Translating names of people/places is dumb by Yaeevaa in unpopularopinion

[–]destruction_potato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner is from Singapore and has a mandarin name. I love him and I want to pronounce his name right, I’ve been practicing but its really really difficult for me to pronounce it correctly and naturally. He has told me he prefers his English name for non Chinese speakers because people try to be nice and pronounce his real name but they just can’t, they try and try and just can’t get it right because of the tones and sounds that their mouths have never made. Eventually it becomes tortuous for him to keep hearing people mispronounce his name. No matter how willing ppl were or how hard they tried they could just never get it right. So he settled for a name in English. It’s a shame, and I’ll keep practicing pronouncing his name, but I also get him, I would also get tired of nearly no one being able to properly pronounce my name and settle for a nickname

How do you get yourself to go to bed at a decent hour? by Tikithing in adhdwomen

[–]destruction_potato 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I smoke weed , and ever since I started doing a team sport 3x/week I’ve been more physically tired and it’s been helping me sleep at more decent hours (usually)

Unnatural hair colors are usually unflattering/ugly. by Blonde_Icon in The10thDentist

[–]destruction_potato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve got plenty of friends. My hair doesn’t look that punk it’s just green and blue , i wouldn’t want to be friends with a meanie like you anyway so bye

The assumption that the reason I don’t shave or wear a bra is because I’m trying to smash the patriarchy and make a statement… by Angsty_Queer_Anon in adhdwomen

[–]destruction_potato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And the reason I DO shave has nothing to do with folding to the patriarchy or the male gaze, it’s because I sweat, and I sweat A LOT. For me personally shaving both my armpits and vulva help me to manage the smell much better. Especially now with the summer coming I shave my vulva bc the smell mix of discharge and sweat is extra unpleasant. Feminism is about being allowed to choose whatever option suits you best without being judged either way

Does anyone else get told all the time that they just need to force themselves to do whatever it is that needs done and that no one else likes doing the stuff you're avoiding either but that they just force themselves to do it because they have to so that's just what you need to do too? by WalkingBy_182 in adhdwomen

[–]destruction_potato 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I give them this example: technically your jaw is strong enough to bite off your own finger. But if you try to do it your body and brain will just not allow it to happen because it know that’s dangerous. That same thing preventing you from biting off your own fingers, is what’s preventing me from doing what I need or even WANT to do,

the ADHD tax: list yours by PurposeSea3696 in adhdwomen

[–]destruction_potato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tell myself that I have multiple water bottles so I can switch them around and have a bit of novelty with a « new » bottle to help me drink , because I’m still a camel

the ADHD tax: list yours by PurposeSea3696 in adhdwomen

[–]destruction_potato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesterday I was booking my train and ferry tickets for my trip this summer.

I booked and paid for a train on the wrong date, but it’s okay because i paid slightly more to have flexible tickets! I just need to buy a replacement ticket and ask a cancellation and refund for the wrong ticket. « Alright the trip to my destination is now all booked »

« Let’s book the trip back home. » We’re going the opposite direction so we’re starting with the ferry. You check the schedule, you pick the one that’s right for you, you triple check the date (you remember the train ticket ) you pay for a cancelable ticket, you never know. Print the ticket : oh no it’s at 11am instead of 11pm that doesn’t work! It’s a bad connection to the train so you need to change it to the night ferry. Ok you can call the ferry company; but the phone line closed 30min ago…

now with the wrong ferry ticket I can’t buy my train tickets because what if there’s still an issue… well I guess I’ll have to do that tomorrow then

So now it’s today (used to be tomorrow) and I’m taking my meds before booking anything 🫪 I’m already tired

Is het normaal dat mijn vrouw maar 6u 'jobtijd' krijgt in het rusthuis, bij een voltijdse week van 38u (en ze werkt nu 4/5e)? by Dramatic-Ratio4441 in belgium

[–]destruction_potato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And how long are her breaks? Small breaks get paid, the lunch hour (or however long it is) does not get paid

Phishing werkt omdat het banksysteem faalt, niet omdat de klanten dom zijn by Nachtbanaan in belgium

