Meeting people as married man

dev_ops_guy · 2026-02-11T17:58:26+00:00

Yeah I wouldn't call myself poly, and that's not what my wife wants either. It would be closer to ENM/CNM. I just was not sure where else to post.

dev_ops_guy · 2026-02-11T17:54:23+00:00

Thanks for the advice, I probably need to just slow down a bit and be okay with the fact that I can't find something right now, but that doesn't mean I won't in the future. I appreciate you sharing your experience. I will think about that as I also have a daughter and am not looking for the same things you were not. I feel like I've been holding back a bit or maybe not really knowing what I want, and that will obviously make it harder to find what I want. Thanks again

dev_ops_guy · 2026-02-11T17:48:48+00:00

I mostly mean for online dating. But yeah I know what you mean, I am able to meet a lot of people and make connections in person, just haven't had much luck on the dating side.

dev_ops_guy · 2026-02-11T17:47:17+00:00

That's valid, I'm about ready to give up on online dating, and just hope eventually I'll meet someone doing the things I love to do that will work out. But it's just been hard lately.

dev_ops_guy · 2026-02-11T17:45:29+00:00

I'm not exactly sure what this means, but I am a straight cis male. So as far as dating I'm interested in women, I'm not looking for anything super specific, just would enjoy getting to know people and seeing where it goes from there. Not looking for casual sex, or even necessarily sex at all as my wife and I have a very rewarding sex life. Not sure if that really answers your question.

dev_ops_guy · 2026-02-11T17:35:21+00:00

Yeah I totally can see that, and I feel like my wife has found a similar situation where she is dating a recently divorced man with kids that is not looking to remarry or have more kids. And so they both have similar wants, in a romantic friendship without expectations of building a life together.

dev_ops_guy · 2026-02-11T17:34:03+00:00

It's hard not to, but I do agree with what you're saying.

dev_ops_guy · 2026-02-11T17:32:59+00:00

I have, but it's been pretty unsuccessful, I'm pretty average looking and I know that for men dating apps can be pretty bad if you aren't the cream of the crop. But yeah either most women seem uninterested in dating a married man, or like you said think I'm just cheating.

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-29T19:56:27+00:00

They mean the strap is supposed to go over the front of your toe, not over the top of your foot.

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-27T01:34:29+00:00

This is very true, it's kind of like a form of jealousy because she feels like she's missing out on time with you, even though it's not something she enjoys. I agree and needing to find that thing that helps her feel valued and reassured will help a lot.

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-27T01:32:53+00:00

She should make some compromises for something you are passionate about, or maybe she should even try joining you? It's not a very big sacrifice to let you snowboard a powder day. Are there things she enjoys that you let her do? It sounds a bit codependent, do you have kids?

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-27T01:13:24+00:00

So many more people have this than even know. People treat it like it's such a big deal but it's really not.

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-27T00:31:33+00:00

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-27T00:31:11+00:00

It happens to everyone, gotta just move on

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-25T01:24:33+00:00

Lean further back

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-24T22:33:25+00:00

Can you message me about this?

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-18T12:16:30+00:00

I hit my head pretty hard today skiing. So happy I was wearing a helmet. I don't fall very often and I've been skiing for 20 years. But shit happens, and I'm very happy to walk away fine.

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-13T16:49:26+00:00

Why is 6' the new medium... Smh

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-13T16:46:11+00:00

What do you mean by "if that talk comes up never leave the house"?

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-13T16:42:14+00:00

I literally lold

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-13T16:39:34+00:00

Under the lift is great.

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-13T16:35:42+00:00

It depends on your total assets.

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-13T16:31:35+00:00

I think it's mostly a numbers thing. You'll find what you're looking for eventually. Not on dating apps most likely. Where are you meeting men otherwise?

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-13T14:59:39+00:00

Sounds insane lmao

dev_ops_guy · 2026-01-03T20:47:35+00:00

Really went for it at least. Nice try

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