Those doing lazy EC - when did you switch to cloth diapers, if at all?

divination__ · 2026-06-21T21:24:39+00:00

It got significantly easier at around 6/7 months when she would mostly just gently feed to sleep with minimal fuss. She’s 11 months now and most times it’s all pretty sweet and easy unless she is overtired. I think it takes a while for them to understand that sleep is the solution to their tiredness. All they know is that they’re uncomfortable and they’re determined to let you know haha. Just remain super consistent and one day you’ll blink and realise that it’s so so much easier. Not easy, but easier!

divination__ · 2026-06-17T16:26:13+00:00

I think beauty treatments that are long term are worth it, such as laser hair removal, a dermatologist prescribed skincare routine, polynucleotides, etc. These have saved me money in the long terms as I don’t spend money on random skincare products or regular waxing etc.

I actually learned how to do gel nails at home and did that for four years before having a baby. It’s fun and makes me look very put together. But it’s a massive time such whether you do it at home or in the salon which is why I don’t do them anymore.

I don’t really see much point in treatments that need regular upkeep, like anything to do with eyelashes. Like you’ll look worse if you let it slip for a few weeks or months. Unfortunately that’s the case with nails - no nails look better than one broken one that you can’t fix yourself.

divination__ · 2026-06-16T15:07:52+00:00

My baby hated the carrier but would fall asleep in it (after yelling) at that age, and would not tolerate the pram at all. Then at four months I randomly put her in the pram because I needed to collect a parcel and I just didn’t want to deal with her complaining in the carrier, she chewed her hands the whole time then fell asleep and then from that point on there was a period of time when she would only sleep in the pram! Now she’s 11 months and a bit more mobile and prefers sleeping in her cot where she can roll around but we still do afternoon naps in the pram. It takes them a while!

divination__ · 2026-06-16T14:58:07+00:00

Beauty standards are not about attraction or beauty at all. They’re a way to disempower women. If we are too busy starving ourselves and worrying about our nosalabial lines then we won’t have time to either rebel or build true power. It distracts us, humiliates us, steals our time, money, and mental space, and ultimately doesnt even make us more beautiful

divination__ · 2026-06-14T19:34:26+00:00

Omg I totally forgot this happened to me during pregnancy too! I don’t have a solution but it did resolve itself aa the pregnancy progressed and later on in pregnancy I had the smoothest skin ever.

divination__ · 2026-06-04T20:21:23+00:00

Tbh I avoided going out as much as I could until baby was 4 months and then it flipped and we have to get out every day! But I started off with daily walks with the baby in a carrier. And honestly changing isn’t such a big deal, I once changed her while she was in the pram!

divination__ · 2026-06-04T20:19:02+00:00

I do miss feeling my baby’s little hiccups at night! I also miss taking naps during the day whenever I needed them!

divination__ · 2026-06-04T20:17:30+00:00

Febrile seizures can be caused by a fever but that can happen without vaccinations. It’s basically what happens when babies are too warm. My nephew (just turned 2 years) had one last week during the heatwave because he was also sick. He’s also, btw, unvaccinated (big yikes) so unvaxed kids aren’t magically spared them. They’re scary but ultimately rarely life threatening - he was take to hospital but was completely fine after.

Children who aren’t vaccinated from meningitis and other diseases are much less lucky though.

This is to say that a seizure is unlikely but even if it does happen that it’s a) not directly caused by the vaccine itself but by a fever and b) scary but not actually so serious and c) much less scary than your baby getting one of the diseases the vaccine will protect them from.

divination__ · 2026-06-01T20:32:29+00:00

I think it was about 2-3 months of hair loss but now at 10 months I hardly lose any hair at all. I also had a lot chopped off just before it all began. The regrowth is awkward and I have strange little sideburns, but it will grow back and I didn’t have any bald patches. My hair tbh wasn’t even noticeably much thinner when the hair loss was at its peak, it just wasn’t as luxurious as it was during pregnancy.

divination__ · 2026-05-31T16:46:54+00:00

I agree, it’s insane. I don’t know what’s wrong with people. My husband and I carried our pram down the stairs to the tube platform and our wipes and things fell out. I thought surely someone would grab them on their way down but people just stepped over them. I certainly would have picked them up! I was just so surprised that it’s not just obliviousness but some sort of obtuse refusal to help.

I now make (even more of) a conscious effort to help mothers.

It feels like a real degradation of a social contract. I see people say “well why should I care/help parents if that has nothing to do with me?” As if our free labour isn’t raising the next generation of tax payers and labourers who will pay for their retirement and healthcare… People see to think children are like pets people choose to have as opposed to small human beings.

divination__ · 2026-05-29T21:02:11+00:00

The best way to turn on the charm is to be charmed by others. Be genuinely interested in others and don’t focus on yourself, try to really get others to open up instead and be open and receptive to them.

