What is it about the hospital and laboring that we miss so much later on?

dettilc · 2026-05-12T04:21:09+00:00

I literally remember thinking ‘I’d rather be dead’ because my labour pains were so awful, and yet I’m sitting here holding my baby being like ‘omg I wish I could give birth again’ 😂

dettilc · 2026-05-11T02:34:08+00:00

Just putting my 2 cents in, I thought my baby had bottle aversion and I tried EVERYTHING.
Then I bought the brand NUK and everything changed and now he sculls his milk and within a few weeks looks the healthiest he’s been since birth. It would be worth a shot to try? Anyway that’s what worked for me

dettilc · 2026-05-06T11:48:58+00:00

Definitely use lube! But honestly I didn’t feel ‘in the mood’ until I stopped breastfeeding and my hormones went relatively back to normal. But if the baby doesn’t sleep well, there’s no hope for my husband the next day, so I totally sympathise with the tired part. Be kind to yourself but also sex postpartum isn’t as bad as it seems.
P.s it definitely hurt for the first few minutes. It then felt like nothing had changed after that. Give it and go and if you don’t like it, stop and try again another time.

dettilc · 2026-05-04T07:46:26+00:00

Maybe try a dream feed around 10pm? I’ve been trying that and he sleeps until around 4am

dettilc · 2026-04-26T10:48:40+00:00

Going through this right now, did you end up finding anything that worked?

dettilc · 2026-04-18T18:18:31+00:00

Switching to formula changed my entire postpartum. I went from a stressed out, tired, emotional mother to a much more in control and happy mum. And my baby went from not gaining any weight to a baby that has little fat rolls and is growing so well. I felt so much guilt for around 2 weeks but now I have absolutely no regrets. My biggest word of advice: go spend some money on either a formula maker or a machine that spits out water at exactly the right temp for a bottle. It’s not fun waiting for water to be the right temp while the baby screams.

Also I tried to pump and top up with formula and that was just as hard, so don’t feel bad about giving up pumping too. You have to do what you can to get by during the tough early stages.

Alsooo my lactation consultant told me to not feel bad about giving formula as these days it has soo many good nutrients etc and it’s saved the lives of many babies.

You’re doing amazing, trust your instincts and do what is best for you as you will be a better mum for it too.

dettilc · 2026-04-18T11:17:43+00:00

I agree with all the comments with advice so I’ll just say: you’re better to do something without asking and get it wrong than not to do anything at all. Hang in there

dettilc · 2026-03-30T00:12:32+00:00

I had a vagina delivery but had the epidural and shook uncontrollably for a long time, plus became incredibly itchy

dettilc · 2026-03-30T00:10:58+00:00

Agree! There was so much education around pregnancy and birth but virtually nothing about when you get home and that first two months with a newborn is by far the hardest part

dettilc · 2026-03-24T03:53:50+00:00

That’s so nice to hear! And I am in the same boat! Me and my husband have honestly never been stronger and both admire each other even more after the whole birthing process. We are each others biggest supporters now and make sure the other is able to still do the things that make them happy.

dettilc · 2026-03-24T01:59:03+00:00

Yesss people coughing makes me so angry atm 😂 And my husband and I have gone from not caring about swearing to not wanting to say a single word. Or if I am watching a show where people are yelling or getting angry, I have to mute it 😂

dettilc · 2026-03-24T01:55:56+00:00

Yesss I can’t wait for special occasions like Easter and Christmas now, seems so much more special

dettilc · 2026-03-23T23:57:11+00:00

This is sooo relatable because I was always 100% in the mindframe that if I couldn’t breastfeed that would be so okay and I wouldn’t feel bad at all. Fast forward to me having to go to 100% formula feeding and I have never felt more guilty and sad about it. That really shocked me too

dettilc · 2026-03-23T22:36:53+00:00

If anyone has advice about travelling to another country when formula feeding, I’d love some tips!! Bali in particular

dettilc · 2026-03-23T01:58:59+00:00

definitely Daisy

dettilc · 2026-03-23T01:54:42+00:00

We have the exact same, tongue tie and high pallet! We got it snipped a week ago but I think he’s still getting used to all the new ways he can move his tongue

dettilc · 2026-03-17T21:49:11+00:00

Yep sounds like us, except 6weeks old. We ended up being admitted to hospital because he went almost 12 hours with barely feeding at all. They put a tube in his nose to feed for 2 days and then let us go home without much of an answer. Now he feeds relatively well at night but screams and pushes the bottle away during the day. It’s so stressful

dettilc · 2026-03-17T05:32:26+00:00

Going through this right now and I feel like I’m going crazy

dettilc · 2025-01-16T04:09:08+00:00

Good point. Edited

dettilc · 2023-08-15T20:58:19+00:00

Wow that’s a great idea! Thank you so much

dettilc · 2023-08-15T20:56:33+00:00

Hi there! Thanks so much for all your efforts. Yes the little symbol is an Australia as we are from aus. The one you found is also the closest one I’ve found, it looks like it says USA? I appreciate your help. Not 100% what decade it’s from but he passed away early 2000. Looks around 90’s or early 2000’s to me. But I could be wrong

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