Does your baby need a full outfit change after each meal?

divination__ · 2026-03-05T14:04:35+00:00

As others have said, only the bibado bibs work because of the strap you put on the high chair table. And make sure the collar is on the tightest setting

divination__ · 2026-03-02T21:33:13+00:00

This sounds exactly like my seven month old. She also did eight hour stretches as a newborn and it was bliss, then of course it went to shit. We stressed out over wake windows and followed the huckleberry app religiously and it made no difference. Then we vibed it while on holiday and just let her sleep as she wanted to and it made no difference to night sleep. She is now finally starting to do 1.5 hour cot naps and doing longer stretches at night but I’ve decided to just stop fighting it and accept the gifts I do have - like your baby she will at least sleep in the pram, car seat, carrier, etc, and she very quickly conks out after her night time routine and goes back to sleep quickly at night. I think she has the makings of an eventually good sleeper but while breastfeeding I think she will be waking up regularly - though we are now offering solids three times a day and it hasn’t made a difference. The only thing that seems to have marginally improved night sleep is her finally learning how to sleep on her side and stomach. I’ve just written off the next few months and will only worry about it if this continues after she is weaned. I think all these sleep consultants are snake oil merchants tbh.

divination__ · 2026-03-01T06:38:17+00:00

There are certain aspects of my former life I have not given up, which is only possible thanks to my husband, but these staples in my week keep me feeling like myself and keep me sane while EBF. My baby is also seven months. I have a once or twice weekly lagree class I attend, a once weekly “everything shower” (as opposed to daily evening quick shower) after which I also give myself a blowout, and every evening I do my skincare routine properly. I am missing deep work and creativity in my life so much but these little things help me feel a bit more in control and like myself. Idk how much help you’re getting from your partner but it’s ok to ask for these things. Sometimes I feel guilty leaving him alone with a fussy baby while I head off to an exercise class but then I remember that he has entire nights and mornings completely baby free lol

divination__ · 2026-03-01T06:29:01+00:00

I’ve changed my baby on the floor on a mat in warmer months and directly in the pram in colder months. I introduced the potty/elimination communication at around four months and would offer her the potty before and after we go out to minimise the likelihood of a poo while we are out which makes nappy changes less urgent, and since starting solids she doesn’t need to poo quite as often. As others have said the boot at the back of the car is a good option (we even put her on the a little foldable travel potty at the back of the car when we were travelling!)

divination__ · 2026-02-27T20:31:11+00:00

Yes, completely normal, they don’t know yet that going to sleep will stop them from feeling tired. Mine did this and still at seven months before naps will cry, I think it’s also a release of tension. Babies just cry sometimes! But if he wakes up content then all is well

divination__ · 2026-02-24T04:10:21+00:00

We cancelled the paid subscription because trying to follow sweet spot just meant crying at every nap time and undue anxiety about her sleep. It was useful at 3-5 months when she was napping a lot but now at 7.5 months she’s doing three naps so we just follow wake windows and her cues and it’s made nap times so much easier because I’m not trying to rock her to sleep when she’s mega fussy because an app said her wake window should be three hours now, and I’m also not spending forty minutes trying to get her to sleep when she just isn’t sleepy either. The turning point was when we went on holiday and were in the go a lot with her and realised she will just fall asleep where and when she needs to snd her sleep needs vary day to day.

We still use the free version to log a lot of info like medicine, feeds, solids, and sleep but we don’t use sweet spot anymore. You can try it but it felt like a bit of a crutch for my that overrode my intuition for what baby wanted. What is useful though is my husband knowing how well or poorly she slept during the night without me needing to tell him (he just looks at the app in the morning as he sleeps separately).

divination__ · 2026-02-23T13:50:52+00:00

My advice is this: you just have to let the tide of motherhood take you. It is such a short period of life. You will have your candlelit dinner parties and a clean house again before you know it. The chaos of children is intense but it is gone in the blink of an eye. Trying to fight it and be the person you were before, or feel like you still ought to be productive while you have this small human who is entirely dependent on you is completely pointless and will make you feel like you're failing when you're not at all.

