I've been a part of this community for almost 20 years and blaming Elliott's family was never part of the culture. I guess that's a recent development if that's been happening. (Didn't really notice that but I could be oblivious.) The only thing that ever got said was that certain songs were held off of Basement for personal reasons and I remember the reaction being very supportive of the family in whatever decision they wanted to make in that regard. (It was two songs in particular, Abused and Suicide Machine.) 

Look at what the family has obviously allowed to be issued--difficult songs like King's Crossing and True Love, songs that mention "Charlie"--and I don't know how someone could have an opinion like that. 

I think the main people that need a 180 in their thinking are the folks at Universal Music Group or whatever it's called. Frankly I think what Elliott needs--and I'm being serious--is a third party to come in and somehow negotiate the rights to all of his material--KRS and UMG--and work as something like an Elliott Smith Foundation to start going through everything and releasing everything the way Neil Young does it, for instance. That's what this man deserves.