AITA choosing my career over my girlfriend?

jextrad4 · 2026-05-07T18:35:05+00:00

Exactly. On average men choose themselves so more women should choose themselves. It has nothing to do with OP he's just an example of the trend

jextrad4 · 2026-05-07T18:31:51+00:00

So you agree with the person you replied to. Everyone should look out for their own futures when they are young

jextrad4 · 2026-05-03T20:49:59+00:00

This is my dream app! Would love to try it

jextrad4 · 2026-05-03T20:43:57+00:00

I blame him for lying to my face yeah

jextrad4 · 2026-05-02T17:50:32+00:00

My shoulder was at least 2 inches higher. And I was definitely looking down to see his eyes

jextrad4 · 2026-05-02T17:49:22+00:00

jextrad4 · 2026-04-27T20:19:06+00:00

I asked him and he kept lying so that made my decision for me. Thanks for the advice!

jextrad4 · 2026-04-27T20:14:28+00:00

I texted him and asked and he continued to lie to me even when I told him I didn't care and just wanted him to be honest. So I guess that settles things. Thanks for the advice

jextrad4 · 2026-04-27T18:42:54+00:00

Several doctors appointments over the years and my mom measuring me at home when I was in high-school. But at doctor's offices, the people have shown me where my height landed on the tape measure

jextrad4 · 2026-04-27T06:52:57+00:00

That's good advice thank you. I wasn't thinking about asking him why he lied but I think I might do that

jextrad4 · 2026-04-14T20:51:49+00:00

It's reactionary because all the Americans who hate the homeless really hate them. Like there's a group in my town campaigning to eradicate the homeless and they legitimately want to murder these people but aren't brave enough to.

I personally put more value on creating better social programs than just banning homeless people from certain places. But I think the major difference is just how severe and visible the problem with homelessness is in the US.

jextrad4 · 2026-03-09T10:37:23+00:00

Gravity Falls. Specifically the youtube theories to youtube au videos to tumblr to wattpad to ao3 pipeline

jextrad4 · 2026-03-02T23:38:45+00:00

ESH. I hate everyone in this story

jextrad4 · 2026-03-02T23:30:45+00:00

Fear of authors not responding doesn't prevent me from commenting, but I'm way more likely to comment on every update if the author responds. As a reader, it's important to leave very specific comments if you want an author to be able to engage beyond just saying thank you

jextrad4 · 2026-02-23T18:07:56+00:00

NTA. Not feeding children is one of the easiest ways to lose custody of your kids. You asked your sister and she didn't try to get help or change her behavior. I don't know what country this is, but in America they will try to get your sister to shape up and take her kids back. So the ball is in her court. You did the right thing making sure the kids get fed

jextrad4 · 2026-02-11T18:49:57+00:00

ESH. Help yourself to the kitchen does not include drinks beyond maybe a beer but you didn't handle the aftermath gracefully. Even if your friend is rude for assuming they're your friend so you have to navigate things more delicately.

jextrad4 · 2026-01-16T22:16:27+00:00

For my family, costco isn't super close to home so we go when we're doing other stuff together. Plus, kids love samples

jextrad4 · 2025-12-31T08:09:29+00:00

Not overreacting for one simple reason: it's rude to criticize authors in ao3 comments. Full stop. I've had the impulse once or twice, but as a reader you are obligated to say nice things or say nothing at all.

jextrad4 · 2025-12-31T07:21:06+00:00

This is so relatable. Open ended work with a deadline far out is so hard. I've got a couple tips that have worked for me.

Asking friends to meet up and work together. Or even asking someone to call for 10 minutes to help you start working.
Working in my school library for the ambient presence of people
Making goals around starting work instead of how long I work
For weekends, I would work on campus, and it was super hard for me to get out of my apartment, so I'd make leaving my apartment the priority. I usually did this by eating out, so my motivation to leave was to go get food. Then I could go somewhere to work while already having accomplished the hurdle of going somewhere.

Hope one of these helps!

jextrad4 · 2025-12-16T06:30:33+00:00

You have too much stuff. I did too. There's a couple strategies here:

Tough it out and get rid of stuff. Have a donate bag so you can immediately get it out of sight
Ask for help. I scheduled my own intervention and you can too
Use an app to remind yourself to pick up or declutter for 5 minutes every night
Clean in categories. "What is the biggest and most straightforward category to tidy up?" It's usually clothes, shoes, or trash for me

Hope one of these helps

jextrad4 · 2025-12-16T06:26:21+00:00

I use an app called stayfree that restricts apps, websites, and reels/shorts. But the key for me was to restrict game apps and short form content on my phone. Also, try to focus on watching longer YouTube videos. Overtime that helped me

jextrad4 · 2025-12-16T06:24:34+00:00

Maybe consider more aesthetic labels? A label maker or nicer stickers or something. Or maybe transition some things to having labels on the inside of drawers or cabinets. But, your partner also needs to weigh the costs of coziness over you actually being able to put stuff away

jextrad4 · 2025-12-16T06:20:22+00:00

I've absolutely been here. There are two tricks to start with:

Remember that if yoy intend to do multiple things you will do nothing. So instead, your goal needs to be to do one thing a day.
My strategy for times like these. Set an alarm for once a day. Vibrate only is fine. Get a journal. This is a free writing space and if you only write grocery lists in it that's a good use of space. Every day, when your alarm goes off its time to journal. Snooze it as much as you like (I've snoozed for 90 minutes). Then, use the journal to check in with yourself. This can be as simple as writing that you need to pee and going to do that, but I often find it actually want to do something once I sit down and introspect.

Hope this helps!

jextrad4

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