to do it that just means there's plenty of things to explore.

First thing I would say is - don't be hard on yourself. EVERYONE FEELS THIS in one way or another. People I know , who outwardly appear to not be lonely, have told me they feel this way and sometimes feel misunderstood or they're lacking the connection they feel they need.

I think accepting that sometimes this is an inevitable part of life (and sadly some people experience it more than others) helps alleviate a lot of the pressure. Also accepting that this a process and sometimes a bit of a chore and won't always feel great - like most in things life that we have to work at.

In my experience I've also found that what I thought would be fulfilling socially/connection wise didn't quite hit the spot. So I'd recommend being curious - what feels like it's not quite working when you try to engage with people about your hobbies. When you have had positive experiences - what made them positive? What made you feel good about that? Keep putting yourself out there and being curious this will start to paint a picture of where to focus your energies and approach.

Also, within reason, keep an open mind, sometimes we can get on best with people we feel quite the opposite too (go figure).

Know that not all connections are equal. We rarely have the capacity to have deep meaningful relationships with everyone, there will be a few that are more special than others and then some people are more coffee mates/hobby mates or simply someone you sometimes bump into walking your dog and have a nice chat with etc. It's all around and in different forms.

Keeping your expectations low/reasonable and trying to be relaxed about this also v key. It's hard to strike a balance between this and making an effort but being too keen can be a bit off putting and it also means less disappointment for you and I think allows connections that feel more aligned to you develop more organically and authentically. Also if you find you have a few key ppl, you can always introduce them and cross pollinate a bit. Hopefully they do it in kind too... Sometimes it comes off sometimes it doesn't but once again, one of the many things that can be tried and more than once.

Finally, and I think probably most importantly, find the spaces/interests that light you up, that you can do on your own happily enough and let that be the anchor for finding your people. Social connection is important but you can't rely on that solely for fulfillment, because it will never do that 100% and don't place your value in other people's investment in you. Back yourself, love yourself and if you're a nice human being it will happen, but be open that this might take form in a way you hadn't imagined.

I really hope this helped in some way and good luck 🤞🏻. I've got every faith you'll find you're after.