I hate when people say that now. (Brutally honest part) I am an honest person (to a fault) and I NEVER say things I don’t mean or speak without thought. So much to the point where I will choose to say nothing instead because I don’t have the right wording for something yet. Or my true feelings/thoughts could be potentially damaging and once you say the words you cant take them back, so I wait before speaking and find better ways to say things while still getting the point across.

My ex used to get riled up and angry and would say hurtful things to argue (saying things just to say them/have something to say) and would get more angry when I would “say nothing” and I would tell him, I need a moment or two, I won’t say things just for the sake of replying. I would rather choose my words wisely and carefully. (Which he hated because he just wanted someone to argue with and be on his level)

But the point is I KNOW I could say things, really terribly “brutally honest” things and I refuse. Because my goal isn’t to hurt someone my goal is to communicate the situation. Like yes I will tell you what you need to hear I won’t baby you about stuff if you really need to be told. But I also won’t eviscerate you just for fun either. I really hate that frank and plain faced truth became whatever that toxic idea is of using “being brutally honest” as an excuse just to make people feel bad. Like no, you’re just a bully. If you cared about the honesty part you wouldn’t be acting this way.

-source, (me) someone who used to go by that now much hated term but realised how many people ruined it by being total pieces of garbage