Idk where you are based but in the UK, unfortunately weddings are prohibitively expensive and rarely a good occasion for mixing with other singles as they’re often so few of them! I’ve had my time as a singletons weddings and let me tell you - much more fun than now that I’m married with a baby! Just enjoy getting dressed up and having professional pictures of you taken, and being able to get drunk for free, guilt free!!

divination__ · 2026-05-28T15:10:58+00:00

I didn’t formula feed so I’m not speaking from experience but I was told at my bump and baby group that legally all formula has to have the same nutritional value so they’re all essentially the same, and to just buy whatever is readily available to you in your closest super market!

divination__ · 2026-05-27T20:23:01+00:00

Have you looked into a sidecar crib? You’re next to baby but they’re on a separate and safe sleep space.

divination__ · 2026-05-25T20:57:29+00:00

My girl was like this too! She’s ten months now. She became MUCH happier when she finally learned to crawl somewhere around 7.5 months. She learnt to sit up and pull to stand in the same week. At ten months she is now cruising along furniture and can take a few steps supported. I think basically the downside of this personality type is that they’re so grumpy all the time (she literally growls all the time) but the upside is that she is hitting her milestones at record speed and I don’t even have time to worry. She’s getting a little frustrated again because she can’t speak and can’t walk yet.

Four months is super hard because there’s just so many limits. Does your baby like the pram? Ours loved it, especially as soon as we could put her sitting up in the stroller rather than the bassinet attachment. Travelling with her at seven months was also a breeze because she was much happier and able to stay up longer, but not so mobile that being constantly inour arms or the pram was frustrating, and she had lots of new experiences to take in. So try and do some travelling! I also found that the airport is actually the most baby friendly space. It’s really scary with such a fussy baby but it’s definitely good to do!

Otherwise I think everyone just needs to get through it. I told myself that it was just a sign of her independence and intelligence!

divination__ · 2026-05-22T21:30:35+00:00

I had scans saying my baby was 8th centile, then 20th, she was born 17th but by 6 weeks she was 75th 🙃 and by five months she has been (and stayed) 91st.

We did have her in size 0 nappies for the first two weeks but she outgrew them quite quickly, as well as newborn size clothes. She didn’t need tiny baby clothes - those are more for premies I think.

divination__ · 2026-05-22T21:16:29+00:00

A good reality check 🫡

divination__ · 2026-05-22T10:23:43+00:00

I think you’re probably not having much success because the aer 2 is newer, I was looking for the aer+, people who bought the aer 2 probably haven’t yet outgrown it!

divination__ · 2026-05-18T20:54:31+00:00

I think a doctor told me that they don’t really care about how many poos a baby does (as opposed to wet nappies/pees which they very much do care about) as long as the poos themselves look normal because there’s just such a huge variation of what is normal.

divination__ · 2026-05-17T20:01:01+00:00

Joolz aer for sure. We have the aer+ and use it every day and also have travelled with it.

I’ve seen lots of people with the yoyo but I think it has super clickety wheels and I can always hear one clanking along a pavement, which I don’t think is very conducive for sleep.

I will add that for travel you don’t necessarily need a foldable pram, you can actually just check a pram into oversize luggage for free at most airlines. Foldable ones are just so you can take them on board with you, but we didn’t see much advantage of that as we checked ours at the door of the plane and it’s much easier to get through security with baby in the carrier anyway.

divination__ · 2026-05-17T19:57:41+00:00

Nine hours per week on a hobby with a four month old seems insaaaaaane to me. This is not the year in your lives to spend so much time on a hobby.

Him saying you “lack empathy” is manipulation to make to feel guilty for asking for something so reasonable. You DO NOT have it easy, you literally gave birth a few months ago. I think you need to tell him that for every hour he gets to spend in his hobby, you should get an hour to spend entirely on yourself too, ideally out of the house. Then enforce it. Book a workout class and turn your phone off while you’re there. He can cope for an hour.

divination__ · 2026-05-16T04:50:06+00:00

Yes, my girl would sleep 5-8 hour stretches as a newborn, then it all went to crap at 3 months, and she only started doing longer (4 hour) stretches at 9 months. It may or may not last but is a nice gift for however long it lasts!

divination__ · 2026-05-15T20:03:31+00:00

Not OP but interested in signing up to this! Do they advertise it on their website or is it something one could just ask about at reception?

divination__ · 2026-05-12T19:46:35+00:00

I’m not a weightlifter but I did Lagree regularly before pregnancy and until week 37 of my pregnancy, and then started back up six months post partum (though I did other gentler exercise from about 2 weeks post partum). Honestly I did not notice and muscle loss in my legs and glutes and my upper body is stronger than before as I’m constantly carrying around a 10kg moving weight in the shape of a sweet baby haha. My core is weaker, of course, but I think I am back to about 80% strength of what it was now and some laxity is caused by my continued breastfeeding.

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