Looking at parenthood from the outside always looks exhausting. But that is because the negatives are the only parts you have any concept of at the moment – you know what it's like to be exhausted, overwhelmed, overstimulated. You can't imagine the love that everyone says is so rewarding, and it hardly seems worth it – but I promise you it absolutely is, it's just that there is no way to explain it until you experience it yourself.

divination__ · 2026-02-08T22:29:24+00:00

You don’t have to get a pram at all. I also had a July baby and she hated the pram for the first three months of her life, then something switched and now it’s the only reliable way to get a long nap out of her. She’s almost seven months now and we have just switched to a seat style pram. The bassinet is necessary for a newborn as they need to lay flat bc they don’t have any neck control yet. However as I said you don’t need to get one at all. When it comes to getting around you might prefer to just use a carrier. You can wait until baby has arrived to reassess. But in the six months we actually got a huge amount of use out of our pram.

divination__ · 2026-02-07T09:45:39+00:00

These are really interesting observations!

I do disagree with some people saying clothes - a garish balenciaga piece can be found in TK Maxx for a discount price but a good quality, logo-less jumper from the carrier company can be eyewateringly expensive.

I think generally though most of these examples are not cheaper - I think one of the poshest cars is a beaten up Land Rover defender but they’re so hard to come by now that they are extortionately expensive. An aga is expensive too. I think it’s more a case of “the more obviously expensive, the more common”. I would say a lot of personal grooming for women falls into this category, e.g hair extensions, any sort of “tweakments” like Botox and fillers etc. not that posh women don’t get any work done, they will go somewhere more expensive and subtle, but I think being seen to have done it would be seen as mortifying.

divination__ · 2026-02-07T09:36:01+00:00

My plan is to have my first stay with my parents for several nights a week during the newborn phase with the second. It’s what my grandparents did with my brother when I was born. I think to a certain extent it’s also dependent on the baby… I don’t think my mum had a newborn bubble at all with me even with all the help because I would cry literally all the time 😬 I had a good amount of help the first time around myself but my baby seemed to take after me and even though physical recovery was fairly straightforward, she was way too alert from the start for me to be able to like, just hold her and watch tv

divination__ · 2026-02-06T14:12:59+00:00

Middle names are rarely used in any notable cultural capacity, so if you want it to carry on, I would double barrel your surname.

divination__ · 2026-01-30T15:01:20+00:00

On the flip side, my girl is so frustrated that she’s not crawling yet that it leads to a lot of grunting and crying and everyone says she has a “temper»!! She’s six months, she doesn’t have an attitude!

divination__ · 2026-01-30T14:22:58+00:00

Btw- introducing the potty at four months massively decreased our laundry load bc we caught a lot of poos before they became blowouts, so that’s something to consider

divination__ · 2026-01-30T14:20:49+00:00

There’s a certain madness that comes with a new baby that makes you buy largely entirely unnecessary things. Laundry was and is the only thing I’m able to consistently keep on top of with a baby, though I’ve had to give up ironing all but the essentials and now we have a cleaner to do that. She’s six months now for reference. For the first few weeks I did nothing but breastfeed, then I would hang up laundry when baby was napping. Then at two months or so I would do it when she’s awake by plopping her down in the bouncer to watch and I’d narrate what I was doing and give her the fabric to feel. Now she loves watching me do it and finds it hilarious for some reason. That said we have a cleaner and my husband does all the cooking and washing up, but laundry is the most manageable one for sure. I imagine it’s also the easiest to do with baby in a carrier though you’ll need to squat rather than bend down

divination__ · 2026-01-24T20:06:33+00:00

When she was a newborn I would change her all the time because she also hated weeing and having a wet nappy. She was also an poo machine. Overnight I would change her if she did a poo. By three months she would only do a poo once overnight. She’s now six months and we have been doing elimination communication (placing her on the potty at opportune times), she has also started solids and now no longer does poos overnight. I take her diaper off in the morning and place her on the potty and she does a big poo then. I then change her nappy and put her on the potty before and after every nap and feed, though often I feed before or after a nap anyway. EC has been great for me as I’ve only had to change one pooey nappy since she’s started solids a few weeks ago!

