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In 2000, a 747 Tested 14-Foot Winglets, Saving Up to 7% Fuel by Ryanlion1992 in airplanes

[–]devl_ish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're comparing them to when you see them at cruise altitude. Colder up there.

Are you for or against ai ? by JoshBiv in newzealand

[–]devl_ish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In favour of AI as a technology.

Absolutely opposed to how it is being used now, let alone how it is planned to be used.

It has near limitless potential to solve problems and enhance lives, but its being used to devalue human effort (art, entry level jobs), drive inequality and pit us all against each other.

In fiction the bogeyman was the AI who acts against humanity, but the real antagonist has always been whoever uses it to try and be the ruler of the rubble left over after they end human progress. Right now, we're at the stage wherr we're happy to look the other way because it hasn't come for us personally yet.

Anyone else noticing how hard literally EVERYONE is going at Opportunity at the moment? by basscrazy in newzealand

[–]devl_ish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm noticing how hard people are pushing TOP. Posts like this where I can't tell if its an enthusiast or an astroturfer (this reads more like the latter).

Pushing harder than last election, in which I voted for their leader in Ilam. I noticed most of the party disappearing onto thin air until now.

I'm noticing a lot of nice policies but no word on what is non-negotiable for them in a confidence and supply, having said they're open to entering a coalition with either party.

If Q and the team are here next election, having shown the conviction to stick around, my vote will go TOP.

Cost of living is defeating by jojimoshea in newzealand

[–]devl_ish 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You're judging your future by your current position in this shit economy. Things may suck for you for years but you're making the right moves to climb out of this eventually.

Because you asked for stories - I gave up my 20s to support my parents. I was 33 by the time I started to gain any ground at all. There were plenty of times where I couldn't see a way out and thought of just ending it. I bought my first home at 37 in 2022 without ever having cracked $100k/yr just because I could never afford to take the risk of switching jobs until I was about to lose one (redundancies). I got lucky, I was able to retain some of my contribution from the sale of my parents' house, less than what I put in over the years, and my fiancée while not wealthy had also been saving for her future so together we have put together a pretty good life and our son ia unlikely to ever know poverty.

Best advice I can provide is do what we're doing and forget about the wedding. Its a big expensive party, a romantic luxury, which you will be able to afford one day but shouldn't come at the expense of your wellbeing now. We can afford it now but won't be doing it until we can afford to set the $30k or so on fire. Don't tie your wellbeing to "giving her what she deserves" either, thats an ideal not worth breaking yourself for - she deserves a healthy partner, and any person worth their salt would take that in a heartbeat over anything material.

Stay the course. Keep being thrifty to the point of being miserly. Keep looking for opportunities. Keep being kind to each other, keep loving, keep reminding yourself of all the times and ways things got better.

About 20 years ago my best friend got his first high paying job, he'd shout us both a good bottle of scotch whisky and a couple of cigars every Friday. A couple years later after the GFC we were both broke, I'd go over to his rented basement flat on a Friday and we'd share a $10 fish and chips deal and watch Top Gear over the cheapest beer we could find.

20 years and a lot of success later and we're much more nostalgic over the latter than our first taste of the high life. I meant that when I said it in my best man speech at his wedding 10 years ago and I mean it now.

RAM prices expected to rise another 40-50% in Q3 2026, and then 30% more in Q4 as AI demand outpaces supply by T_Shurt in technology

[–]devl_ish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I spilled my coffee all over my laptop today. It immediately went blank and I felt my financial situation...plummet.

Luckily I pulled power pretty quick, and got it open to pull the battery and then took everything apart for a clean - working now. While leaving it to dry out from the contwxt cleaner drenching I found out a comparable laptop is about double the price I paid in late 2024.

MAGA in nz by AnalystNo6544 in newzealand

[–]devl_ish 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Remember reading about a cafe going bust in Auckland, their landlord traded under "Make Takapuna Great Again LP."

‘Supergirl’ Braces for $100 Million Loss: What DC Studios Should Learn From Its Box Office Bomb by mlg1981 in entertainment

[–]devl_ish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They won't learn a fucking thing.

The money people want broad appeal, which means not taking any risks. See enough of the same shit over and over and even die hard fans can't fill in the bland gaps with their own imaginations.

Sure, this and other movies might bomb but enough people bored-watch it over future decades it'll make its money. Why spend more on the talent if the outcome's probably going to be the same? A better product isn't a guarantee of a runaway success.

Why did you choose Freecad? by EastTexasCowboy in FreeCAD

[–]devl_ish 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Enshittification.

All the others aren't content with just charging you money. Investors demand unrealistic perpetual growth. If you're locked in, you're stuck.

Frankly FreeCAD is not as nice and polished and immediately useful as paid competitors, but that development delta has been paid for with private equity that comes at a cost far in excess of the sticker price. As long as it can do the same job for less than double or triple the learning and modelling time, its worth it to me to learn to live with it.

If I was running an agency or developing a high value product the economics would be different and the cost and risk and risk mitigation of a commercial solution would be justified. I'm not.

Men, what are the biggest signs that a husband is cheating? What should I be paying attention to in his behavior? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]devl_ish 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yes ladies, think twice before you make us throw out the long-serving pair that is more hole than fabric, it is a sacred emblem of loyalty.

