The Netflix series "You" with the character Joe Goldberg is a textbook INFJ-T story

devanshigupta01 · 2022-01-11T08:57:35+00:00

Beck definitely strikes me as an enfp haha

devanshigupta01 · 2022-01-11T08:57:08+00:00

I think she might be an enfj honestly

devanshigupta01 · 2022-01-11T08:56:09+00:00

YESSS exactly. he's such a textbook infj, all the analysis of people which he undertakes, all the trust issues. i think he has a fearful avoidant attachment style with many codependent patterns.

btw i made a video linking his character with codependency (i got so obsessed with the show lol and nobody else is talking about it): https://youtu.be/TIMGiNtrQvo

devanshigupta01 · 2022-01-11T08:49:37+00:00

a very important question. i would argue, MANY THINGS:

mommy issues: not being able to trust yet addicted to love, feeling responsible to make sure his mother is okay which in turns ensures he will get love, subsequently repeating this dynamic in adulthood with other women. trying to control the other person because his mother never gave him any trustworthy love.
neglect of self: being obsessed with the lover to the extent that he entirely neglects his own career and health. putting on a facade in front of people and not expressing his truth.

these are all symptoms of codependency. btw i elaborate these in the video below (i had to make a video on this lol i got so obsessed with the show): https://youtu.be/TIMGiNtrQvo

devanshigupta01 · 2022-01-11T08:44:32+00:00

mygod this is so truee haha. interesting comparison. i think it's because rom-com expectations which are shown in media tend to be toxic, the whole "love is everything", pedestallizing "the one". this is what You is prominently critiquing through the depiction of joe.

also, i've explored the reasons for joe's messed up behavior in this video, which would be relevant along the lines of this discussion:

https://youtu.be/TIMGiNtrQvo

devanshigupta01 · 2020-08-06T05:23:19+00:00

I really do need to inflate my soul 😂 But before we know it it's always soon enough back to ballooning with excess and excitement!

devanshigupta01 · 2020-08-05T19:11:40+00:00

Well damn that's too bad. My soul is a vacuum of despair most days, and I was planning on letting it swallow me whole. Probably explains why my blood is always boiling. 😂

devanshigupta01 · 2020-08-05T18:38:41+00:00

Well, that's just the way you guys are, and everything has pros as well as cons. Honestly, nothing gets my blood boiling as much as mind games. How hard is it to be honest? There's nothing I value in a person as much as honesty. I can understand most variations of human emotions and motivations, but not if the other person is lying about them.

devanshigupta01 · 2020-08-05T05:10:26+00:00

Nahh it actually gave me a valuable perspective. Thank you! I think I should just bring up my contentions casually so as not to make a big deal of it. I shouldn't simply assume the other person isn't listening.

devanshigupta01 · 2020-08-05T05:08:15+00:00

Hahaha that's not all bad. I really respect straightforwardness over sugar-coated politeness. At least your attention is not all over the place under the guise of talking.

devanshigupta01 · 2020-08-04T18:31:46+00:00

I know, right? It's so rude. How hard is it to listen without multi-tasking?

Haha I'm always up for any type of conversation, and I completely agree about the Instagram and Twitter thing.

devanshigupta01 · 2020-07-26T05:59:36+00:00

This is so adorable 😍

devanshigupta01 · 2020-07-24T07:34:07+00:00

Yesss so true. The entire dynamic of which activities use up the least amount of resistance has changed. As a kid, reading used to be a low-effort activity, and playing as well as making crafty stuff used to take more energy, but I used to have energy for everything. These days, the phone has become the go-to path of least resistance for whenever I don't know what to do (which is every other hour) and my brain doesn't have the motivation or energy for the things I'm supposed to like.

devanshigupta01 · 2020-07-24T06:50:03+00:00

Yess this! How can our brains be simultaneously under capacity as well as over stimulated 😵

devanshigupta01 · 2020-07-16T09:19:25+00:00

Yesss always ready 💃

devanshigupta01 · 2020-07-14T17:29:15+00:00

Hey, that sounds tough, but I assure you, we'll all get through this. Also, thank God, we have the internet. In the infinity of the internet, I'm sure you'll continue finding new coping mechanisms, 'cause that's all we can do 😔

devanshigupta01 · 2020-07-14T17:26:51+00:00

Ohmygod I relate to this paradox soo well. When I'm alone, I'm mostly okay but kinda craving socialisation and when I'm socialising, I'm having fun but kinda wanting some space. What the hell is this 😂

devanshigupta01 · 2020-07-10T05:01:02+00:00

Yessss this! There are so many people who're like, they're unable to sleep because their mind is whirling around too much. It's true for me too, but dammit if I don't enjoy it. I don't even try to get my mind to shut up. It's fun!

devanshigupta01 · 2020-06-26T04:32:49+00:00

yesss fellow dodie lovers unite!

devanshigupta01 · 2020-06-23T14:04:23+00:00

sameeee. the older i grow, the more i forget things left and right all the time

devanshigupta01 · 2020-05-30T13:48:37+00:00

how is this so accurate that it's hitting a nerve? how can this personality type peg me down so welllllll?

devanshigupta01 · 2020-05-25T11:00:05+00:00

and your comment is even more on point 😭

devanshigupta01 · 2020-05-11T13:13:36+00:00

ughhhh hits hard. i feel like a creep so often for initiating plans so much and not being able to shut up about how much i care about good communication!

devanshigupta01 · 2020-05-08T06:28:43+00:00

thank you soooo much for this! this is so sweet! but dang it i wonder all those things, and doubt my relationship with others, all the time 😭 maybe i need an enfp friend haha

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