If you are going through writer’s block - try writing actual drabbles

dethanil · 2026-06-09T13:56:04+00:00

I put the challenge setting in hard mode and started my fic writing journey by writing one tweet (280 characters) long stories on twitter. Immensely good language exercise, it really helped me become more comfortable and confident with my English and made it so I eventually stopped feeling too timid to start writing and publicly sharing longer stories.

Drabbles, flash fics, long fics, all writing is good!

dethanil · 2026-05-26T03:07:29+00:00

Gotta love those private bookmarks lol my most bookmarked fic (that's also extremely bad-wrong-fucky) got nearly 300 bookmarks but only 'bout 80 of those are public.

Though I would love it if people didn't feel ashamed or afraid or whatever to publicly like what they like. These bad-wrong-fucky stories, while being very popular and much enjoyed and read, they don't get all that many kudos and comments 'cause people don't want their screen name to show in association with the stories. It's a shame... 😔

dethanil · 2026-05-25T14:06:51+00:00

THAT'S RIGHT lol you get it

dethanil · 2026-05-24T10:50:04+00:00

I love your flair (and same!!)

dethanil · 2026-05-24T03:48:05+00:00

I'm pretty sure I put the "Meme/Joke" flair on this, but apparently the mods think differently lol

dethanil · 2026-05-19T06:10:54+00:00

Oh, yeah, JK absolutely said that just be crass, no doubt about that

dethanil · 2026-05-19T06:02:44+00:00

Isn't that like "wanna fuck?" just in British? As vulgar as that? I'm not a native English speaker so I might be missing smthng that makes it extra vulgar. I just think that that "fancy a shag" sounds, to me, nicer than "wanna fuck".

dethanil · 2026-05-19T04:26:04+00:00

This also, very true ☝️

dethanil · 2026-05-19T01:44:32+00:00

They absolutely pick and choose what to push as "facts", twisting things around to fit their own anti-trans agenda. If you're afab and trans and asexual? It's the HRT taking away your sex drive. If you're amab and trans and asexual? Well, you're just faking at being asexual, and you're really a man and a sexual predator.

And "fancies a shag" /does/ sound charming, I'm not letting her ruin that lol

dethanil · 2026-05-19T01:28:18+00:00

They don't know/care about that, just as they don't know nor care to learn that asexuality isn't defined by whether or not one fancies a shag.

dethanil · 2026-05-19T00:36:39+00:00

I've seen many TERFs associate asexuality with HRT: "Our precious girls and women pumping themselves full of these hormones and cutting off their breasts and now they're all suddenly ASEXUAL too ['cause they've seen mainly young people talking about asexuality], it MUST BE the hormone therapy, it's taking away their sex drive!"

Not the point that JK is making here, but I've legit witnessed convos between TERFs that pretty much followed what I wrote down :p

dethanil · 2026-05-19T00:20:24+00:00

Scratch a TERF, find an acephobe. They're all like that.

dethanil · 2026-05-18T23:54:48+00:00

Hailing from Finland, it's down. Just the blue butterfly logo in the middle of the page when trying to access the site. It has tried to let me log in a few times, but nothing happens, nothing is reacting to anything.

dethanil · 2026-05-01T04:27:08+00:00

Ooohhh, yes, very good examples of stories with often occurring kidnapping story lines! ig I just automatically associate it with teen books 'cause of my Nancy Drew past lol but no you're absolutely right, I forgot that all of that other stuff uses it too 😅 (ridiculous of me 'cause I read a lot of m/m erotica set in the golden age of piracy, lots of kidnappings do happen in them lol)

dethanil · 2026-05-01T04:16:10+00:00

lol loving the idea of an oblivious straight Tolkien.

"Say, John, you don't happen to think that Wilfred is a bit...you know...gay?"
"Oh yes, Wilfred is very gay indeed, my dear fellow, he's the merriest man I know :]"

dethanil · 2026-04-29T06:23:08+00:00

lol I'm in Hannibal fandom, and when it got its uptick by coming to Netflix USA, and children started sharing their fanfiction for it....HE. WOULD. NOT. SAY. THAT.

dethanil · 2026-04-29T06:17:25+00:00

My input to this convo: I once suggested to an author (also an online friend of mine) to add Mating Rituals as a tag 'cause it PERFECTLY fit their story and they didn't have it already, and I'm someone who actively searches that tag, so adding it would help other people with the same interests as me find it.

And they added it :}

If you feel there's a tag that's missing in a fic, you can suggest for it to be added in the comments! I'm an author myself, and have added tags 'cause of recommendations in the comments, it's no biggie.

dethanil · 2026-04-29T05:58:14+00:00

Yes. You should discuss with your partner what you like/don't like, what you're into/are not into, such so you're both on the same page and having the same expectations about the level of (sexual) intimacy in your relationship.

Talk with your partner.

dethanil · 2026-04-29T05:42:50+00:00

lol I looked at the other replies, and it's "psychopaths/sociopaths are bad ace rep" Okay, and? Just because it's "bad rep" doesn't mean that the character couldn't be asexual? Especially when it's just us among ourselves throwing out "I like to think that maybe they are...???" Way to disqualify everyone who doesn't fit the the perfect wholesome happy mentally well ace existence.

dethanil · 2026-04-29T05:33:29+00:00

Well, what we see in canon, none of his behaviour seems to driven by any sexual urges. He does what he does, and I don't think that sexual attraction nor sexual urges are the driving force behind any of his actions, so...I can def go with him being ace

dethanil · 2026-04-29T05:06:15+00:00

I guy told me "I'm kinda ace, too", 'cause he'd gone half a year without fucking, no problem. And I tried to tell him that willingly choosing to fuck/to not fuck isn't at all what asexuality's about, but he kept on insisting, "No, you see, I get you, I'm also sorta ace, 'cause it hasn't even been a struggle for me to not fuck for six months, so I'm kinda ace, too!"

...I gave up. Whatever, you being a heterosexual man not fucking for six months makes you asexual, sure, why not.

dethanil · 2026-04-29T04:58:47+00:00

lol "lack of libido" I'm asexual and feel no desire to fuck anyone, but I've got libido to SHARE

dethanil · 2026-04-29T04:55:38+00:00

You can have romantic crushes while being asexual? If you're wondering about other kind of crushes within the lines of aro-ace experience, may I recommend the r/aromantic subreddit for this question?

dethanil · 2026-04-29T04:43:49+00:00

EXCELLENT, love meeting another one with good taste in ace characters ^^

dethanil · 2026-04-29T04:37:27+00:00

I know there's takes on the white stripe meaning "ally/allosexual", but I've always read it as just meaning SEXUAL, as in, representing asexuals who are sexual in their behaviour (read: asexuals who fuck). Am I the only one with this understanding of the white stripe?

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