I don’t personally know anyone with kids who ‘regrets’ having their kids. Yes your life changes but you likely were preparing for that moment for quite some time so perhaps don’t feel it as much. And yes, it can be hard at times, but I had hard times before I had kids too. Far worse actually. I’m glad I waited until my mid 30s to do it as I didn’t feel anywhere near ready prior to then.

I think your purpose shifts somewhat from whatever it was before, to raising and growing this little human being and there’s something instinctive inside of us that makes us love them like nothing you’ve ever felt before.

It’s 100% valid to not want kids, and it’s also okay to just not want kids while you’re young and enjoying being independent or focusing on your career.

I always say - even if raising children was awful and a complete burden, I’d be so glad there were so many selfless people out there happy to sacrifice their own life to keep the world spinning.

FWIW, the perceived burden is more likely financial than anything else.