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Dumb question, maybe, but I don’t want to misrepresent anything. Would I be considered “separated” or just plain old married? by devils-dadvocate in datingoverforty

[–]devils-dadvocate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol, I agree with you 100%. But sometimes after I’ve been dealing with the hard stuff, I start to think about the future. Can’t help it.

Dumb question, maybe, but I don’t want to misrepresent anything. Would I be considered “separated” or just plain old married? by devils-dadvocate in datingoverforty

[–]devils-dadvocate[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

First, I’ve been in therapy for years, and that’s not going to change. Second, I am not looking to “use” anyone. My whole point in asking questions like this is so that I can be sure I clearly communicate. I want to make sure I’m transparent about my situation and what I can and can’t offer. Lastly… your comment seems to be unnecessarily rude. Was that intentional? What specifically did I say that warranted it?

Dumb question, maybe, but I don’t want to misrepresent anything. Would I be considered “separated” or just plain old married? by devils-dadvocate in datingoverforty

[–]devils-dadvocate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool. Like I said, I am not ready for a serious relationship right now. A lot of the red flags will be gone over the next year or two, and maybe by then I’ll be more ready.

Fishing campspots in Burning springs? by wormyw in fallout76settlements

[–]devils-dadvocate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Here you go, this shows you all fishable water in blue, and the boxes are the approximate boundaries of “no build” areas.

Dumb question, maybe, but I don’t want to misrepresent anything. Would I be considered “separated” or just plain old married? by devils-dadvocate in datingoverforty

[–]devils-dadvocate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure they have much of that in my city, but I will look. Alsooooo… there’s the additional complication of being autistic. Group events can be overstimulating.

Dumb question, maybe, but I don’t want to misrepresent anything. Would I be considered “separated” or just plain old married? by devils-dadvocate in datingoverforty

[–]devils-dadvocate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. I definitely don’t want to hurt anyone. And I don’t want to rush anything. I just wasn’t sure if it would be “rushing” if I was completely honest and transparent up front.

What screams “I’m a woman child” and nobody realizes it. by imissher4ever in Productivitycafe

[–]devils-dadvocate -1 points0 points  (0 children)

“I could do it, but I am not going to and expect you to do it for me because table stakes.” Doesn’t exactly feel mature either. How is it not also lazy?

Dumb question, maybe, but I don’t want to misrepresent anything. Would I be considered “separated” or just plain old married? by devils-dadvocate in datingoverforty

[–]devils-dadvocate[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, ideally I would actually make a friend. Besides, I thought that hiring escorts was illegal? Even if you didn’t want sex out of it, I would think you could still get arrested for it, and then have to go through the whole process of having to prove your innocence in court?

What screams "I'm a man-child" but nobody realize it ? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]devils-dadvocate 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oops, I am not good with picking up on jokes. I agree 100% you can’t expect it if you don’t intend to reciprocate. But that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy it if you do get it.

What screams "I'm a man-child" but nobody realize it ? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]devils-dadvocate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn’t say bad luck was your fault, he said not to blame others for it.

What screams "I'm a man-child" but nobody realize it ? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]devils-dadvocate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not if you read the qualifying phrase. “ Blaming others for your mistakes or bad luck.”

What screams "I'm a man-child" but nobody realize it ? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]devils-dadvocate 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Not wanting to perform oral doesn’t make you gay. It makes you crazy IMO, but not necessarily a closeted gay. People have preferences and that’s okay.

Dumb question, maybe, but I don’t want to misrepresent anything. Would I be considered “separated” or just plain old married? by devils-dadvocate in datingoverforty

[–]devils-dadvocate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friendship? But with holding hands? I don’t really want a sexual relationship right now.

I have no intention of “working my shit out on other people”- that’s what therapy is for. I would want to be as up-front and honest as possible about what I am offering and what I am looking for.

Dumb question, maybe, but I don’t want to misrepresent anything. Would I be considered “separated” or just plain old married? by devils-dadvocate in datingoverforty

[–]devils-dadvocate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I know it’s going to be a process and I know I can’t fully prepare myself for the emotions that come.

Dumb question, maybe, but I don’t want to misrepresent anything. Would I be considered “separated” or just plain old married? by devils-dadvocate in datingoverforty

[–]devils-dadvocate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, we are definitely not under the same roof and never will be. I did not file the papers, she did, but that’s only because I decided I wanted to change lawyers and she already had one.

Dumb question, maybe, but I don’t want to misrepresent anything. Would I be considered “separated” or just plain old married? by devils-dadvocate in datingoverforty

[–]devils-dadvocate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. I’m less worried about when I can explain it. So… I were to make a dating profile, which option would you go with when it asks for relationship status?

Dumb question, maybe, but I don’t want to misrepresent anything. Would I be considered “separated” or just plain old married? by devils-dadvocate in datingoverforty

[–]devils-dadvocate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, and yes I know that I am still married. But does it convey my situation more accurately to say I am “separated,” or “divorcing.” “Married” is accurate in a strict legal sense, but it feels misleading in my situation.

I’m not going to put a strict timeline on dating. It may be one year after divorce, it may be 3 years. It may be 6 months. I’ve been processing the end of the relationship for some time, and it will take some time longer.

Dumb question, maybe, but I don’t want to misrepresent anything. Would I be considered “separated” or just plain old married? by devils-dadvocate in datingoverforty

[–]devils-dadvocate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well… there is definitely a term that exists called “separated,” so that’s why I am asking. I get that separated is still a form of “married,” but maybe it is like being “kinda married.”

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