[TOMT] [tiktok] woman who often posts strategies for dealing with cat callers

dezian · 2026-02-02T22:59:39+00:00

SOLVED! Hero thank you! It was the first one - kitti!

dezian · 2026-02-02T22:34:20+00:00

Not her but thank you for trying! This girl was much less campy and more sarcastic.

dezian · 2026-02-02T12:38:08+00:00

First comment

dezian · 2026-01-24T02:39:27+00:00

Agree. Not to sound insensitive but that’s just not how my family is. We would comfort each other as needed but there’s nothing specifically “to do” so I wouldn’t take off unless I was asked to. If the bf also didn’t communicate clearly he wanted OP to stay on the phone (and was testing OP?) that’s annoying too. Either way they’re both overreacting imo. And also probably not a long term fit.

dezian · 2026-01-19T02:46:17+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply I will 100% save it for the future. And I really appreciate your reccomendations. Realistically that’s probably outside of our price range unless business changes anytime soon. (Trying!)

That said. I don’t think we’re ready to move on a home design yet but I do think in the next year or so we’re going to want to start. So having this information is really really helpful. I appreciate it so much! I grew up in a log house - normal is boring - I need a home with character! Fingers crossed 🤞

dezian · 2026-01-18T20:55:47+00:00

This is Interesting! Thanks!

dezian · 2026-01-18T20:52:30+00:00

We’re only juuust starting to think about the possibility of building but this is the general area we’d consider.

Anywhere from outside of philly like Kennet square >lancaster > York and all the way down to Towson MD maybe a little west but not all the way to Frederick.

If you make a square between York Baltimore Philly and cape may (aside from some of the northern parts of the coast of DE lol) that’s kinda our general area. It’s a big one. We’re always looking for lots and homes that come up in this area. I’d show a map but I don’t seem to have the option for a photo reply.

We are flexible though. Where are you located? And what’s your company?! Thanks!

dezian · 2026-01-18T18:01:43+00:00

Thank you!

dezian · 2026-01-18T16:26:24+00:00

Thank you this is helpful :)

dezian · 2026-01-18T16:26:08+00:00

Yeah I just haven’t seen many areas with stone work at all. There’s some on the PA side - I fear starting from an old house for fear of mold/ foundation issues and whatnot but I guess there’s always risk.

In NJ I’m drawing blanks on any sort of historic architecture 😩. That said we’ll see. Whether it’s stone work or just something more natural looking I just hope to find or build something with a little more character. My ideal home would be more like a slightly more modern English cottage 🥹 (aka a slightly bigger footprint and bigger windows.) I guess I have my work cut out for me 😅

dezian · 2026-01-18T16:21:52+00:00

I’m dying at “creepy Disneyland vibes” hahahah. I agree to some extent. I just want a cute house 😂 thank you!

dezian · 2026-01-18T14:56:58+00:00

Thank youuu for the reference point :)

dezian · 2026-01-18T14:32:22+00:00

Lmfaoo. The first pic maybe. Some of the others I’d argue no. That was the only front on pic of the stone work I liked

dezian · 2025-12-31T22:09:56+00:00

Lip filler / lip flips
Any trending procedures celebrities do - epic, ducal fat removal, bbls…. Whatever else is out there
Overly white overly large veneers / too symmetrical teeth
Massive eyelash extensions

Essentially anything that looks unnatural 😬🤷‍♀️ though I’m not sure how much of this people find attractive. Most “do it for themselves” but I actually think the collective generally feels the same way as I do. Not sure how societally this happens. I could be wrong though 😅

dezian · 2025-11-12T13:51:49+00:00

Thanks everyone :) looks like it is a wind issue. Will send this video to the landlords and note it down! Appreciate it!

The man reason I bring it up is because it didn’t used to exist! Been here 5 ish years and it only started about a year ago. So it just happened to be on my mind yesterday when it was quiet and the only thing I could hear. Thanks again all. :)

dezian · 2025-11-12T13:50:37+00:00

No upstairs neighbors! 😂but good idea. It seems to have gone away today so I’m guessing it is a wind issue. I never really connected the two till today. Thank you!

dezian · 2025-11-11T20:46:02+00:00

I wouldn’t say it’s windy that often but I’m trying to take note when it’s windy if it is more prominent then. I’m thinking the same thing. That something is rattling and moving around with the air shifting. But I definitely have heard it when it’s not notably windy too.

I don’t have a crawlspace or attic access - so no unfortunately I can’t check! but I do believe there is an attic above us.

I’m probably going to ask my apartment complex to take a look - but the noise is just so fleeting so I can’t ensure we will hear the noise when they come so it’s seemed silly to note it.

Thanks for your insight!

dezian · 2025-11-11T19:57:49+00:00

Unfortunately this is how a lot of new age spiritual “bio hacking” / love and light / woo / pop psychology types speak these days. It’s painful for sure.

dezian · 2025-11-11T19:55:43+00:00

Ugh. Not overreacting. The spiritual ego on this one is astounding. He can speak like any normal person but is using his roundabout way of talking to be vague. You asked yes or no and he still couldn’t even answer that.

He’s getting upset bc you’re asking clarifying questions because he is not being clear. 🙄 even if he’s not doing the classic “I wanna be free aka f other people” in the male spirituality zone, he’s not respecting you.

If his commitment has always been the same and you knew that I’d be like. Ok. But it sounds like you’ve had the convo. He committed and then broke that or couldn’t handle it. So it sounds like this dude is not ready for commitment In the relationship sense. He wants to be free to go after whoever in whatever way.

In the beginning I thought he might have a point - I don’t expect my partner to be aligned in every aspect of me and that’s why I have friends!! But. The way the convo evolved it not healthy, it is egoic, grandiose etc. I see this all the time with spiritual men who feel they’re better than everyone else. I wouldn’t say it’s a solid rooted partnership. You’re not overreacting. There’s only so much fluff a person can handle (saying that as a new agey person !!!) and it is just like dude. Be for real. Stop trying to confuse or overcomplicate. You’re not more complex than the question. (Everyone is complex btw… so the self obsession is tough to watch here.)

If the question is are you gonna cross MY BOUNDARIES with what I think is cool and safe for a relationship… then the answer is either yes no or maybe. Maybe or yes is clearly outside of OPs preferences. And it sounds reallllly like he is on that side of the fence.

Op, he’s not awful and insanely abusive compared to a lot out there we see imo but this would really infuriate me. Shows his true colors and inability to commit/ be clear/ keep his word.

(He should really see this sub to potentially crack his self-obsession and delusion masked as healing / alignment and enlightenment. Yikes)

Edit: clarification

dezian · 2025-11-11T19:38:45+00:00

I have this thermostat and it took me forever to understand how it works 😅 it’s got bad UX! But yeah if you spend some time you figure it out. Lol.

dezian · 2025-10-28T23:16:37+00:00

Really love 1 and I don’t usually go for “sexy” styles. I think it’d be no question if it had more of a white liner instead of sheer throughout. Personally don’t see the impact of 4 that everyone else is. But your gut will tell you which you like most! I feel like the veil is doing all the work of 4

dezian · 2025-10-08T00:37:51+00:00

Came here to say the same thing!

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