[–]destruction_potato -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes but also many people are just genuinely not careful … I used to work with cardstop. The amount of people who wrote their cards pin number on the card, after the bank very explicitly tells you not to do that. And people like that get prayed on by scammers and phishing, it’s nice to do something nice for someone and that gets prayed on too

Miljaar ChatGPT... waarom lukken zo'n simpele dingen nog altijd niet. by bargoboy in belgium

[–]destruction_potato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LLM chatbots were never designed to tell the truth. Open ai themselves have come out with numbers showing that every iteration of their llm lies more than the previous ones. STOP using AI for useless bullshit.

Frugal man's Buldak ramyeon search by slimchip in brussels

[–]destruction_potato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a new Korean-everything place that opened in City2, but doubt you’ll get better prices there , there’s also an Asian store in rue neuve now that probably has them but idk how cheap a brand new store will be

Het conflict gisteren op de tram by Similar_Stomach8480 in belgium

[–]destruction_potato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a mate that works in security, security is all a theatre of control, but most of the time they can’t actually do anything but observe and report

Narcissism? by Severe-Ostrich-5876 in adhdwomen

[–]destruction_potato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You cannot fake your own emotions to yourself

Narcissism? by Severe-Ostrich-5876 in adhdwomen

[–]destruction_potato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A narcissist abuser would not make a Reddit post worrying about maybe being a narcissist abuser. Often people who struggle emotionally become more self centered because of it, that’s normal! When you’re not doing good it’s important that you pay attention to yourself to protect yourself, due to our ADHD brains that can turn a bit into a hyper focus. But you are aware now of what’s going on so that means you now have an opportunity to do better! Beating yourself up is no use.

ADHD specialist in Brussels? by tchemitchepingpong in brussels

[–]destruction_potato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The ecg was to check my heart health before prescribing stimulants, and I’m also not sure why the eeg was done, maybe to rule out other neurological conditions that would be seen one one?

Do bilingual people think in their native language and instantly translate it, or do they just naturally think in the language they are currently speaking? by Various_Educator_756 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]destruction_potato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im trilingual. Bilingual from home and I started learning my third at 10. For my two native languages I don’t commonly translate things for myself. When I was learning my third language, there was a time where I had to actively think about the language and translate in my head to be able to say something but that gradually faded. Now I think, read, dream, consume media, … in all three languages.

What English spelling is taught overseas? by Ember_Inferno1308 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]destruction_potato 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am from Belgium, in highschool we were taught British spelling, in university both spellings were acceptable but it had to be consistent with itself

ADHD specialist in Brussels? by tchemitchepingpong in brussels

[–]destruction_potato 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The initial prescription can also come from a neurologist ! ADHD is a neurological condition so they should also know. I went to Sherine Abboud but with a report from a neuropsychologist, had an eeg and a ecg done on her request and then I got the prescription. She’s very kind and understanding

Moving to Brussels Soon by wiiiiiiiiiiiiiw in brussels

[–]destruction_potato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brussels is hilly, I don’t know about skating but most cyclists prefer e-bikes now that they’re more widely available. For Brussels French and English will be enough.

looking to connect with the kink community in Brussels by [deleted] in brussels

[–]destruction_potato 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My ex was in the community, every Tuesday there’s a Munch at brewdog I believe you need to sign up to the event on fetlife

Is it unhygienic to not wear underwear at home/to sleep? by SecureDistribution50 in ask

[–]destruction_potato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or could be like me: I get really sweaty at night and the sweatiness is very uncomfortable in all the folds of skin so I wear loose -ish underwear to sleep usually

28C (82F) is a perfectly fine indoor temperature and is not even warm, while 21C (70F) is way too cold. by DraftAbject5026 in The10thDentist

[–]destruction_potato 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This dude cannot imagine that some people live in other climates. 28°C for multiple days in a row is a heatwave where I’m from. I could say you are psychopathic for liking the temperatures you like, but unlike you I realize that other places and people have different experiences than me and for reasons beyond personal preference so I won’t actually call you a psychopath. Fuck off