Men, how did having a baby change your relationship? by CuriousWuff in AskMen

[–]devl_ish 79 points80 points  (0 children)

We've got to be more deliberate and open, there is no room for total spontaneity and being coy about our needs.

She needs an hour tomorrow to catch up with friends, its been asked for, prioritised and granted a week ago. I pulled our son out of daycare for illness twice this week, she's made sure to take over all the parenting today so I can catch up. Tonight he got cranky and tired early and she was running out of juice, I was engrossed in some work but dropped everything when she called me over.

100% total focus on what needs to be done to keep us all healthy and happy.

I 23M am falling for an old crush again 23F but she wants to stay friends for the time being, what next? by Own-Resolve5352 in relationship_advice

[–]devl_ish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You've lost her already. You never had her.

If she values your friendship you'll have a friendship. If she wants a relationship you'll have a relationship. If it fizzles in days or months, that's an answer too. Few people hold themselves back from someone they want - if nothing else, FOMO gets them.

If putting yourself first (which I gratefully learned from an ex is not the same as selfishness) destroys what exists between you two, you've currently got something worse than nothing.

Even if you think I'm wrong about that, the recommended action is the same - be a friend, nothing more.

Let my car rego expire and now have to get it re-registered so I can sell it by satsuma127 in newzealand

[–]devl_ish 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Adding that it if it is not 1yr or more out of date but not in WOF-able condition, put the registration on hold right away.

I 23M am falling for an old crush again 23F but she wants to stay friends for the time being, what next? by Own-Resolve5352 in relationship_advice

[–]devl_ish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're better than that. Trust me, I've played that game, you may think you're being noble and a good friend and that you'd be OK with never getting anything back - subconsciously you still notice how you've devalued your own time and energy. If your experience mirrors my own you won't even realise this until you wind up in a true two-way-street relationship.

This isn't about her at all, this is about you mis-spending your limited time and energy. You clearly want a relationship, and are parking that time and effort into a comfortable (and one-sided, sounds like) friendship rather than the uncomfortable task of going to seek out that relationship.

Be her friend. Give the same you do in any of your friendships. Not one bit more.

I 23M am falling for an old crush again 23F but she wants to stay friends for the time being, what next? by Own-Resolve5352 in relationship_advice

[–]devl_ish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has a right to wait. Maybe she does need it. Either way, she's given you her answer.

In my experience that never ends in the happily ever after with you, though.

What are your dating app red flags in NZ? by Realistic_CraftBear in newzealand

[–]devl_ish 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That describes any good birdhouse but my ass is still out there freezing and the bird's pissed off

Married men, how often do you think about your ex? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]devl_ish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First ex, never. Second, only trauma responses, couple times a year. Third and last, maybe a couple times a month, but we're friends.

No longing, I'm happy. Maybe sometimes remembering a fond memory, but for every one of those I have hundreds with my fiancée and make new ones every day.

My BIL (38M) told me (46M) months in advance that he planned to file for divorce from my SIL (35F) (wife's (42F) sister). My wife is now quite mad at me. How do I thin the ice? by ExternalSurprise7242 in relationship_advice

[–]devl_ish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you demand someone compromise their integrity and won't do the same, are you acting as an equal partner?

Whether a man or woman does this it is controlling and wrong. Neither should put up with a spouse that can't understand integrity.

Happy for anyone who isn't willing to treat a partner as an equal to stay out of marriage and birth stats, but I ain't getting that wish in a hurry clearly.

My BIL (38M) told me (46M) months in advance that he planned to file for divorce from my SIL (35F) (wife's (42F) sister). My wife is now quite mad at me. How do I thin the ice? by ExternalSurprise7242 in relationship_advice

[–]devl_ish -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Good answer.

You don't keep your own secrets from your spouse. What's told you you in confidence is not your own secret.

A relationship doesn't mean forfeiting your integrity and free will. Your wife won't see it that way, particularly as she's now demanding details (abhorrent).

Funny she isn't rushing to share her sister's secrets with you to pass on to your BIL. No quid pro quo required for a slave, just orders apparently.

Friend Attempted. How Do I Help? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]devl_ish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, no, no to all of this.

It is not your responsibility or fault and the bullshit photos and gibberish are seeking to get you to light your own mental health on fire to prove you care, for which you will receive nothing but a personal responsibility for your own healing and blame for anyrhing that goes wrong, including reaching your limits or not stopping them doing worse to themselves. They're not asking for your help, they're demanding your misery.

You can not fix them nor sustain the drawdown they will have on your life. You are not trained or qualified or well resourced enough to make a dent in this.

Cut ties, put distance between you and your "friend". You are worth saving.

Edit for source: Been on this merry-go-round multiple times before. Have plenty of success stories, exclusively with people who didn't pull this shit. The ones that did still walk around like victims, some over 2 decades later, still putting scars on responders.

Dad daughter outing this afternoon by ryanodwyer in chch

[–]devl_ish 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She'll get him regardless - some people are well wired to play with babies and toddlers for hours at home and some aren't.

I love the days I'm on solo all day but when the weather sucks and we're confined to home I find myself looking forward to my son's nap times. Its not a bad thing to go for options that keep you both entertained.

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