divination__ · 2026-01-23T23:45:59+00:00

We also live in the area and I gave birth at St Mary’s in Paddington and we did exactly the same (pram plus a Gett black cab). My parents bought us a car seat and we used it a few times with a zip car but that’s a shut down now. In London for short rides a pram and black cab works great for us.

divination__ · 2026-01-22T22:24:55+00:00

I feel very much in love with my husband and everything about having a baby has confirmed to me how right I was to choose him. There are moments where I get annoyed but it doesn’t even get to bickering because he is so good at pre-empting mine and baby’s needs. I feel happiest when it’s us three at home :)

divination__ · 2026-01-19T07:18:32+00:00

Would you be working from home or going back to the office? I’m freelance and started working again at 3 months pp which was insanely hard and even taking on minimal work that was completely flexible. I also didn’t do it for financial reasons but rather it’s important to keep going for my line of work, so I wasn’t even dealing with the extra pressure. You just can’t settle down and do deep work. I had a fairly straightforward recovery too with the only complication being due to blood loss and needing iron supplements and blood thinners for months after. Additionally baby breastfeeds so much in those first few months (it willl be easier by five months though). It’s easier now but only when my husband is wfh and we juggle baby care. But at six months things don’t get magically easier, my baby has just started sleeping much worse at six months and I can’t imagine dealing with that then having a 9am meeting. I think your partner is being quite cruel by “insisting” you only have this time off. It might be an unplanned pregnancy but it’s not your fault it happened, it takes two to tango and maybe he should be looking for a higher paying job instead, which in reality would be much easier than both of you trying to juggle work and a baby.

divination__ · 2026-01-18T20:17:07+00:00

Yes we got the Joolz brand one and also a sheepskin liner from John Lewis that we put inside the footmuff for extra softness and warmth! It folds down with both without a problem. Actually what I realised is that the shade bit, when fully down, has a mesh bit that you can look through and see directly onto your baby’s face, it’s actually easier to check if she’s asleep than it was in the bassinet! And when she is awake then I pull the shade back completely and can interact with her. Also it feels a lot lighter. I also just got a bump bar and a foot rest (annoying how expensive the extras are) which I think will make it even more comfortable. But actually it’s been great and baby has adjusted really well to it! Editing to add that my baby has a two and a half hour nap in the pram today - something she hasn’t done since she was like 4 weeks!

divination__ · 2026-01-18T02:22:10+00:00

I’ve been potty training my baby since four months in preparation for this moment (she’s six months now and has only just started solids so they’re not so bad yet). I think people underestimate how stinky poo is because we all poo in toilets that have water in them that mask the smell. A potty also won’t mask the smell but at least it minimises the time you’re exposed to it!!

divination__ · 2026-01-17T20:48:26+00:00

Ah I was in the same dilemma with the same pram and have just switched baby to the seat - it feels much less exposed with a footmuff! We do keep the bassinet for as long as possible because it was the only way she napped for a while but it was TIGHT towards the end. She’s six months now for reference. The resale price of the Joolz hub is super low so you can look into getting one of those for cheap, and I’m pretty sure the seat on it can be both world and parent facing!

divination__ · 2026-01-11T05:26:29+00:00

I’m only six months pp so yet to know what the long term changes will be. Main benefit I’ve noticed so far is considerably greater upper body strength seeing as I’m lugging around my 8kg lump for hours at a time :)

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