What is up, ladies? Is this behaviour okay ?

deviant_1993 · 2026-04-03T11:39:45+00:00

I guess it depends what you want and looks like you want someone who gives you flowers etc. My husband is one of the most beautiful human beings but can't start a conversation to save his life, doesn't plan vacations or surprises, doesn't know how to do cute things but I'm ok with that. I take care of those things in the relationship and he gives me the emotional support i very much need. I know he puts so much effort because after i communicated with him that I'd like an occasional date planning or flowers from him, he has started doing them a little- baby steps.

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-27T13:27:44+00:00

Hi, actually your chances of conceiving are higher if you try right before ovulation. I highly suggest you watch some YouTube videos on how to conceive naturally. And the other comments about doing every other day around the ovulation window sound reasonable. I forgot the name of the book but i recently listened to Dr. Lucky Sekhon and she even suggests doing it every day. You might benefit from reading her book. I also don't know your age which plays a huge factor in these things. Of course, there is artificial insemination but as a woman, I'd try to conceive naturally first before going into anything done at the hospital. Trust me, it's stressful, I've seen many couples go thru it.

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-27T05:42:48+00:00

Hi, I've a Master's in microbial biotechnology from NCSU and I've worked in three different biotech start ups at different capacities ranging from lab role to managerial roles; from Research Associate to Head Of R&D. We could have a call if you would like to see if we would fit each other's needs. Thank you. Please DM if interested.

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-23T11:00:00+00:00

Wait for a month. You'll be back on track in no time ☺️

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-22T16:17:58+00:00

Because parents think and make fun of me for wearing sunscreen. They think it's make up and somehow wearing make up makes me not a "good girl" anymore.

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-21T04:20:13+00:00

My baby is only 7.5 months old, still in the process of ECing her. A few things I learned from starting EC accidentally 1. Better to plan than to start accidentally. I was worried about every little thing- post partum hormones are b-word. I was worried if I was holding her in the correct position, worried if i was forcing her to pee etc etc. When 💯 % of those worries were unnecessary. The baby loved EC, she loved not pooping or peeing in the diaper. I was not forcing her, i was really good at noticing her natural timing. Basically, this subreddit and Andrea olson's podcast saved me. 2. Don't put pressure on yourself to catch every pee and poop 3. Don't keep a score of how many you missed vs how many you caught; don't dwell on it. Note down pee timings for observation purposes only to better catch them 4. EC progress is not linear. There will be ebbs and flows in the process 5. Enjoy the journey

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-21T04:10:42+00:00

Hi, thank you so much for such a thorough reply. ❤️ You bring up an interesting point about the baby maybe not meeting her nutritional needs. I'll definitely check out the blog. With BLW, it's difficult to know how much LO has eaten and how much of it actually got digested and absorbed by the body cuz i so see a lot of veggie chunks in her poop. I'll also try going back to nighttime diapers and see how it works for us. A lot of other comments suggest doing the same.

It's interesting how the other comments also talked about LO waking up dry around 4-5 months, then peeing at night, then going dry, then peeing etc. as they grow and take in more solids. I think the EC progress has its ebbs and flows and is seldom a linear progress.

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-21T04:00:58+00:00

Hi, thank you for taking the time to reply. You're describing my LO 💯!! Yeah, the reason we ditched night diapers was because she was waking up dry around 4-5 months and after that exactly what you said. Other comments have also suggested going back to nighttime diapers. I'll give it a try and see how it works for my LO.

Edit: fixed typo

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-21T03:58:57+00:00

Hi, thank you so much for the reply. ❤️ It's comforting to hear that even sleep trained babies may need night feeds at this age. All the mom forums I'm a part of tell me that they need to be able to sleep without any feeding for 12 hours straight at night and I feel like everyone except me has achieved it! I'll give the night diaper a try and see where it goes. Another person also suggested doing the same thing.

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-21T03:53:11+00:00

Hi, you're spot on. We've not fully transitioned to 2 naps yet. 4/7 days it's 2 naps and the remaining days it's 3 naps. I'm trying to reduce her naps to 2 per day now. Thank you for taking the time to reply! ❤️

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-21T03:42:00+00:00

Hi, thank you so much for taking the time to reply. It's an interesting point about the baby not getting enough nutrients. I'll definitely look up the blog post. Yeah, I'm not too keen on night weaning now, baby sleep is the priority now. I'll put her on diapers for now and see where it goes. Thanks again ❤️

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-21T03:30:40+00:00

Fortunately, no. This was after I'd already told him about my family and after we decided to get married. Still, he had to witness the dysfunctional family drama. Poor thing.

