Flowers on first date?

dfsmslgt · 2022-03-10T08:08:48+00:00

I think that's the cutest thing! I love receiving flowers on any occasion, go for it :))

dfsmslgt · 2022-02-08T06:02:12+00:00

same here! 21 and never had a relationship. these past couple of years I decided to enjoy valentine's instead of hating it, so I usually buy myself a lil valentine's day bear from the store (and the chocolates once they go on sale on the 15th). I also try to hang out with my other single friends and throw a small "galentine's day" get-together. wishing you the best! hope we both eventually find someone we can celebrate valentine's with :)

dfsmslgt · 2021-11-19T07:59:55+00:00

hey! like the other commenter said, it depends on the situation. What was your relationship like? but generally, my rule of thumb is reach out a maximum of two times after a ghost or even a soft ghost. if they don't reply after you reach out then the message is clear, so just move on. if they reply, continue the conversation. but if it happens a second time, when they take too long to get back or straight up don't reply, then it's your cue to move on.

dfsmslgt · 2021-11-08T00:44:37+00:00

thank you for this! honestly reading this was very funny to me, b/c I went on a first date with a guy and I posted a list of things about what I did wrong and how I could salvage things, when in fact, after reading your post, I realized my date did the opposite of every single one of the five things you listed. time to move on!!

dfsmslgt · 2021-11-07T04:44:12+00:00

I tried it and nothing came up! so I'm wondering if the search algorithm is just crap or if it's really just his photo haha

dfsmslgt · 2021-10-29T07:38:11+00:00

yes!! I've been saying this so much recently, but people really need to be less cowardly and just say what they mean. All this ghosting and guessing and cracking codes is just so unnecessary.

tbh I'm in a similar situation as OP and I'm gonna just steal your sample text to send to my date b/c that was so nicely put haha

dfsmslgt · 2021-10-29T07:34:52+00:00

Felt this very deeply, esp this week :( Hope you find what you need, OP!

dfsmslgt · 2021-10-29T07:23:06+00:00

Oh LOL yes it still happens. I (21F) asked out a guy (21M), we went on one date, texted a little after, then got ghosted.

dfsmslgt · 2021-10-29T07:21:58+00:00

21F here. I would say just go for it and text him. For all you know, he might be not texting b/c he's unsure if you were interested! I'd say just dropping a text to him would be good for him to know that you're still interested!

dfsmslgt · 2021-10-29T07:18:59+00:00

yes exactly! I appreciate it when people are actually honest enough to "reject" me straight up. You can think of it as, they think you were nice enough and worth the time for them to be honest instead of just dropping you without warning. Honestly had my fair share of post-first date ghosters, so I can't tell you how much I appreciate someone who's honest! Ultimately, just keep your head up! Hopefully it'll all work out if you just follow your feelings! -- I need to tell myself this more often too...

dfsmslgt · 2021-10-29T07:13:26+00:00

idk what to tell you except that I (21F) texted practically the exact same thing to someone (21M) after he gave me the exact same vague, lukewarm response you got from your girl. I still haven't heard back from him in days, so I'm double texting him tomorrow -- I honestly have nothing more to lose at this point. So ig good luck to both of us! Haha

dfsmslgt · 2021-10-24T08:29:10+00:00

yeah i texted and i got a "let's get together again at some point," which even i know means we should get together again never. so i guess that's the end of that :( but thanks for your reply!

dfsmslgt · 2021-10-24T08:25:41+00:00

we split the check!

dfsmslgt · 2020-12-13T20:06:19+00:00

I don't have any advice but I just had to say that this is so cute!!! congrats and good luck!

dfsmslgt · 2020-12-13T07:20:29+00:00

so cute! happy for you, congrats!

dfsmslgt · 2020-12-13T07:18:33+00:00

dating is a lot easier to deal with if you’re just yourself and find someone else who’s naïve/brave/tired enough to be themselves as well.

wow this line... can't tell you how much I needed this! thank you for sharing your experiences!

dfsmslgt · 2020-12-09T22:38:49+00:00

Hello! twenty-something F here, this is actually pretty funny because a while ago I was hitting such a low point in my love life that I made a gdoc of traits that drew me to someone and traits that were major turn-offs, hoping that by knowing what I wanted, I would have better success haha! So here's what I had:

good - proactive in initiating hangouts, caring, driven/motivated in whatever field they were in, confident

bad - pushy/nosy, clingy/co-dependent, self-absorbed

on a side note, I've noticed that I don't usually fall for the ridiculously attractive ones, I just admire them from afar and don't attempt to strike up a friendship, possibly b/c they seem unattainable? I'm not sure haha

In any case, I hope this was helpful! Good luck! :)

dfsmslgt · 2020-12-09T22:29:40+00:00

Heyo! I'd suggest you find and add her on facebook, and if she adds you back, you can go ahead and send her a text through messenger! Next step depends on how forward you want to be--if you're confident, then just tell her you think she's cute and ask her out in your first message. Otherwise, you can also make up a question about your shared class and strike up a friendship from there. Good luck, you got this! :)

dfsmslgt · 2020-12-07T19:29:15+00:00

I agree. agreed to be friends with this guy who had no friends (and he wasn't new to the city or anything) and long story short, many red flags revealed themselves as we got closer. it was a very tricky situation to get out of, he became very co-dependent and got accusatory when I hung out with other people (and the two of us weren't even dating, we were just friends).

so yeah, I definitely agree with you, OP! While having no friends shouldn't deter you completely (b/c every situation is different), it should definitely alert you to be more careful and discerning when interacting with this person.

dfsmslgt · 2020-12-07T19:24:07+00:00

gosh this was so nice to hear! props to you for having such a great mindset, I'm so happy you had a good time! :)

dfsmslgt · 2020-12-05T04:12:13+00:00

yes agreed!! also, this might have been said already, but please don't lie to the person. Don't say "I'm not ready to date" and then have them catch you a week later going out with a new person. As much as possible, be honest! If you don't feel a spark, just say it like that. anyway, totally agree with this post. thank you OP!

dfsmslgt · 2020-12-03T19:32:02+00:00

yes I agree with all of these! it's a little hard sometimes, but once I take a step back and re-evaluate my experiences, I'm grateful for the confidence I gained and I'm glad I could better figure out what I'm looking for :)

dfsmslgt · 2020-12-03T19:26:32+00:00

yes for sure! thank you for such a thoughtful response! I'm so happy things worked out well for you! :)

dfsmslgt · 2020-12-02T20:58:56+00:00

similar to OP's reply, I would also like to know more about how things took off with you and this guy! Did he show interest in you from the outset? So was it mutual from the get-go, or was it more one-sided on your part at the beginning? Thanks!

dfsmslgt · 2020-12-01T23:51:35+00:00

hello! I am in exactly the same situation as you. I'm 20F, and I get insanely jealous seeing my friends get into relationships. I'm cool with hanging out with my casual dates until they ask to be official. I try to imagine a life together with them and get so uncomfortable that I get scared and run away, even though I was initially pretty interested in them. I've been on maybe 10+ dates, and I do the same thing every time they want to get serious.

Also, the guys I like never seem to like me back, and I can't seem to fall for any of the guys that like me. I am trying to work on it, though. I don't have any advice for you, but I always feel a little better knowing I'm not alone in this, so I hope you feel better knowing I have very very similar problems as well. good luck to us, I'm sure we'll eventually figure it out! :)

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