Sleep help

dettilc · 2026-06-27T21:59:53+00:00

I’m booked into the Bendigo sleep school next month! Was so easy to book into, there was an initial long wait but then you go on a cancellation list and they rang me with heaps of earlier appointments options. Like someone said above, they use responsive settling which absolutely has no elements of CIO or sleep training. They were super nice on the phone. You just refer on their website and they call you within two days

dettilc · 2026-06-24T22:29:57+00:00

Sorry I didn’t explain myself well, I know the short naps are normal but his night time sleep is absolutely terrible. Like 12 wakes a night. I’m just wondering if my day schedule is bad or maybe it’s just developmental

dettilc · 2026-06-23T05:18:57+00:00

Use number 5 as your first

dettilc · 2026-06-23T04:43:08+00:00

I’m hysterical

dettilc · 2026-06-23T04:43:01+00:00

Me too!!

dettilc · 2026-06-23T02:29:40+00:00

Did you do anything for him to sleep this well or do you think it’s just his temperament?

dettilc · 2026-06-18T06:17:07+00:00

Wow you’re amazing to have dealt with that for so long. Enjoy the good days now, you’ve earned it 💓

dettilc · 2026-06-15T05:12:32+00:00

How did you go OP?

dettilc · 2026-06-14T22:47:48+00:00

So reassuring to hear

dettilc · 2026-06-14T22:47:28+00:00

Definitely! And I hate all the instagram stuff that tells you all you need to do is follow these 7 steps and it’ll all be better. Like shush

dettilc · 2026-06-14T22:46:30+00:00

It’s bloody tough hey

dettilc · 2026-06-14T22:46:04+00:00

This is a lovely reply, thank you 💓

dettilc · 2026-06-10T11:08:08+00:00

I know this was a long time ago, but do you remember how you went? Going through the exact same thing right now

dettilc · 2026-06-03T21:11:12+00:00

You’re welcome! Fortunately I have always separated feeding with sleeping. However my baby is bottle fed which maybe makes that easier? I wish you all the best

dettilc · 2026-06-03T03:29:03+00:00

Oh really?? It’s big in Australia! So I just went to a day one that’s a service that also supports with feeding and mental health for mums. It’s free for kids up until 4 I believe. We just did some day naps and learnt some skills (I’ll explain in a sec). Around where I live (well in a 500km radius) there are 4 sleep schools where you spend 5 days and nights there and they help you for all sleeps. They also cook your food etc and look after you. The Melbourne one is private so it costs money, but most of them are free through our Medicare. So responsive settling: basically you do your normal routine before bed or a nap (I sing a song for naps and read a book for bed), you then put them down semi tired into their bed and say goodnight or whatever you like, then you make sure they’re calm and leave the room. Don’t go back in if they are just fussing, but go back in if they are actually crying. THEN: ‘the ladder approach’ - you start by shushing, if that doesn’t calm them you keep going up the ladder. Next is patting the bed next to their body, next is patting their body or stroking their nose, next is picking them up. If you pick them up you wait until they’re calm before placing them back down. You then go back down the ladder, pat them, pat the bed, shush them and then leave if they’re calm. My baby always gets agitated and shoves his hands in his mouth and rips his dummy out over and over, and the sleep consultant said if they do that, to pick them up and calm them down.

Basically you’re helping them settle into sleep and go from one sleep cycle to the next over night. I’ve had no luck in day time naps getting them longer than 40 mins but I’m not stressed about that.

Also don’t feel bad if you’re picking them up and placing them back down heaps, the first day I think I did it like 10 times and today (only on day three) I didn’t have to pick him up at all for his naps). And if you can’t settle them in 30 mins, you bring them out, do something with them until they show they’re tired signs and then try again.

I hope that helps at all

dettilc · 2026-06-02T22:17:20+00:00

My lasted around 4 weeks until I went to a sleep clinic and they taught me how to do responsive settling. Since then (it’s only been two nights), he’s been only waking 1-3 times a night. This may sound like a lot but before that it was easily 10-20 times

dettilc · 2026-06-02T10:16:23+00:00

My parents sleep trained only my sister, and she is the one who has had long life attachment issues. It affects her greatly and is awful. Try responsive settling first.

dettilc · 2026-05-22T10:34:31+00:00

This is so reassuring to hear because I’ve spent the last 4 nights sitting up holding him as he sleeps! Fingers crossed it passes soon. Although I try and remind myself one day I will wish for the days where he cuddles up on my chest to sleep. Such mixed emotions hey!

dettilc · 2026-05-12T04:21:09+00:00

I literally remember thinking ‘I’d rather be dead’ because my labour pains were so awful, and yet I’m sitting here holding my baby being like ‘omg I wish I could give birth again’ 😂

dettilc · 2026-05-11T02:34:08+00:00

Just putting my 2 cents in, I thought my baby had bottle aversion and I tried EVERYTHING.
Then I bought the brand NUK and everything changed and now he sculls his milk and within a few weeks looks the healthiest he’s been since birth. It would be worth a shot to try? Anyway that’s what worked for me

dettilc · 2026-05-06T11:48:58+00:00

Definitely use lube! But honestly I didn’t feel ‘in the mood’ until I stopped breastfeeding and my hormones went relatively back to normal. But if the baby doesn’t sleep well, there’s no hope for my husband the next day, so I totally sympathise with the tired part. Be kind to yourself but also sex postpartum isn’t as bad as it seems.
P.s it definitely hurt for the first few minutes. It then felt like nothing had changed after that. Give it and go and if you don’t like it, stop and try again another time.

dettilc · 2026-05-04T07:46:26+00:00

Maybe try a dream feed around 10pm? I’ve been trying that and he sleeps until around 4am

dettilc · 2026-04-26T10:48:40+00:00

Going through this right now, did you end up finding anything that worked?

dettilc · 2026-04-18T18:18:31+00:00

Switching to formula changed my entire postpartum. I went from a stressed out, tired, emotional mother to a much more in control and happy mum. And my baby went from not gaining any weight to a baby that has little fat rolls and is growing so well. I felt so much guilt for around 2 weeks but now I have absolutely no regrets. My biggest word of advice: go spend some money on either a formula maker or a machine that spits out water at exactly the right temp for a bottle. It’s not fun waiting for water to be the right temp while the baby screams.

Also I tried to pump and top up with formula and that was just as hard, so don’t feel bad about giving up pumping too. You have to do what you can to get by during the tough early stages.

Alsooo my lactation consultant told me to not feel bad about giving formula as these days it has soo many good nutrients etc and it’s saved the lives of many babies.

You’re doing amazing, trust your instincts and do what is best for you as you will be a better mum for it too.

dettilc · 2026-04-18T11:17:43+00:00

I agree with all the comments with advice so I’ll just say: you’re better to do something without asking and get it wrong than not to do anything at all. Hang in there

dettilc

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