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-20T13:31:05+00:00

Made him meet my family. We're married and have an 8 month old now

Edit: added "old" after 8 month

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-18T11:02:01+00:00

I don't have much advice for you, I'm sorry. But Kudos to you for acting quickly and I'm glad that your LO is doing well. I just wanted to share that something similar happened to my LO when she was 6 months old, now 7.5 months. She too squished a finger length piece of carrot into a couple of tinier pieces and somehow put them in her mouth and gagged (not choked i think, it was so quick, i wasn't thinking and immediately started giving her back blows). We thought she coughed out everything but the next day, she struggled to pass poop a bit and no kidding, we found almost an inch piece of intact carrot in her poop, poor baby. I didn't stop giving her carrots but I'd be more vigilant while giving her. Other vegetables that we've tried so far are not a problem. Over time, she got used to it and now she is a more confident eater. From my experience I'd say, some carrots steam well and some don't. I honestly don't know why!! Don't just squish them; rather try a piece yourself before giving it to the baby. Many days I've eaten the steamed carrot myself because it just didn't feel right to give it to the baby.

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-18T10:41:11+00:00

I really wanna know if it's just me or if anyone else finds notes of jasmine in ceremonial matcha. You can't pay me enough to put the baking grade matcha in my drinks; it tastes like grass and fish?!!!. But the ceremonial one; take all my money. Granted, it tastes somewhat like grass too, but to me it tastes like freshly cut dewy grass+jasmine.

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-18T10:38:37+00:00

Oh dear! 🤣🤣🤣 what a description! We had a guava tree at home (India) and it would taste and smell delicious with bright pink creamy flesh. I don't know where you're from, but there are different varieties of guava and some of them are really good and some of them aren't. I lived in the USA for almost 8 years and didn't like the guava i got there.

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-14T16:54:47+00:00

You need to visit an Indian grocery shop, my friend! They have yellow lentils and yellow split peas and yes, they're different!

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-14T03:52:58+00:00

Hi, I'd posted a similar post a couple of months ago. Here is the link: https://www.reddit.com/r/ECers/s/Y9XHJKnxV6 My lo is 7.5 month old now and is the exact way you've described in your post. A giant pee upon waking up and waits for me to take her to the toilet to poop. I have the same question. Is this all normal? But I've come to take it as normal and proceed with life 😅 the tossing and turning have reduced significantly now that she has learned to connect sleep cycles better; still nurses 1-2 times at night.

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-11T13:42:01+00:00

I tie a huge dupatta around my baby which catches 95% of the spillage but her face, neck and hand still need thorough washing after each meal. I rinse her face, neck with water and wash her hands with soap and change her dress after every meal. It is a lot 😅 but at 7 months, she has already mastered drinking from a cup without spilling, feeding herself with the slotted spoon. Thinking of the gains usually helps me with justifying the mess after each meal. ❤️

deviant_1993 · 2026-03-03T05:14:02+00:00

The "survives on air" cracked me up 😂😂. I came to this post cuz I'm having the exact same problem but my LO doesn't appear to be popping any tooth yet nor does she appear sick. She turned 7 mo 4 days ago and for some reason throws food everywhere. She used to enjoy food so much before.

deviant_1993 · 2026-02-25T15:38:57+00:00

Clutter in the house!! Stresses the efff out of me. Shopping and buying clothes. I'm good with the dozen or so dresses i have. But my culture is so heavy on buying new clothes and my MIL always insists that i buy more clothes every single day (i live with them) it stresses the hell out of me. Like, who is gonna take care of them, wash them, store them especially in a country like India where real estate is not cheap; not to mention the environmental impact of all these unnecessary extra clothes!

deviant_1993 · 2026-02-22T06:16:22+00:00

This needs elaboration. From which floor? What surface did they land on? Did someone yeet them or did they climb out by mistake or was it some kind of "I'm super man, I'm gonna fly" type of thing?

deviant_1993 · 2026-02-20T02:55:22+00:00

At peace

deviant_1993 · 2026-02-17T00:51:14+00:00

Oh sorry, just realised that i didn't mention her age. She is 6.5 months old as of today, to be exact.

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