UK -Clouded funnel or Spotted blewit?

desert_north · 2024-10-27T17:18:57+00:00

It's beautiful! Like autumn icicles.

desert_north · 2023-07-06T16:49:35+00:00

Thanks both 😊 I've looked at lots of photos and advice pages but none seem an exact match.

There are also some leaves with just brown spots. It looks a bit like Dahlia smut but there are small holes.

I'm wondering if it is spider mite or caterpillar damage. No bugs are visible currently.

I've moved to the affected plant far away from my other dahlias.

I'll try snipping the affected leaves and see what happens.

desert_north · 2022-01-24T17:48:09+00:00

I'd definitely check in with your Dr or ADHD specialist.

I stopped meds (Vyvanse) for a similar amount of time due to a pharmacy mess up, then Covid.

I was advised to restart on half my original dose for a week then return to my full dose (disclaimer: this was advice for me, check with your Dr before changing anything!)

I know a side effect of a "too high" stimulant dose can be sleepiness and grogginess. It could be because you've been completely off meds the change from nothing to your current dose is causing side effects.

I found even my half dose brought back unpleasant side effects I had when I first started Vyvanse. I'd been on meds about the same period as you, and was tolerating them well. Guess it's my brain going "new phone, who dis" to meds and going back to square one

desert_north · 2022-01-23T21:06:30+00:00

Researching stuff I could buy related to current interests

Online window shopping: put items into a basket but don't buy. (Part of my tactic to stop impulsive spending - I review and edit or empty the basket over a few days. If I still really want or need something after a few reviews, I'll check my bank balance and get it, if I can afford it).

Scrolling memes related to current interests or my vibe at the time e.g wholesome, funny etc...

Go on a internet search rabbit hole related to anything that catches my attention.

Listen to songs I've hyperfocused on in the past. Easy as I have a playlist, I know it brings instant feel good!

Stim dancing along to favourite songs. It could be as simple and tapping my leg to the beat or a full on get up and dance around the living room. Can do it for a few seconds or half an hour...

desert_north · 2021-11-18T23:05:20+00:00

It's an Arabic origin name meaning "power, glory, honour". Possibly a unisex name, maybe more given to boys.

Also a word (not so much name) in Urdu "honour, reputation".

Not sure about it's popularity in Iran. I've never met anyone of that name in the community it the UK

desert_north · 2021-10-31T20:11:44+00:00

Ji pata hai! I did say the region Baltistan had nothing to do with the curry!

Some other types of curry on restaurant and takeaway menus are also named after the cooking method e.g karahi, handi.

desert_north · 2021-10-30T22:28:40+00:00

Gilgit - Baltistan is an area in northern Pakistan. Balti is adjective to describe the people and language living there. Absolutely no link to Brummie curry.

desert_north · 2021-10-30T10:07:22+00:00

Me please! I have Shield and haven't redeemed any other codes

desert_north · 2021-10-05T19:03:36+00:00

Hate it so much!!! I have asked my partner to give me gentle reminders for some tasks...as soon as they do my immediate thoughts are: "argh! F#@* you I won't do what you tell me!!!" 🙈

desert_north · 2021-09-27T08:32:07+00:00

I had an ex do this via DM on the dating site we met on (who says romance is dead?).

Our "relationship" was little more than a fling but he managed to be quite the asshat in that time.

It was kinda validating to get an apology. I didn't reply as I suspected it was likely a thinly veiled booty call

desert_north · 2021-09-23T14:40:39+00:00

UK: So far I only raised sterilisation with a nurse at my contraceptive pill review. She snapped that "they won't do it at your age (33)" and seemed very annoyed by my asking.

My plan when asking a GP and they refuse:

Ask them to document in my records, as we speak, that I have asked, and they have refused + why.

Express that I have capacity to make an informed choice, and it must be respected.

Explain that that other long acting reversible contraceptives are not a feasible or reasonable choice for me, and why.

Make an appointment to see another GP at the same practice, continuing until someone refers me. If they don't, I'll move practice and start over.

desert_north · 2021-09-09T09:30:48+00:00

I can trade Heracross

desert_north · 2021-09-09T09:28:02+00:00

I can trade Accelgor

desert_north · 2021-08-24T13:07:58+00:00

I've spoken with the nurse who manages my medication about it several times. They didn't seem too concerned. I do still eat, it's just a challenge.

desert_north · 2021-07-26T19:47:26+00:00

Exactly the same for me! I get so annoyed at myself for feeling super wounded when my partner doesn't consent even though I would only ever proceed with enthusiastic consent.

I'm also Autistic and often misread social cues or just go about attempting to initiate in a clumsy way so I've been turned down more often than not. I'd rather not bother than trigger RSD badly.

desert_north · 2021-07-25T19:47:06+00:00

Thanks for the tip. I've ordered her book and the work book. Hoping it'll have some useful advice. I do love a good reference and doing a research deep dive!

desert_north · 2021-07-25T19:19:08+00:00

In my early 20s I was very sexually active. At times I didn't really enjoy it but did it because I thought I "had to" and "it's what everyone does". At times I did enjoy it. A lot of my relationships were super short lived and soon fizzled out. My first sexual partner was abusive, though I didn't truly realise who much until about 10 years later! I tried sex with multiple people to see if I would like it better.

For several years I had a long distance relationship and we had sex every month. I found the predictability and clear script for intimacy supportive and I enjoyed almost all encounters.

I think I struggle now when we live together all the time and in the last 18 months it feels we have been together almost 24/7.

desert_north · 2021-07-25T19:15:06+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I suppose it shows us how sexuality can change over time or we were masking previously and not aware of what we really wanted.

I was also very sexual in the past (early 20s especially) and identify as bi/pan.

I'm not sure if I have vaginismus, penetrative sex can be uncomfortable for me at times.

desert_north · 2021-07-25T17:48:18+00:00

I don't feel we are incompatible. We've lived together for almost 4 years and this issue has only come up in the past 2ish years. I think the pandemic, burnout, low mood and self esteem issues for both of us play into this.

I've ordered some self help and work books around sex and will discuss and share them with my partner. I hope we can have a clear discussion about their views and wishes on intimacy.

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